Male and Female Imponderables-Resurrected

POSTED BY: Tristan
UPDATED: Thursday, June 8, 2006 20:33
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SIMONWHO

Monday, June 5, 2006 4:18 PM

I don't understand how bisexuals can be accused of being fickle. Surely monosexuals are the fickle ones?

NVGHOSTRIDER

Monday, June 5, 2006 4:26 PM

Howdy TRISTAN and all you SHINY wonderful BROWNCOATS! Lunch went great. I'm hoping to procure future meetings sometime in the near future. Didn't that just sound dopey. Anyways its funny that you ask the similar personality question. I did not realize how difficult it is to share so many views with another human being, let alone a female that I happen to be insanely attracted to. I am honestly afraid of doing too little or too much at this point. Guess its time to man up and make my intentions clear. I'm hoping we have that boundry established in order to move forward at a nice slow and steady pace, (if at all). Thanks for allowing the tangent. And yes, being just different enough actually the tie that binds.

PHOENIXROSE

Monday, June 5, 2006 4:28 PM

I know, Tristan, I know. But people as shiny as you are relatively rare. I could go into long, angry stories about near-strangers and even fairly good friends telling me what I wanted/needed based soley on my orientation. As you can tell, it pissed me off.
If I'm with someone, it's because I want to be with them. Their parts don't matter. I don't prefer one sex over the other, just certain people over others.
And, for whatever record there might be, I haven't ever had a serious relationship with another woman. A few dates, but nothing heavy. Most women I fall for aren't interested, unfortunately. I hope this will be rectified one day, but I'm not going to say "My next relationship will be with a woman" either. Because y'know, I just never know. I'd like it to be, but I woudn't mind being with a man, either. I just want a good person.

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TRISTAN

Monday, June 5, 2006 4:33 PM

Ghostrider! Glad to hear it went well. I was thinking of you, hoping for good things. All things shall go well...keep us updated!

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PHOENIXROSE

Monday, June 5, 2006 4:38 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by SimonWho:
I don't understand how bisexuals can be accused of being fickle. Surely monosexuals are the fickle ones?

From what I know of it... No. It's a rather hotly debated topic among me and mine, though.

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TRISTAN

Monday, June 5, 2006 5:02 PM

I wouldn't imagine mono-sexuals could be tagged as "fickle"...we like one thing and one thing only...as far as sex goes.

Here's another question for the group regarding the whole sex issue: can you have sex with someone you don't love? I know it's physically possible, but is it something you have done or could do?

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PHOENIXROSE

Monday, June 5, 2006 5:05 PM

Can't do it. I'd ramble on about why, but most here have heard it in earlier threads.

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NVGHOSTRIDER

Monday, June 5, 2006 5:12 PM

Made that mistake some time ago. All the loveless sex made me feel so cold and empty that I really did not like myself. Having other issues at the time really didn't help much either. I really think that time was more about self abuse and running from the issues at hand. Here I sit a few years down the road realizing that I want to be in love with a real family life. Thank god I never caught anything or had any kids. I love kids, but there is no way I could have been a good dad back then. I love the idea of being in love. I have little memory of loving sex, just the memory of being close to a woman who loved me.

MAL4PREZ

Monday, June 5, 2006 5:57 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by Tristan:
Here's another question for the group regarding the whole sex issue: can you have sex with someone you don't love? I know it's physically possible, but is it something you have done or could do?

Maybe it says something sad about me, but I would have phrased it: has anyone ONLY had sex with people they love?

I've never had sex with someone I didn't like, or with someone I didn't know. But plenty of times with someone I was fond of but didn't absolutely love.

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TRISTAN

Monday, June 5, 2006 6:03 PM

Hmm. See, I may be different, then. I have bedded (and been bedded) by women I really did not care for. This, of course, only happened during the "early" years, which were a long time ago, but I had experienced this and was wondering if sex could be separated from love for any one here. Sex with love is wonderful, but the sex without love is still quite good. I do not think I could get away with it now...I have to have some positive feelings towards the person.

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