Male and Female Imponderables Part IV

POSTED BY: Tristan
UPDATED: Monday, May 22, 2006 13:18
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TAYEATRA

Thursday, May 18, 2006 6:22 PM

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Originally posted by mal4prez:

Re talking - I've only ever been afraid of talking to the Beautiful People (anyone else hear Marilyn Manson here?), you know, the uber stylish trendy ones who watched every episode of Dawson's Creek and Friends and really worry about accessorizing. I just don't have anything in common, and I've known a few of those types who were downright mean.

And it's not that I'm a dog or anything. I'm fine with how I look. Its just not the focus of my life, and I don't like feeling like people are judging me based on my fashion choices and my ability to talk vacuously about nothing.

That's unfair though, there are Beautiful People out there who are very nice and intelligent, so I'm trying to get over it.

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I'm the president. I don't need to listen.

In my 6th form we used to have a name for that particular 'popular' grouping. They were known as the 'So-Shallow' crew. One on their own was fine but more than that and you just avoided them. They seemed to think that everyone had the same opinions as them so they tended to speak up in general terms. Most people just ended up sat there wondering who gave them the right to speak for everyone.

I too am trying to get over this bias because I've noticed I'm naturally inclined to dislike these sorts of people based on past experiences.

Really not fair of me...

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Taya
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I'm going to S3!!!
(*Insert hysterical celebration dance here*)

DAYVE

Thursday, May 18, 2006 6:22 PM

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Originally posted by EmmaRigby:
I did worry at one point about smothering him but he didn't seem to mind!!

just a quick reference point... most men don't mind being 'smothered' by women....

WORSHIPMAL

Thursday, May 18, 2006 6:43 PM

Hey Mal4Prez! It’s super shiny that we’re “outing” all the tall women… guess there are more of us out there than I thought!

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So, not that it's a requirement, but I've always dated men who were equal height or shorter. I would like to be with a tall guy for a while, just for the novelty of it. Is that bad of me?

I certainly don't think you're wrong to yearn a bit for a taller man. It’s like Tristan said, that’s something that’s hard wired in us to a certain degree. As a tall woman it can be so frustrating because it feels like if you look for a taller man, the dating pool shrivels into this tiny little droplet!

There is another thing I just thought of that I think has a lot to do with the comfort level of the guy when it comes to dating a taller woman… in the case of me and my ex, the more I think about it the more it dawns on me that it wasn’t so much an inherent problem he had with it, but that other people are constantly commenting on it so it never really can become a non-issue. What’s your experience on that front M4P?

EMMARIGBY

Thursday, May 18, 2006 6:52 PM

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Originally posted by Tristan:
You have a point there. I have never dated someone taller than me barefooted. I think I could do it, but I am not sure.
Pysche-wise, the male is supposed to be larger (read taller) than the female. It is a protection thing, living in our "old" brain. The male is supposed to be able to protect the female (yes, old-fashoined notion, but I still subscribe to it), but if the female is actually taller than the male, it creates a dilema in the male brain. I am not sure about the other males, but when in a potentially hostile situation, I do not look at how muscled or built the threat is, I look at how tall he is. So, if the female is taller, the male can't really protect her. Ok, totally wrong, possibly, but it came in our wiring. Some males can get over this, and I applaud them. I have not been faced with the situation, so I am not sure how I could handle it.

Hope that clarified my first statement a little better...

Holding until you get back, Captain.

Grrr argh! This could explain why I've had so much trouble all my life getting dates. Come to think of it I had a stunningly attractive (in my opinion) friend at uni who was of the tall and she had never even been kissed!

However I do forgive you for your silly caveman brain because I think I might have a touch of it too! Most of the women that I find attractive are little and fragile.

Still I do occassionally yearn to be whisked of my feet by a big strong man. Trouble is I've never found one up to the job. I'd always be afraid that they'd crumple under all [mumble mumble] stones of my weight!

DAYVE

Thursday, May 18, 2006 6:59 PM

please forgive the interruption in this fascinating discussion, but i just found this little clip that i think is very funny... and wanted to share with everyone..'specially the shiny people from the UK...

gotta love the BBC

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2006/05/18/watch-bbc-news-interview-_n_2
1201.html

EMMARIGBY

Thursday, May 18, 2006 7:09 PM

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Originally posted by Dayve:
please forgive the interruption in this fascinating discussion, but i just found this little clip that i think is very funny... and wanted to share with everyone..'specially the shiny people from the UK...

gotta love the BBC

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2006/05/18/watch-bbc-news-interview-_n_2
1201.html

Oh, I read about this in the paper! Apparently the poor guy was there to apply for an IT job and just thought that this was a really tough interview technique! You gotta feel for him!

DAYVE

Thursday, May 18, 2006 7:14 PM

i thought he did very well... i would hire him!

DAYVE

Thursday, May 18, 2006 7:32 PM

ok... sorry about that... please continue with the imponderables...

i'll just be over here, sorting my sock drawer....
move along...nothing to see here....move along....

WORSHIPMAL

Thursday, May 18, 2006 7:35 PM

LOL - that is great! I love how he just goes with it!

MAL4PREZ

Thursday, May 18, 2006 7:37 PM

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Originally posted by WorshipMal:
There is another thing I just thought of that I think has a lot to do with the comfort level of the guy when it comes to dating a taller woman… in the case of me and my ex, the more I think about it the more it dawns on me that it wasn’t so much an inherent problem he had with it, but that other people are constantly commenting on it so it never really can become a non-issue. What’s your experience on that front M4P?

I never had comments from others, but I never talked to any of my boufriends about it either, didn't want to touch a nerve. So maybe it bugs the guy, but I never knew.

Actually, one man I dated in undergrad was an inch shorter than me but he was a cowboy who used to be an Iowa state cheerleader (no shit!) and had no problem with my height. We'd go out swing dancing and he'd flip me over and around and all that. I loved it!

One of my fave couples is a 6'1" woman and maybe 5'8" man, who are so in love and so perfect together because they're both very settled on who they are. And she's an MIT PhD and he's a writer from a Hispanic farming family in CA who are all big on the protective powerful man thing. So it can be overcome, if you meet the right person!

I just like the idea of being able to hug with my head under his chin, you know? And wear high heels without feeling like a giraffe. Of course, I could fulfill that need by making a guy stand on a stair from time to time.

There are much more important things than height, and I'll take those first.

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I'm the president. I don't need to listen.

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