Xander was a Fool to Leave Anya at the Altar
POSTED BY: RiveR6213
UPDATED: Friday, June 1, 2007 03:36
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Even if that old fart who turned out to be a demon and wanted to get revenge on Anya for messing up his life by showing Xander one possible future that was pretty ugly...Xander should have used that information to not letting it get that way where in the end he ends up killing Anya with a frying pan.
I actually think that Anya was too good for Xander. Anya was the best catch that Xander would ever get in life, and he screwed it up because deep down he's nothing but an insecure child hiding behind Buffy's skirt. I've never liked Xander as a character, and I liked him even less when he dumped Anya.
To sum this up...Xander was a stupid assed motherfucker for what he did to Anya and she should have knifed his ass a few episodes later, but it turned out that she had more wisdom then Xander ever had and loved that idiot to the end. She ended up dying in the final conflict while that waste Xander got to live. See how unfair life is???
-River
P.S. You can tell what episode of BtVS I just watched.
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I don't want to defend his actions here but I think both of their characters would have become stagnate if the marriage had occured.
The really amazing thing about Xander over the course of the series is how many hot women he was entangled with, except for Buffy of course.
The Valentine's Day episode is still one of my favorites.
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The whole Xander leading Anya on like that really bothered me. Anya may have been a Vengence Demon, but she did have a heart and she was trying. She DID love Xander, but her mistake was dating and trying to marry a child.
Actually, I'm getting mad as I write this so I'm gone...
-River
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I do not believe that Xander led her on. I believed that he really did love her, but that he was not ready for such a relationship. Not ready for marriage.
He should have said up front that he didn't want to marry Anya yet, but he likely didn't want to hurt her feelings, and so he made things worse by going on and cancelling at the last minute.
Now, Xander did a hurtful thing, and perhaps an immature one, but I do not think that he was malicious about it. I certainly don't think that he planned to hurt her.
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Originally posted by TheRealMe:
I do not believe that Xander led her on. I believed that he really did love her, but that he was not ready for such a relationship. Not ready for marriage.
He should have said up front that he didn't want to marry Anya yet, but he likely didn't want to hurt her feelings, and so he made things worse by going on and cancelling at the last minute.
Now, Xander did a hurtful thing, and perhaps an immature one, but I do not think that he was malicious about it. I certainly don't think that he planned to hurt her.
My wall screen viewer gets lots of food thrown at it when Xander is on the screen. Whenever that fool opens up his mouth I fast-forward the scene. He didn't mean to hurt Anya and leave her like that but the fact is, is that he did do it. And to add true stupidity in the mix he still wanted her to be with him! I would have knocked that idiot on his ass. I would not wanted to have anything to do with a creep like that after being left at the alter.
Xander should have NEVER said that he was going to marry Anya in the first place. I personally think she was too good for him. She ends of getting killed and he ends up getting fatter and surviving the epic conclusion of the series. Life just sucks that way. They should have written that mama's boy out of the show.
Also, that episode where Xander finds out about Spike getting some "Solace" sex with Anya and he got all mad and grabbed an axe, and went to try to kill Spike. I got angry anew! Who did that clown think he was? He dumped her ass, therefore she could have sex with anyone she wanted. At that point I seriously thought the character Xander was a complete retard.
BTW when Buffy and Anya had that fight in the episode called "Selfless" I was cheering Anya on all the way! It appears I have a soft spot for Vengeance Demons...go figure.
-River
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Anya was my favorite charachter on Buffy..
I wanted her to kick Buffy's ass too.
And I never ,ever liked Xander.
It angered me to no end that she died and he lived at the end of the series.
Bryce
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Oh, no, baby, no. You're not going to die. They are. Cover your ears. Hey, should we get a dog?
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Originally posted by LittleAlbatross29:
Anya was my favorite charachter on Buffy..
I wanted her to kick Buffy's ass too.
And I never ,ever liked Xander.
It angered me to no end that she died and he lived at the end of the series.
Bryce
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Oh, no, baby, no. You're not going to die. They are. Cover your ears. Hey, should we get a dog?
Anya was a great character.
-River
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I do so wish I'd kept a running tally of things I've had spoiled for me in Buffy and Angel by inconsiderate thread titles and the like. I'm sure it would be quite an impressive list.
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Originally posted by MohrStoutbeard:
I do so wish I'd kept a running tally of things I've had spoiled for me in Buffy and Angel by inconsiderate thread titles and the like. I'm sure it would be quite an impressive list.
That occurred to me the minute I saw it. So, spoiler warnings are out the window now?
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Originally posted by TheRealMe:
I do not believe that Xander led her on. I believed that he really did love her, but that he was not ready for such a relationship. Not ready for marriage.
He should have said up front that he didn't want to marry Anya yet, but he likely didn't want to hurt her feelings, and so he made things worse by going on and cancelling at the last minute.
Now, Xander did a hurtful thing, and perhaps an immature one, but I do not think that he was malicious about it. I certainly don't think that he planned to hurt her.
But what is leading on if not the refusal to be upfront about something, for whatever reason?
Not wanting to hurt someone's feelings is pretty much always just an excuse for not wanting to face the consequences of honesty.
That's childish and selfish.
So, it may not have been malicious but it was absolutely cowardly and there's an indifference to the other person's feelings and dignity involved that can't be pretended away with phrases like "not ready" or "didn't mean to".
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