Male and Female Imponderables- our water cooler runneth over

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ODDSBODSKINS

Tuesday, January 23, 2007 2:52 AM

Quote:
Originally posted by magdalena:

There... Did that help you to snap out of it?

(anyone else think it's a shame there's a finger in the... er... finger emote - I'd use it heaps if it weren't for the finger...)

you know, up until about 30 seconds ago, i thought the finger in the finger emote was wagging, this being a clean-cut place and all, now i'm starting to wonder if i missed something >.<

Gods are great. But the heart is greater, for it is from the heart they come, and to the heart they shall return.

PENGUIN

Tuesday, January 23, 2007 2:54 AM

King of the Mythical Land that is Iowa

ODDSBODSKINS

Tuesday, January 23, 2007 3:02 AM

Quote:
Originally posted by Penguin:

yeah, that's pretty much what i was thinking it was being for the last howeverlong. i'm good at paying attention to the details

Gods are great. But the heart is greater, for it is from the heart they come, and to the heart they shall return.

DANCINGNEKO

Tuesday, January 23, 2007 3:04 AM

Quote:
Originally posted by Whitefall:

lighting designer caught me this morning on gmail chat, and... well, no dice. I'm not sure i know what to feel about this, cause if she really was eager about such a relationship upon offering, she wouldnt be the lighting designer i've come to love.

*Hugs* Sorry to hear that.

Quote:

And yes magdachan (i think that is the affectionate ending and -san is the teacher ending lol, so we may have it backwards) you were right, this didnt destroy our friendship, but i do think its a lot more awkward... on my side.

-chan is affectionate/feminine/casual ending. -san is usually more formal/polite. -kun is buddy/male/casual ending (so you're usually not going to hear a someone call for "Magda-kun" without some very strange looks). -sensei is usually what you call a teacher/doctor/other learned person. (ex. "Allen-sensei" if Mr./Ms./Mrs. Allen was your karate teacher/Japanese langauge teacher/etc.)

...okay, I'm going to stop that before I start a long winded thing on "how to address a person in Japanese."

'neko

WHITEFALL

Tuesday, January 23, 2007 4:14 AM

Well ok, so magdachan it is. Thanks neko

Anyhoo...to elaborate.

Not sure how i feel about all this: if I'm not mistaken, lighting designer and i may actually be better friends for the getting out in the open some stuff between us.

I dunno. A few months back, a friend of mine who is a sophomore to my senior, gave me a note that she had a crush on me. I guess i know now how hard that was for her. Essentially i told her that we were still friends, and ultimately it didnt change anything, I still hug her as a way of saying goodbye as has become our tradition, and I still spend as much time with her, and... it didnt change anything. But I didnt feel that way about her.

I cant even describe what it is... what puts the lighting designer different from all the other women I know, and if she is even different... in that sense I'm glad she turned this whole thing down, that she doesnt see me in that way, because i'm not even sure what i feel. Yes I always want to be near her when she's in the room, and yes she makes me happy just by doing whatever she's doing, yes when she smiles i want to smile with her, when she dances i want to dance along with her, when she runs, i run with her (despite her being the superior athlete)... i dont know where i'm going with this. we share many of the same views on feminism, and ironically she still hasnt seen firefly, but........

I'm glad I havent lost her as a friend, and like i said above, maybe this, the fact that we all know where we stand now, will make the relationship better. But not in the sense I had dared to hope for for about 16 hours yesterday and this morning.

I'm not sure how to feel about the Mutual Friend who forced me into this (she didnt force me, but I never would have said anything, definitly not so fast, had it not been for her interference)... she definitly shook things up between me n the lighting designer, though in terms of getting back at her, really all i needed to do was tell her what happened to make her feel guilty. Oh well, it's really amazing of her to barge in on people, and to be so accurate in her observations. I cant fault her for that.

I guess this whole thing will blow over, though clearly my romantic high school relationship prospects (something 48 hours ago i would have laughed at the sound of) are rather dashed. Oh well.

"But, these strong women characters?"

"Why aren't you asking 100 other guys why they don't write strong women characters?" -Joss Whedon.

"We take all the money we got saved right now, we could maybe buy a moderately sized gerbil." -Mal

YINYANG

Tuesday, January 23, 2007 4:25 AM

Don't worry, Whitefall. Sounds like you understand some things, so that's good.

This reminds me why I've never even considered high school relationships - not like I've had a crush on anyone for... three years now. Or, is it my extreme introversion and cynicism? Wouldn't be able to handle all the touching that high school relationships seem to entail, anyway.

Now I'm just messing around.

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WHITEFALL

Tuesday, January 23, 2007 4:28 AM

Well thats the thing, I was all set to go through high school without that either, and then for 16 hours, darned Mutual Friend set me off in the hope of it, and i thought... maybe it'd be nice. But whatever. Back to normal. Life is weird.

"But, these strong women characters?"

"Why aren't you asking 100 other guys why they don't write strong women characters?" -Joss Whedon.

"We take all the money we got saved right now, we could maybe buy a moderately sized gerbil." -Mal

YINYANG

Tuesday, January 23, 2007 4:32 AM

Well, maybe you should send that mutual friend MsG's way - her bapping hand doesn't seem to have been used for awhile.

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WHITEFALL

Tuesday, January 23, 2007 4:37 AM

Nah, i couldnt do that... honestly, i cant thank her enough for caring enough to broach the subject with me in the first place, as annoyed as i am with her and the result.

"But, these strong women characters?"

"Why aren't you asking 100 other guys why they don't write strong women characters?" -Joss Whedon.

"We take all the money we got saved right now, we could maybe buy a moderately sized gerbil." -Mal

YINYANG

Tuesday, January 23, 2007 4:44 AM

Not like that's anything new.

Oh, I think it's beddy-bye time. Until tomorrow, Watery Imponderables!

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