Time to Go. (public service message: this may be a goodbye thread)
POSTED BY: RionaEire
UPDATED: Monday, April 8, 2013 20:12
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Honestly Riona, I'm genuinely happy for so many reasons at your post....
At the same time, I'm not a good "mentor". If you're not posting here, I have no idea how you're doing otherwise....
Not that I should ever be a mentor for anybody, or more importantly had you ever asked for one.....
Please let me know that you'll keep in touch if you truly are done with the RWED.
In the nearly 10 years with large breaks in between of posting in the RWED, I've only met a very small few people I've actually cared about. Please let me know that you're doing alright.
At the same time, leaving here is the best thing you could do. Please find a hobby and/or passion to follow without the chains of sides and pre-disposed opinions. Fuck the RWED...... You are so much more worthy of life than constantly subjecting yourself to the opinions of idiots who will willingly talk to me on a day to day basis.
Sure, you'll probably never be a rock star, but you're going to be the girl who grew up to wear Her own Dreamcoat.....
Much love,
Jack
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Wuts all this then?
Bin very bizzy for a few months, so havent had time for this place. (still bizzy actually)
Without going over all the posts here or finding the Hitler topic, I'd still like to post a reply that mite help.
Your expectation uv familiarity iz ill considered.
Here we are, reduced to stringz uv letterz on a screen. Nobody knowz our voice. No imij to anchor our wordz. Most uv us go by a made up name. We may hav a tiny little pik in the corner - an 'avatar' to add a little color and hint at our tastes.
Therez a kind uv purity to it. That you wont be jujd by anything but the ideaz you prezent. In real life, everything about you influensez the reseption your wordz get. Makes all the difference between sekses and failure. In an internet forum, you coud hope that lojik and meaning woud be left unclouded by all the distractionz uv real life.
This iz not the case unfortunately, so the lack uv personal detail duznt work. Ideaz do not sell themselvez. They are not accepted purely on their merits. Lojik duznt chanje anybodyz mind.
So the mask servez only to keep us anonymous.
If you want to be frendz with anybody here, you hav to let us know you. Having the same avatar az a haf dozen otherz duznt help. Fake name duznt help.
And you hav to keep in mind that youre competing with a bunch uv other memberz here for anybodyz attention and the entire forum iz competeing with the rest uv the internet for our time and the internet iz competing with TV and real life for our time and attention. And this real life haz real people with complete 3D moving imajez with real voicez and smellz and you can really touch them! All that kinda blowz away the little black letterz strung together on our little 2D screenz.
You want real frendz here? Try harder.
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DUZ XaT SEM RiT TQ YQ? - Jubal Early
http://www.nooalf.com
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JO- good points.
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But Joe, that's the point. I _have let everyone know me well. And my reward, or punishment, is having spent lots of time investing in relationships here and realizing that they aren't going anywhere.
"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya
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I don't think you're understanding what Jo is saying, Ri. I know a good half dozen people on this board I can call friends. If I were in their town and I called 'em up, we'd have dinner. If I showed up on their doorstep, I know they'd take me in. And I hope they know I would be there for them if it came to that. And most of them have said some pretty harsh things to me at one time or another. To gain friends, you gotta BE a friend. And you definitely don't make friends by devising tests they don't even know they're taking until they fail 'em.
HKCavalier
Hey, hey, hey, don't be mean. We don't have to be mean, because, remember, no matter where you go, there you are.
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Quote:
Originally posted by RionaEire:
But Joe, that's the point. I _have let everyone know me well. And my reward, or punishment, is having spent lots of time investing in relationships here and realizing that they aren't going anywhere.
"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya
I hate to break this to you Riona, but largely, the RWED is the last place you should have ever gone if building relationships was your priority.
I surely didn't come here back in 2006 for friends. Actually, I had a lot more friends than I do now in 2013. Sure, they're still my "friends" but so long as I'm not married myself, hanging out with them is made awkward by their wives....
If looking for friends was your "end game", I suggest you not only leave the RWED forever, but you smash your computer to bits....
I've only made 2 real friends since I've been here, and one of them basically told me to F myself when I was drunk enough one night and lost control and used a few expletives to finally let her know that I knew she was a sub-human.
I'm happy if you do leave the RWED forever....
You're far to good a person to be here in the first place.
Why surround yourself with so many worthless people going nowhere?
Save yourself while there's still something left of yourself to save.
Much love,
~Jack
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I have many friends in real life, but what i wanted was friends to talk to when I couldn't talk to or do things with my "real life" friends. So I thought "well online there are people all the time, someone is always on and not busy.". Oh well.
And Jack if you want to talk to me you know where to find me.
"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya
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Riona, your friends must be a very passive sort. They don't react to your little tests and they don't care what you think. It's almost as if there is no friendship there at all.
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My friends are normal people, unlike this lot it seems, you guys are much more uptight and problematic. Sometimes the venue you know someone in alters your experiences I reckon. I don't have the problems in real life that I have with y'all. Maybe everyone is different in real life. I think in real life we're all nicer to each other for instance, because in real life you can't say exactly what you think, you see those people all the time so you choose to get on with them, because there are reprecussions if you don't.
"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya
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"I think in real life we're all nicer to each other for instance ..."
So IRL you DON'T go up to your friends and tell them "I've been testing you all for how many lies you tell (as an example) and most of you failed my honesty test". Even though you might be thinking about it, and doing the test in your head, you won't TELL them about it b/c you choose to not alienate people you need, or might need.
But you do it here, and wonder why you don't have the same kind of friendships you have IRL.
Maybe you need to put those ideas side by side and see if one answers the other.
And might I suggest you consider the nature of a friendship which is built on calculating honesty based on someone's use value to you? Personally, I can understand such a calculation, I'm just not sure I would call those people friends.
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