Time to Go. (public service message: this may be a goodbye thread)

POSTED BY: RionaEire
UPDATED: Monday, April 8, 2013 20:12
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RIONAEIRE

Friday, March 15, 2013 11:05 PM

A chaird (maybe).

The reasons I've been coming to this board for the last two years is because I wanted to have a fun place to socialize and make friends when I was not out and about and I was sitting at home, people I could talk to when I couldn't talk to people, as it were.. Plus finding out about news that doesn't make the news was good too, its good to be informed. Arguing can be fun sometimes, as long as everyone is still friends afterwords, agree to disagree etc. And I thought that's what was happening.

But an experience recently has showed me that you guys aren't really my friends, at least I've come to believe you're not. I've seen people be mean when someone posts things that happen in their real world, and I was curious to know if the same would happen to me. Sure enough, I tried the experiment of posting a real world event in my life and I think I got the answers I was seeking. The answer seems to be that none of you actually value my friendship or our connections, however fleeting they may be. So I think I'm going to finish posting on this forum.

I'm not leaving for the reason that Niki or many other past posters cite. I don't mind the arguing and I don't even really mind PN so much. I'm glad the board isn't moderated and I don't expect everyone to get on well all the time. I'm leaving for different reasons, I should also point out that I made this decision about two weeks ago and have been biding my time figuring out if this is what I ought to do. I just don't think you guys will miss me all that much, so why bother staying on.

Byte of course is the exception because I've been friends with her for four years and we sort of have this weird connection thing. But the rest of you, I just don't know. I'll keep writing in response to this thread since I started it and I'll lurk voyeuristically for a while, just in case, but I just don't know that there's a point to posting here anymore.

I do wish good things for all of you though.

Slan Libh.

"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya

MAGONSDAUGHTER

Friday, March 15, 2013 11:18 PM

Firstly, there is that passive aggressive thing happening again, Rione. I can only say I hope you don't try such tricks/experients on your real life friends because I don't think its either pleasant or moral to do so.

Are you referring to the Hitler thread? Can't see any other that might apply. From memory, you got a wide range of HONEST responses, which is more honesty than you have shown us by yet another of your experiments.

What were you expecting? That everyone would back you up? In my view, friends also give you negative feedback if they don't agree with what you are doing. That's the honesty thing again.

And lastly, what do you expect from an internet forum? I think Sig said it awhile back, most of us only show parts of ourselves - who we are - what we do or think. Is that enough for the same kind of friendship as in RW? In my view, that happens rarely and if you got one real friend out of this experience, you are doing better than me - not my aim incidentally.

So I am kind of wondering, is this thread also one of your 'experiments'. I feel mighty uncomfortable about all of this.

KPO

Friday, March 15, 2013 11:28 PM

I'll be sorry to see you go Riona.

I think I better start my goodbye thread soon, before everyone else beats me to it.

What specifically upset you Riona?

It's not personal. It's just war.

SIGNYM

Friday, March 15, 2013 11:58 PM

Riona, I would be sorry for you to leave. OTOH, if you are leaving because you got some responses that you didn't like in the Hilter thread, I'm not sure that is a valid reason.

I looked thru the thread (admittedly, before it was completed so maybe there was something I missed) and I didn't see anything mean. I saw answers that ranged from supportive to answers that tread very, very lightly (I believe) on what the poster truly wanted to say, all so as not to hurt your feelings. Again, maybe something I missed, but I thought you got treated rather gently by the very wide range of personalities who come here.

NIKI2

Saturday, March 16, 2013 7:27 PM

Riona, responding publicly to state that I'd be sad to see you go if you truly do; will say more privately.

BYTEMITE

Saturday, March 16, 2013 10:57 PM

Magons: It's not an experiment this time as far as I know. She really has decided that this board doesn't help her with things anymore.

I've suggested that it might be hard for her to tell what she might feel so soon after coming off of that Hitler thread, where she also felt like I was siding against her, but she's pretty determined. It's the one thing I've always noticed about our Riona - always determined. And I can respect that. So if she says she's heading out, I'm not really going to argue it.

Heck knows I've tried to leave like a million times. But I've kinda given up on leaving, it never sticks.

RIONAEIRE

Tuesday, March 19, 2013 12:41 AM

That Hitler thread was an honest thread, I didn't make up those experiences. The only experiment was to see if everyone would be as unkind to me when I posted an event from my real life as they are to others sometimes when they do. this thread isn't experimental, except that initially I felt like it _may be a goodbye thread and now, thanks to Magon's, I know it is a goodbye thread.

If anyone wishes to continue communicating with me they can email me or PM me, I'm too lazy to delete my account. I'll watch for a while and I know it might be hard not to post, I see a thread on the list about mental illness which I'm itching to post to, but I've decided and I, at least for now, won't yield.

I'm thankful for the time we've had and I'm glad for the oppertunities to visit online with all y'all. But I spend enough energy posting and investing in this community that if I don't feel like you guys are really my friends there's no point at this juncture, at least no point I can assertain.

"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya

JONGSSTRAW

Tuesday, March 19, 2013 1:56 AM

You shouldn't let any of the putzes here, including maybe me, chase you away from something you've been a part of and seemed to have enjoyed. I find it almost impossible to believe that any person could be so thin-skinned and narrow-minded that they would choose to forsake a great forum like RWED. Yeah, I said great, great because it's all over the map, representing all views and opinions. And there's fun stuff, even psycho stuff too, which add to the cornucopia of both clarity and confusion. If you really want everyone to love you there are plenty of rigidly ideological places on the net to hang out. Everyone there will agree with you, and you will agree with them. But jeeez, how booooooring!

CANTTAKESKY

Tuesday, March 19, 2013 3:37 AM

Hey, Rione. I am sorry to see you go. We've all had it with this place, on and off. So I understand.

It is hard to make friends, real life friends, on a board like this. But I think if I met you in person, we'd have a hoot. I have to say that there are a few people I have met here that I would love to meet in person, whom I would be honored to be a real friend. You're one of them.

And god bless Byte, she is friends with everyone. A good egg, that one, no matter what she says about herself.

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Disobedience is not an issue if obedience is not the goal.

RIONAEIRE

Tuesday, March 19, 2013 3:56 AM

CTS, :)) Thanks.

"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya

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