Hunt for the Secret Hidey Place of Nice Boys
POSTED BY: mai
UPDATED: Tuesday, May 30, 2006 17:49
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P.P.S. Mai, where do you want us?
ATTENTION: The line for nice boys to date forms at my front door.Let's go boys!
Shiny!
'Cause, I aim to misbehave...
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I don't know what a cusper is either.
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I imagine TWG means "on the cusp". She states that she's 29, therefore, within a year ...30. On the cusp....cusper.
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Oh, I don't like that word. I just turned 28. I don't want to be on the cusp of anything.
*runs away from cusp.*
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Jadehand wrote:
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I imagine TWG means "on the cusp". She states that she's 29, therefore, within a year ...30. On the cusp....cusper.
Thanks that would make sense...Crazy youngsters and their crazy language.... ahhhh well :)....I obviously missed my chance of being a cusper - I'll bare it in mind for when I'm 40 though.
I knew I'd look an arse.
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Mai, et al:
This is a fascinating thread and one which I've only begun to read; but since the answer to your query immediately came to me, I decided to preemptively reply. I hope I'm not repeating someone else's response that I haven't read yet...
All the 'nice boys', 'good guys', et cetera are hiding out in the homes of their wives. In other words, if you want a good man without having to build one yourself from scratch, you're gonna have to try to steal one from another woman. It's a bit tricky though, since if you can steal him, he's not likely to be a truly good man, n'est-ce pas?
As for the old saw related by a (male?) poster way back at the top of the thread, "Good guys finish last": it's illogical. A race is properly run from the starting gate to the finish line. In contradiction, 'nice guys' get pulled out of the 'race' by their trainer/handler before the first furlong is run, and immediately put out to stud for the rest of their lives.
Regarding the 'bad guys' who presumably finish first -- and how can that be a good thing, ladies? -- if they're still available for whatever combination of excuses, then they're still single for a reason. That reason is this: They're not suitable mates. If they were suitable mates, some woman would have snapped them up in a heartbeat.
But here's some consolation... Just because all the men/boys you are currently encountering are not suitable mates at this moment in time, that does not mean those same boys/men won't be magically transformed into suitable mates sometime in the (very near?) future. Men -- like women -- do mature emotionally over time (albeit, very slowly when compared to women... or redwoods, for that matter. 
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Hardship and trauma -- emotional or otherwise -- are the most frequent maturing agents for males. A guy splits with his long-time girlfriend... His father/mother/SigOther passes away... He's involved in an accident/hospitalization that forces him to reexamine his intentions in life...
I'm not advising you to hit on a guy who's in turmoil or pain (that would be counterproductive in the long run, imo); but rather, monitor his emotional progress as he recovers from the traumatic event. You might find he's more thoughtful, caring and genuinely appreciative of Life's gifts (meaning, your beautiful self).
Show me a guy who's been force-fed a heapin' helpin' of his own pride by way of Life's random hard knocks and emotionally survived the meal, and I'll show you a guy who's ready for real love.
Smart women (or just intuitive ones) know that scars make a man attractive, not six-pack abs, large bank books or an abundance of intelligence, and they don't need a transdimensional portal to find one...
Confidentially,
zoid
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I disagree with the statement that all the nice guys got snatched up first and got married already. That has not been my observation. Married men don't seem to be any nicer than unmarried, in my opinion.
Also, I know many wonderful men that aren't married, or who got married at a later age simply becuase they didn't meet the right woman right away.
And then, am I supposed to look at every unmarried man I meet and think "What's wrong with him. There must be something wrong with him or else he'd be married already?" That's not a healthy way to live.
And then, using the opposite argument, you're saying that there must be something wrong with US women because we aren't married yet. As if there's some Hierarchy of Nice and the further down you are on the pyramid, the longer you have to wait to get married.
Other than that, I agree with what you wrote. Scars do make us more interesting. Suffering develops character.
I have lots of scars.
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Zoid,
Welcome back. It's been too long since I've seen you post. Or maybe I've just not been reading everything lately. I've missed your deep thoughts and could have used them a few times, But it seems you went a bit shallow on this one. Maybe oversimplified. Not everyone who reached 25 without getting hitched is terminally broken. Though I imagine some of us are. Yes 25 was a while back for me, and I'm still single, never married, but to assume that means "not a nice guy", seems wrong, I mean in general. With me specifically, well you're probably right. I'm a bastard. But years (and years) of being nice and not getting snatched up, may have something to do with that. But I don't want to get all finger pointy and blame shifty. I did make the choices that brought me here.
I hope it's only I who've misinterpreted what you wrote. If so, my appologies. Perhaps you could clarify? Anyway, It is truly good to see you back. And I hope this isn't seen as an attack. It's not.
Cheers,
JadeHand
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Originally posted by Jadehand:
. I'm a bastard.
You are NOT!
Take that back.
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Oh, and Mai-if the line for the nice boys starts at your door-I'm moving in with you!!
Oh! Wouldn't that be fun!
*Looks out front door* Nope. Not there.
Apparently the nice boys got lost (and though nice, still not smart enough to stop and ask for directions).
*Puts up signs everywhere*
NICE BOY LINE OVER HERE!
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