Male and Female Imponderables--Blue Eyes Crying In The Rain
POSTED BY: Tristan
UPDATED: Monday, November 13, 2006 22:30
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hmm well I am currently pondering why, when I made a list of actors/characters that I am really attracted to, only 1 of them was under 40 and most were over 45-50...what does this say about me???
Ok my nuttiness aside...Let's ponder this what do the contents of your home library say about you??
Mine says I am obsessed with murder, violence, and crime.
"A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort."- Albright
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Not sure if this'll make a good one or not:
A friend and I got into a disagreement yesterday. The actual subject was about jealousy, and whether or not it's "right" or "OK" to feel it in certain situations. Like, if you have absolutely no right or relation to something, but you want it, and seeing other people that have it makes you jealous.
My point was that I recognize that it's not reasonable, and of course wouldn't act on it, but I can't help the feeling itself. His argument was that feeling it at all makes me fucked up in the head, and that I should actively look to dispel it.
But this can go to a great question, beyond just jealousy, can't it? Is it OK to want to do something very, very mean, hurtful, or what might otherwise be considered "Evil" as long as you don't act on it? Should you accept those feelings and just try to control them, or try to get rid of them completely in recognition that allowing them to linger could lead to acting on them?
MSG - I think that says that you prefer mature men. It's an impressive trait, and not something you should feel weird about. I knew a girl in High School who was attracted to Sean Connery, and was thoroughly impressed with her.
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Place my body on a ship and burn it on the sea,
Let my spirit rise, Valkyries carry me.
Take me to Valhalla where my brothers wait for me.
Fires burn into the sky, my spirit will never die.
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My current celebrity attractions are Milla Jovovich and Kate Beckinsale...and I am pretty sure that says I am attracted to tough, beautiful women...but I already knew that! 
My library is an eclectic mix, but the books on display are mostly history, psychology, and sci-fi/fantasy novels...
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Mine says the Wifey buy too many books!
Oh wait I read sometimes too I guess. Um.... I don't really know. Never thought about it. I like Sci-Fi, Some Horror (Not King! Man I hate King!), Mystery, Some Historical Fiction. I guess it means I am a pretty unorganized, off the wall goof!
Kelkhil
The Shirtless Forsaken
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Yay MSG! Good Topic.
Having managed bookstores for most of my adult life, I always look at a person's bookshelf and see a reflection of them. I don't look into medicine cabinets, I look at bookshelves.
Alphabetized? Things all askew? No organization whatsoever? Fiction and Non-Fiction mixed?
Bookshelves really resemble their owners. Like pets, only quieter. Generally.
*So, MsG. Tired, huh? 
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CMH, I have been in your shoes, I think. There have been things I wanted that other people had...I felt jealousy, but seldom acted on it. Mostly, it had to do with who they were dating at the time, things like that. It's human nature to want what you can't have at times, and everyone is guilty of it. I would say that acting on an irrational jealousy would be bad...but having the feeling itself? Nope. Been there!
I think everyone has wished someone else were dead at one point or another in their lives, and sometimes daydream about doing it. This is also healthy, as long as it is not acted out, obviously. I believe there are healthy ways to deal with these feelings, such as letting them run their course...it's not necessary to lock them away, or to try to purge them.
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Originally posted by Mavourneen:
Bookshelves really resemble their owners. Like pets, only quieter. Generally.
Then you can't come over to my house
! All the book shelves are filled and double stacked! They used to be organised but have long since lost that quality. You also cannot enter a room in my house and not spot at least one stack of books on a counter or someplace else that they do not belong.Kelkhil
The Shirtless Forsaken
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CMH- I think you mean envy- when you want something that is possessed by another. Hmm I'd say yes it's fine to feel something as long as you know better than to act on it. For example, today one of my students was sitting on my last nerve. He's kind of smug about his "tough guy" thing and I am well aware that I could easily take him down. I'd love to do it and wipe the smirk off his face, but that'd be totally wrong. So instead I sent him to another class, met with him after and talked about why I was bothered and what I needed and we made a contract...I still really want to smack that smirk off, but I won't. SO I guess this is a long way of saying, feelings are instinctual and impulsive we do not always control them. Acting on them is a choice and as long as we refrain from acting on bad/evil/unkind impulses, having them is just part of being human. Having a lot of them might mean you need to look at why you have them and what you can do to find another way to think:) HUGS
EDIT- I have so many books that there are 8 bookshelves, 3 corner shelves, 9 under bed boxes, one book bucket, and three or four other surfaces with books covering them...I have a problem, I accept that, and I buy more books:)
Tristan- My big ones are Alan Rickman, Tony Todd, Sean Bean...what can I say, I like older, aggressive, intelligent guys with more than a little wickedness in their souls...
"A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort."- Albright
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You just HAD to mention him, didn't you.
He's Bean-tastic.
And, just to clarify, my shelves overfloweth as well. Not neat at all.
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Catching up with you guys is an effort in futility. I'll just stick with the latest and greatest.
Bookshelf: too many fiction books. I guess I wish the world were a cooler place. I also think I have too many books since I hardly ever reread the majority of them. Though it is nice to be able to just grab one before a flight or something. Anyway MsG's collection would put me to shame. I just have a couple shelves worth.
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