Male and Female Imponderables-Resurrected

POSTED BY: Tristan
UPDATED: Thursday, June 8, 2006 20:33
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NVGHOSTRIDER

Tuesday, June 6, 2006 9:20 PM

I wish you the best of luck EMMARIGBY. If we were not allowed to wonder or to be bold, the 'verse would be a very boring place.

FMF- Thanks for the flashes.

Jayne: I was gonna get me an ear too.

TRISTAN

Tuesday, June 6, 2006 9:35 PM

Alright, seeing as this subject seems to be...well, the subject, I have an imponderable.

Bear with me, this may end up long-winded...
How many females are truly bisexual? I have noticed a trend on this board regarding curiosity and actual relationships with females by females. Please don't flame me for asking this, but is this something that all females go through at one time or another? I realize that almost every human goes through a questioning stage in regards to their sexuality, but it seems more females act on those questions/urges than males do. I do not ever remember wanting to have sexual relations with another male. Yes, I have "man crushes", but they never lean towards the desire to have sex. Three-somes have been mentioned, but it seems that all the three-somes around here have been two females and one male. I, personally, have been involved in a four-some...in that there were two naked males and two naked females, and much sex ensued. There was sexual contact between the two females, but the only contact between myself and the other male was more along the lines of keeping our balance, or accidental contact. We did not shy away from each other, but the desire to mate with each other was not there. Neither of us was jealous, nor were we in the way of each other. Nobody was left unsatisfied, and we all remained friends until time parted us. This was the only time it happened, although we did remember it quite fondly amongst ourselves.

See, told you this would be a bit long-winded.
So, thoughts, comments, or clarifications?

(If I have offended anyone by the questions, I apologize, but this is an open forum for Imponderables, after all...)

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SERYN

Tuesday, June 6, 2006 9:40 PM

Catching up –

Co-pilot – I hope you start to feel better soon, If it helps, I once completely wigged out over a break up and spent about three weeks trying to not be sick. (anyone wants the story pm me, Its too long to type here)
That probably doesn’t help. Chew crystallized ginger!

Cybersex – nope, icky, plus most of what I used to like about sex was the sensual input – smell, feel, taste etc. My keyboard and computer screen smell plastic and dusty and I’m not even going to imagine attempting a taste test.

Orientation – there was a point in my teens where I thought I might be bi – I thought it was lust, realized years down the line that it was just a shy girl idolizing a prettier more confident one. As it is, I’m still philosophical about the whole thing, never say never and all that, but women just don’t attract me, they don’t cause that stomach flippy thing, any attraction is purely intellectual. I think I just respond to men – I like the way they are wired I suppose, and the aforementioned feel etc.
Saying that, it’s a case of were I bi, I would tell them, but I wouldn’t feel it mandatory to state it from the out put (I think I have enough tact to keep away from the public announcements as well) The way I see it, its another facet of my personality, a rather big one albeit, but because it has no direct bearing on that relationship, I wouldn’t shoe horn the fact in there straight off the bat. (Wow, long winded!) But not being a bloke, god knows if that’s the best approach.

Heres a question – roles reversed, how would you girls feel dating a bi man? Would you take part in a two guy’s one girl? Would any straight guy out there take part in one of those?

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posted by Leaina:
But at the same time, now, I'm in a strangely celibate phase of my life. I guess I'm all one thing or all the other. No in-between. And I don't think that's especially healthy either.

I don’t know about celibacy being unhealthy. I’ve been single and totally celibate since my second year of college when I simply decided that I wasn’t even enjoying sex and whatever, so I wasn’t going to bother with it.
College just burned me out, a fabulous cocktail of isolation, mega stress and being screwed over by supposed friends meant that I was just settling for whatever came up. I eventually decided that that (surprise) wasn’t good enough. 3 years later I finally think I’ve got my head on straight. The confidence is way up, infact I think I may have crossed the line into vain* (and yes, I my weaker moment I do crave a good

but those moments are very rare.)

I think my biggest problem now is my standards are far too high – I’ve simply stopped seeing guys I fancy, and I want to be treated nice, to do the whole ‘dating’ thing. Also I’m loathe to give up my independence – I can’t even commit to a routine dinner hour. But the basic gist of this conversation is celibacy = good thing, I’ve benefited from it enormously.

Can I have my habit and rosary now?

As for wanting a sensitive man (obviously not speaking for all women) but it’s never been a quality high on my list. I’m at that stage in my life (i.e. if I had children it might be different) where I want, well, almost a sparring partner. My list of desirable qualities reads something like ‘Intelligence, passion, independence, wit, sophistication blah blah blah. I don’t want to be looked after, I want to be excited and intrigued and challenged and pushed to new experiences and fired up by my partner – I want another personality as strong as my own.
So while I don’t want a cave man, I don’t personally need to be ‘honoured’ or have someone who understands my moods better than I do. (Beyond the “when I say I’m ‘fine’ run, run away as fast as you can”)

Open or poly relationships. I always had this weird thing in my head where if it was the lot of us together at the same time, i.e. living together or socializing together it would be fine. (Actually, if I ever have kids, the idea of having more than one dad to raise the tyke 3 men and a baby style is j

SERYN

Tuesday, June 6, 2006 9:51 PM

the british museum is fantastic - while we're on the subject, did you see the sex dwarf?

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Hodgins: Your robot reminds me of you. You tell it to turn it stops. You tell it to stop it turns. You ask it to take out the garbage it watches reruns of Firefly.
FozzieWash, You know what I always say: sometimes you're the windshield, sometimes you're the bug!
KermieMal, I never Know what the heck you're talking about.
FozzieWash, Hey, look! They're sending us free lumber!
http://www.myspace.com/seryndippyt

TRISTAN

Tuesday, June 6, 2006 9:53 PM

Seryn...wow...when you catch up, you really catch up!

To answer your question: no, clumsiness would not turn me off at all. Matter of fact, my very own wife is a bit on the clumsy side (don't tell her I told y'all, she'd kick my butt!), and I love her all the more for it. Proves she is a normal person. While I respect people with uncanny grace and bearing, they put me off. You want in with me? Fall on your butt a time or two...I do the same thing. By the way, "ass over tit"...hilarious!

And yes, you can stand in front of the mirror any time and state with pride "I’m a damn good catch, you’re a fool to pass it up", if I may be so bold as to make that statement.

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LEAINA

Tuesday, June 6, 2006 9:55 PM

Tristan, my thoughts exactly re the whole bisexual thing. I think these days, when any stigma related to homosexuality is beginning to fade, people genuinely want to give themselves a chance to explore their sexuality. It's a really interesting time, it's great that people have got the chance to find out who they really are (or at least what their sexual orientation is).

NVGHOSTRIDER

Tuesday, June 6, 2006 9:56 PM

I think its cute when a woman does something clumsy. It also shows the amount of humility she posses. Of course the media seems to ridicule the "Hot Chick" less tahn anyone else. Its mostly men writting for TV. Besides, most dumb guys are too busy checkin' a girl out, ignoring the actusl action of the woman. My favorite woman has her moments, and I'll help clean up the spill or grab the broom. The cool thing is that she will work with me to accomplish the cleanup, (grabs more paper towels or the dust pan). Girls who are overly vain seem to get angry or annoyed if you try to help out. As if its your fault you weren't born a rich doctor with a Posche and a condo. I tend to help anyone who might need a hand, whether I like them or not. As for the seeing a woman different after a clumsy move. It all depends on her reaction to me lending a hand.

Jayne: I was gonna get me an ear too.

SERYN

Tuesday, June 6, 2006 9:59 PM

yes, one thing that i have done in the last three years is develop an opinion.

Thank you, that whole paragraph makes me feel an awful lot better.

And I shall endeavor to say that to myself in the morror a lot more.

as for ass over tit, i can't claim credit, its an Ianism, if not a britishism.

He (my mothers boyfriend) also came up with my personal favorite 'hanging 'round like a fart in a spacesuit'

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Hodgins: Your robot reminds me of you. You tell it to turn it stops. You tell it to stop it turns. You ask it to take out the garbage it watches reruns of Firefly.
FozzieWash, You know what I always say: sometimes you're the windshield, sometimes you're the bug!
KermieMal, I never Know what the heck you're talking about.
FozzieWash, Hey, look! They're sending us free lumber!
http://www.myspace.com/seryndippyt

LEAINA

Tuesday, June 6, 2006 10:02 PM

sex dwarf??? where's that?

that's gotta be in the ancient greek collection...

SERYN

Tuesday, June 6, 2006 10:09 PM

nope, india.

One of the more succesful dates I ever went on, in the indian section we kept seeing all these staues of god and various poses from the kama sutra, all balanced on this pudgy human/animal unknown thing.

My date called it a dwarf, but iwouldn't believe it. But statue after staue, there is was. Then there was one of a goddes 'standing on the dwarf of ignorance'

So then came the jokes about dwarfs as sex aids, and having to upgrade from 'goody drawer' to goody cupboard', etc.

Then we went to see LOTR, the second one i think. And at the point where Gimli falls from the horse, and Eowyn rushes to help him up, then looks back and gooey eyes Aragorn, Dave leans over and whispers "well, you know waht she's got in mind, that dwarf on the floor and everything..."

I laughed so hard I almost got up kicked out of the Odeon Leichester Sq.

anyone ever tried any of those kama sutra poses?

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Hodgins: Your robot reminds me of you. You tell it to turn it stops. You tell it to stop it turns. You ask it to take out the garbage it watches reruns of Firefly.
FozzieWash, You know what I always say: sometimes you're the windshield, sometimes you're the bug!
KermieMal, I never Know what the heck you're talking about.
FozzieWash, Hey, look! They're sending us free lumber!
http://www.myspace.com/seryndippyt

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