Male and Female Imponderables--Blue Eyes Crying In The Rain
POSTED BY: Tristan
UPDATED: Monday, November 13, 2006 22:30
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LOL Q
... I often ponder this myownself!! 
You are truly living up to your new title!!
Traveler - so sorry about the frustration 
...t'wasn't our intention, and we'll try to be good... we promise! 
Thank you for the description of your beautiful Wisconsin! Did I tell you that I grew up reading and re-reading Laura Ingalls Wilder's Little House books... Christmas in the winter sounded like magic to me... and snow angels is another thing I would like to do one day... Oh - and I once received the most wicked but hilarious Christmas card from a gay friend - it involved a tiny Santa Clause on ring, through a piercing... I'll let you work out where the piercing was
Hello ShinyKitten - I missed you before!! Sorry sweetheart! How is life up there in Sydney?
BSPantherfan! Hi! You have been missed - I don't think you've been around for months! Are there any productions by the Birmingham Opera next September...? coz I know an Aussie theatre fan who might be in the general vicinity
All caught up?.. I think so... 
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I think the only reason I never had the 'nasty nekkid dream' was because nudity was never a big thing for me. Although there are damn good reasons for wearing clothes (First of all, I hate being cold, and it's cold all damn year, and secondly, it's kinda illegal to walk around in the altogether...), I've never really placed too much importance on them. Hell, I can't say I've ever discarded a clothing option due to style or design, rather for odor or presense of stains and discolorments. I'm just lackidasical in the clothing department.
Which, I guess, makes it somewhat lucky I was born a man, eh?
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I ain't lookin' for help from on high. That's a damn long wait for a train don't come.
98% of teens have smoked pot, if you are one of the 2% that haven't, copy this into your signature.
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Originally posted by ChrisMoorhead:
Hell, MSG went out of her way to make a new topic for me to feel comfortable, and I don't respond until now? I'm such a jerk...
But as to your question... I don't know what an SO is unless you're talking about a senior officer. Regardless, there's not a whole lot of dangerous activities left for me to partake in. I mean, I could try dating again... that always scared the hell outta me.
And since you keep bringing it up, I wear an old pair of elastic cuff martial arts pants and an Army or National Guard promotional shirt to sleep in. In spite of my profile picture, I'm usually a very reserved dresser.
Desktophippie - No female friends. The last one I had ending up dating and cheating on a male friend. I can't say that there's any one reason that I don't keep female friends. A large part is probably just being so opposite to any and all female personalities and ways of thinking. Also I don't believe that it's possible to have a completely platonic relationship with a woman outside of the family. And... bad experiences. I was resentful towards my own mother for a long time, and even though I'm mostly over that, there's probably some psychological transfer to all women in general. Guys are just easier friends for me. They forgive easier and are harder to offend in the first place.
Aw HUGS CMH- It doesn't make you a jerk it's just fine and I have to say, just based on your general perception of women and such...your mom is not very nice. HUGS oh and thanks for explaining the pants. Note I am stopping now before I get even further into a night attire thing...
Soft porn...boring. Though I am laughing now because a friend of mine saw William Petersen ( the guy who plays Grissom in CSI) in a soft porn thing and she can't watch CSI because she has little pics in her head of him in the porn:)
"A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort."- Albright
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Nah, my mom's pretty good. She works at a church, sells houses on the side, one of those single mother types who's all kinds of busy raising my little sister. Very intelligent woman. But it was her second husband that used to beat on me when I was younger, and even though she didn't know about it until I got hospitalized, I think I resented her for it subconsciously. She was also just never very... nurturing. Her father disowned her when she was like 12, and she got beaten by her own grandfather until she was 16. By then she was already going to college and living on her own, so she's pretty quick to call me and other people lazy.
My resentment towards her was never fair or reasonable, and I'm glad that I've mostly moved past it. But I don't think my social interaction with the female gender could ever be fixed unless I really put effort in to it. But that's not going to happen.
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Place my body on a ship and burn it on the sea,
Let my spirit rise, Valkiries carry me.
Take me to Valhalla where my brothers wait for me.
Fires burn into the sky, my spirit will never die.
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CMH-I will definitely agree that women take offense far more easily ( yes this is a generalization and I will say the women here don't fit into it) and that guys get past stuff faster and don't seem to hold grudges as much. But I promise we're not all bad and you might want to try again some time. Also I'd say being not very nurturing, ignoring abuse( well not paying enough attention to realize your child was being abused) and calling your child lazy and other things makes her a lousy mom in my book and not a very nice person either and I'd say that resentment is fairly justified...HUGS
"A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort."- Albright
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heya Magda!
i'm all good, thanks! got one more week of intense uni work to do, then i am finished for the year! YAAAY!!
CMH, i agree with MSG, your resentment of your mum sounds totaly justifiable. she doesn't sound like a nice person. supportive hugs and s for you.
also, good to see you here in Imponderable land!
-hey, have you ever read anything by Matthew Reilly?? he's an Auzzie writer. you might like his stuff. there's a book of his called Ice Station...you should try it out, i think you would like it. his books are like reading an action movie, but in a good way.
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Hi all... I did write a huge ramble about my own experiences in my teens, and how they have impacted on my struggles with depression from time to time, and how they have led to me being pretty laid back and difficult to anger. (Except by my mother... who can turn me into a tantrum-ridden, 2-year-old in a flash!)
Sorry Imponderers... it was too much and too difficult to share, but I thank you all the same - I have saved what I wrote and it was cathartic to write it down and clarify a little piece of the 'Magda-puzzle'!
Suffice to say that I have never talked about this with anyone but two of my closest friends in my entire life (& a cousellor too) but that I see how my experiences led me to being very laid back... almost unnable to hold a grudge and very non-compeditive! It's funny how various circumstances trigger different responses in people!
May I just say that for all the honest and very frank disussions we've had here - there is always that element of care and acceptance in this thread that makes the Imponderers like family, I really treasure the friends I have made here and I look forward to catching up every day!
Woah - that was heavy - but I wanted to thank Chris too - you really seem to be openning up to us Chris - I see a change in the way you post and I really appreciate it! I wish you good health in all ways possible, and that things work out for the best in your life!
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King of the Mythical Land that is Iowa
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aaawwwww...group hug everybody!!
i second Madga's thankyou to everyone on the site.
one of the things that makes this group so wonderful is that the community here is incredibly supportive and accepting. you can feel as though you can say anything and everyone here will rally around you and be as supportive as they can be.
thankyou all for your love, support and compassion.
anyway....do we have an imponderable?
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Thank you Penguin!!!!! such a welcome huggle!!
And thank you too ShinyKitten - It is true isn't it - we are able to share the fun and funny things and the serious and sometimes risky things the haunt us... That is what a family should be like of course!!
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