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Hunt for the Secret Hidey Place of Nice Boys

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RKLENSETH

Wednesday, November 23, 2005 5:30 AM

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Originally posted by Barclay:
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Originally posted by Lofwyrr:
I'll tell you where we are. We're driving you home from the bar, drunk, as you cry about the hot guy that 'broke your heart' that night at the bar. We're holding back your hair as you puke. We're sitting at home when you call and say that your date for the night cancelled and can you come over and talk. We're sitting at the bar with you, watching your purse as you go up to the bar or out on the dance floor to hit on the hot guy, trying to get him to buy you drinks. We're waiting for you to realize that we'll treat you well all the time, not just when the hot, or rich, or nice car-having guys are done with you.

We're right in front of you.

Not that I'm bitter or anything

Be wary of rousing the wrath of wizards, for you are flammable and conduct electricity.

You know, I'm not usually into the random threads thing (and don't post all that frequently), but I like to think of myself as an observer of people, and especially relationships, and I think the post I've quoted has got all sorts of smarts to it.

For all interested in a bitter male perspective, visit http://www.intellectualwhores.com which has a wonderful theory. Even if you end up disagreeing with it, it's something to consider. And that's what we're about right?

But I imagine that most of you who are looking for a "nice guy" already have one around. And the fact that he's around, probably means he's interested. You know that whole "When harry Met Sally" thing that men and women can never be friends because if you don't want to have sex with him than he wants to have sex with you? Girls, I've got a news flash, it's absolutely true. Every female friend I have, I would date. Every one who I've had that I've decided it wouldn't be worth dating, I don't talk to any more.

So, when I'm there listening to a female friend talk about her (ex-)boyfriend, I'm taking notes. I'm learning more about her than said boyfriend does. Mainly so that if an opportunity comes up, there I am. And unless the guy is into guys, that's pretty much why guys are friends with girls.

So, where do you go to look for a nice guy? Odds are, you've already got him around. And odds are, he's also willing. You've just got to look around and see him not on the friend ladder, but on the relationship ladder (see link above). The problem isn't of finding guys (it's very easy to say "Why Hasn't a nice guy come along yet?") but rather why haven't you noticed the nice guy who's already there (a lot harder to ask that question). Expand the base of guys you're looking at... heck, for a day, or a week or whatever, size up every guy you meet as potential boyfriend material and see what you come up with (not that you have to act on it), but just to get your thoughts going in that direction.

"You are on the Global Frequency."
http://www.frequencysite.com
http://kfmonkey.blogspot.com]

But then that wouldn't make them a nice guy, would it? They would instead be opportunist bastards. Just saying.

Oh, and play Cantr II at www.cantr.net.

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EST120

Wednesday, November 23, 2005 12:26 PM

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Originally posted by CallMeSerenity:
Persuasion? Because that's my FAVOURITE of all.

But it was probably Sense & Sensibility because that's the only one that I can think of that's been made into a movie that's made it into a theater.

LFO-P&P is short for Pride & Prejudice. We were just being lazy.

Serenity, First Officer of Destiny

I have a live journal: http://www.livejournal.com/users/callmeserenity/

You are correct. Sense and Sensibility. I do not watch it often because I find it simultaneously happy and sad. Still, I enjoy it. I have a decent sized collection of romantic comedies too.

CHRISISALL

Wednesday, November 23, 2005 5:15 PM

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Originally posted by RiverNot:
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Originally posted by chrisisall:
Here's another: watch Somewhere In Time(Christopher Reeve, Jayne Seymour, 1980) with a guy and see if he cries at the end. Any guy that don't cry- hit the ejector button.

Chrisisserious

Somewhere In Time has one of the best movie kisses EVER!

(I think my nice guy would have flunked this test. Hmmm. Think I'll have to rent.)

Naw, give him the dvd, go shopping or whatever, but have a spy-cam on him. With no one around to be strong for, I'll bet he lets loose at least ONE tear....

*interesting film fact: When Jayne Seymour was 'adding' dialogue during her play and directing it to Chris Reeve in the audience, it was actually the writer, Richard Matheson, sitting in for Reeve, at whom she was looking.

Chrisisall, reaching for a tissue hisself

RIVERNOT

Wednesday, November 23, 2005 8:41 PM

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Originally posted by chrisisall:
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Originally posted by RiverNot:
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Here's another: watch Somewhere In Time...Any guy that don't cry- hit the ejector button. Chrisisserious

I think my nice guy would have flunked this test.

Naw, give him the dvd, go shopping or whatever, but have a spy-cam on him. With no one around to be strong for, I'll bet he lets loose at least ONE tear....

Won't work. "Inscrutable" is my fella. However, he will admit to being "moved."

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*interesting film fact: When Jayne Seymour was 'adding' dialogue during her play and directing it to Chris Reeve in the audience, it was actually the writer, Richard Matheson, sitting in for Reeve, at whom she was looking.

Chrisisall, reaching for a tissue hisself

I'd mixed up this bit of trivia with the bit about Reeve seeing the portrait for the first time and was about to call you on it. Oops. Good thing I checked first. Anyway, Matheson was supposedly so moved and upset by the experience, he had to call his wife and return home immediately. That's a nice guy.

Pass the tissue.

CHRISISALL

Wednesday, November 23, 2005 8:49 PM

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Originally posted by RiverNot:

Matheson was supposedly so moved and upset by the experience, he had to call his wife and return home immediately. That's a nice guy.

Pass the tissue.

That I did not know.

Back in 1980 I saw it in the theatre with my then girlfriend, who not only didn't cry, she said afterward that it was 'over-acted' (theatre major), it was then that I knew it would never work between us.

Chrisisall a Matheson fan

RIVERNOT

Wednesday, November 23, 2005 9:02 PM

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Originally posted by chrisisall:
Back in 1980 I saw it in the theatre with my then girlfriend, who not only didn't cry, she said afterward that it was 'over-acted' (theatre major), it was then that I knew it would never work between us.

Chrisisall a Matheson fan

Once upon a time I had a crush on a fella and he took me on my very first date to Close Encounters of the Third Kind (1977). I was, of course, enthralled! (Never worked for me on video. Only the big screen for that one.) He actually said something like, "I didn't really like it." Well, that quashed my crush right there. Actually, I don't think I went on another date for a couple of years.

CHRISISALL

Wednesday, November 23, 2005 9:20 PM

In '82 I took a girlfriend to see Blade Runner, she said it was 'good'. She married a nice guy (a 'not me' kinda nice guy).

A lot of weeding is done at the theatre, I see.

Chrisisall at the movies

SAFRON

Tuesday, May 30, 2006 5:49 PM

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Originally posted by BruisersMom:
Oh, here's a thought from the BruisersMom files. Sometimes the nice guy is still single and a waste of time because he's terrified of commitment or just very comfortable being a confirmed thirtysomething bachelor and only wants a woman to be his girlfriend for the rest of her life. Ended a relationship with one of those nice guys about a year ago.

Oh, and here's something scary. The above mentioned exboyfriend had friends who were just like him. They use to go out to dinner and movies together on Friday nights when they didn't have girlfriends. Maybe, I should post their names so that single women can avoid wasting their time on them? Yeah, why not. Their names are David Poepoe, Webb Deneys and I forget the other guy's last name. His first name was Jason. You'll see him with the other two guys anyway.

Here's a thought from Safron's files:
Sometimes the nice guy is still single because he hasn't found the right girl yet and doesn't feel like settling into a loveless marriage with whoever just happens to be around.

I don't know who taught you your netiquette, but posting people's real names in an anonymous public forum like this is tres uncool.

But, since we're naming names,

Hi, Elizabeth, my name is Laura. I'm the girl who just married Webb last month, so thanks for telling the single girls to stay away from him. It's been a pleasure to meet you.

Also, Webb and I will be attending Jason's wedding to his fiance, Val, in October.

Dave, alas, is still Dave. We all hope that he will someday find the right girl, but short of the invention of a time machine who knows.

I wish you luck in finding someone to share your life with who won't ask you to take care of his kids with ADHD or expect you to provide him with a whole passel of new ones.

I am glad to see that this bit of petty immaturity seems to have been shortlived, as your other posts here showed a bit of growth and a desire to find your own strength in your solitude.

Until then, enjoy your teaching and your weekends at the ASPCA.

Much love,

Safron
AKA: Our Mrs. Deneys