Male and Female Imponderables- our water cooler runneth over
POSTED BY: msg
UPDATED: Wednesday, January 24, 2007 10:39
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Originally posted by Zeek:
She might be a hopeless romantic too. I've known people who think it would be just swell if two of their friends got together. They can be just as bad as a person with a crush in reading too much into comments. "She said he's cool. They're so going to get married and have kids and I'll get to baby sit!!"
So, it's possible the MF wasn't being a jerk. Just overly optimistic.
Well, that sort of falls under the "stupid" category (and I mean that in the nicest way possible
).But, seriously, if your friend has made another word to put in the place of love, isn't that indicative of how they might feel about dating, particularly in high school?
Nevermind. I'm out.
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Perhaps the mutual friends heart was in the right place, but just totally read the situation wrong. It happened to me recently. Everyone who knew me said I should go for it, "she adores you, its obvious you're just being a wimp". I was right, she had no interest. Sometimes people just get it wrong while trying to help you out.
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Originally posted by nvghostrider:
That's pretty funny Odds. Seems the question crossed my desk just this morning. Who knew that word could scratch so deeply into ones psyche.
(tries to continue without using the "it" word)
So "She Who Shall Not Be Named" calls yesterday morning to ask for the Housing departments address. Why the F should that be my concern. Answering with a proffessional, "The phone book should have their address." it seems some sort of game was averted, (though as a professional courtesy the address was looked up and communicated to her). What is y'alls opinion. Wouldn't you get to thinkin', "Why the hell is she calling"? after a while?
Just wondering what ya's think.
Two options.
1) The negative view: She's playing a game, making excuses to get in touch so you keep thinking about her and perhaps steer the conversation in a direction she likes, or simply so you pay attention to her. There may be an element of control here, her liking to set the rules of when and how much you talk.
2) The positive view: You have a sexy phone voice and she wanted a listen.
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Originally posted by Oddsbodskins:
well, 'me' is not that-accursed-word-which-shall-not-be-spake-for-fear-of-being-selfcentred, so there's a thinking that it passes muster as not being that-word xD
so you've got a start, but there're expectations of plenty more from certain quarter's
Ah, but Odds...'me' is even worse, in my opinion. And to be uttered in triplicate not only heightens the self-centeredness, but points to a very childlike way of asking for attention. Thus, the brilliant part of the response was the ability to remain self-centered without a certain dreaded word. It takes talent to be this self-centered. :smokin':
NVG: She's a harpy.
She couldn've used the damn phonebook to look up the address. She knows she's losing her grip on you and is trying to re-sink those talons in. Run, don't walk, away from that one. ***************
"The power of accurate observation is commonly called cynicism by those who have not got it." - George Bernard Shaw
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I have to go with ( and yes I've said this before ) she's profoundly indecisive. What she seems to want is your attention, but she seems to just want you to be hanging on indefinitely pining away for her. It's like it gives her an ego boost to attract you, but once she does, she's all about jerking you around and finally not coming through in the end. I'd make her a nice phone directory of the numbers of all the people she regularly tries to use you as an intermediary for and say " Just thought it might help make your life easier if you had all those numbers you need right where you can get at them." This is of course the nice mature side of me saying this...the other side leans more toward " Stop calling me you freak and go play your demented passive aggressive psycho head games on some other unsuspecting victim!!! Now rot in the hell you so richly deserve(**(&**&%$%^^#$$@#@"
So pick whichever side suits you best darlin NV:)
Well after that little fit ( which might have been partially induced by two full days of extreme chaos and overwork)I shall take my leave and go home and make a nice dinner and relax for a while.I shall come back a much less psycho person ( hoepfully)
"I'm not all that interested in the mental health of people who want to kill me. "- Leroy Jethro Gibbs
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Originally posted by RugBug:
me, me, me.
The case is rested Rugbug, while it might be the case that this selfish person has an extraordinary talent for said self-centeredness, it seem that they aren't alone xD
okay methinks talking in the third person probably counts as cheating
And i'm sorry to hear you've had such a tough time MSG, *hugs* to help you over a shitty few days. hey, you know what they say, Always look on the bright side of it could've been worse things happen at sea
Hey their coulda been snakes in there with you! although the pacifying effect on the needy kids mighta been worth it, still got the ADHD ones to cope with, but a few snakebite's later and I'm sure the local A&E nurses, or ER, would've been cursing your name as the ward got wrecked ^_~
Gods are great. But the heart is greater, for it is from the heart they come, and to the heart they shall return.
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Hallo!
Sorry for posting a long catch-up post yet again. 
Quote:See, I think the thing that's keeping me from really getting into that book is the fact that I actually live by the places being described. So I find it... mundane.
Originally posted by Oddsbodskins:
American Gods is quite the thing RIMG ^^ although i think i might have gotten more from it if i knew America better.
I like his stories to take me away from where I am, not lead me around them.Regarding GREEN TEA, as responded to by many good folk:
I've never had tea before. It’s not that I expected it to taste sweet or anything like Mountain Dew. I merely wanted it to taste yummy because that colour is, in my mind, associated with yummy things like Mountain Dew. And, um. Anti-freeze.
I still have an inexplicable need to like green tea. It’s probably because I’m either insane or obstinate. So I am going to continue to try it until I develop a taste for it. I will. Yes. Or it will kill me.
Quote:Ah. Thanks for your concern. I posted links on the photo thread.
Originally posted by JonnyQuest:
Oh, and HK, if you must expire please post the rest of your pictures first! Um, so that we have something to remember you by.
Quote:Ha. “Mistake.” Nah. I do stupid things on purpose, quite often.
Originally posted by Tristan:
Coffee. Coffee is the drink you are looking for, Hell's Kitten...unless you already drink it regularly and this green tea thing was just a mistake. That's understandable.
Oh, uh. I tried coffee once. It was like drinking burnt. Burned what? I dunno. Just burnt. Coffee is another great disappointment for me – it should taste as wonderful as it smells, but it does not. I walk down the coffee bean isle, breathing in the wonderful aromas, only to remember that it’s just an evil trick.
Quote:I will like it! Heh heh. I don’t think that sweetness was the problem. My imagination and expectations were the problem. (Kinda like eating Vegimite. Hee.) Now that I know what to expect, I won’t be shocked into epileptic fits of heart-breaking disappointment.
Originally posted by Dancingneko:
I give you full credit for trying green tea without trying any other types before, HK. I'm guessing that it wasn't sweet enough for you, based on that Mountain Dew comment. *wince* Although I think all of you have horrid taste in oversweetened drinks...I'd rather drink a "green river" (7-up with green lemon-lime syrup added) or Jolt before I'd stoop to Mountain Dew
Quote:Nnnnooooooo! I want to learn! How / when is –sama used? And how should I address a female Manager at my company who is in a different department? Konnichi wa is too informal, isn’t it? {/end language dork}
Originally posted by Dancingneko:
...okay, I'm going to stop that before I start a long winded thing on "how to address a person in Japanese."
Quote:Excellent. More things I can swipe for my own nefarious uses.
Originally posted by Penguin:
I have created an emote-using monster!
Quote:Yes! It makes me feel so artless and unimaginative, especially when sentences are started that way. Often times, it’s necessary for me to figure out a completely different sentence structure and a new way of saying what was going to be said, just to avoid the usage. ←(example) (And, yes, “I” is a word when used to signify oneself.)
Originally posted by Oddsbodskins:
Does anyone else ever wish they didn't use 'I' so much when they talk, pretty often (avoided it there) feel like it's (and there) in every second thing that comes out of my mouth (sweet! hat-trick!). Makes me feel all self-centred, and pushy with what I (damn...) got to say about myself.
Quote:Yes, after a very, very short while. In fact, I thought that before I finished reading your post. You seem to have more patience than I when it comes to such
Originally posted by nvghostrider:
Wouldn't you get to thinkin', "Why the hell is she calling"? after a while?
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Odds,
Yes, the repeated use of the 1st person singular pronouns has brought on a sense of self centeredness. The form of writing actually intensifies that feels. The spoken word is not as noticable.
The game of not using the self-centered pronouns is very intriguing. The game starts here.
Back to the pondering. Advise can be detrimental. Everyone needs to find their own way in relationships. It is a high school thing to tell others that someone else likes them. It's how to learn how to read signals. Whitefall, the important part is did you learn something from the experience? The knowledge that you gain from each experience will make it better next time. The mutual friend's intensions could seem harmful, but there's a pretty good chance that she's not very good at reading signals, too.
NVG, this has been going on for quite awhile. What do you think? Do you want her to stop? If so, tell her. The buzz word phrase is "You teach people how to treat you by your actions." Some people are just crazy, and no anount of logical thought will make them sane. There is a ton of love always heading your direction from FFF.net.
HK, funny sign. The readers of the note would no doubt have some pretty funny facial expressions.
1st Post that is devoid of the dreaded 1st person singular pronouns.
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