Male and Female Imponderables Part IV
POSTED BY: Tristan
UPDATED: Monday, May 22, 2006 13:18
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Wa Hoo!!!!!!!!! 
An I carried such a torch
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Yes, it worked out pretty well 
Now I just have to see if I can get a repeat performance in again soon!
I also want to get in on some of these other topics - so much fun!
I am not a huge fan of jewelry on men as a rule, but I definitely agree with Mal4Prez that it depends on the guy. If you can pull it off, it can be sexy. But I tend to prefer that my men err on the side of too little bling rather than too much.
Talking during sex is one of the toughest things to get used to. It can be so awkward, but it can also be so HOT. CoPilot - I too have had times in my life when it seemed like if he wasn't gonna talk dirty to me then I just wasn't going to get there. But ultimately, there are lots of other things that work! I guess I can take it or leave it. And like PhoenixRose, I'm pretty vocal too in a non-coherent way. Sometimes I talk a little bit, but I'm never quiet! I do a lot of screaming into the pillow to keep the neighbors from calling the cops.
Finally - cuddling! I adore it and this was a big problem with me and my ex, who had a very typical "I'm a guy and afterwards I just want to have some space" attitude. He was warm and affectionate, don't get me wrong, but not much of a cuddler. Now, my current boyfriend, I am convinced, could win an Olympic gold medal for cuddling. We literally sleep all night every night totally entwined. Often we wake up in the exact same position we fell asleep in. And we have it down pretty well so that we are both really comfortable. This reminds me of the brief discussion on spooning that made an appearance in Imponderables part deux... it works great when he puts his arm out just under my neck, so that it is just a very slight cushion for me and my head isn't weighing down on him. Then nobody's arm falls asleep, and we can lay like that for hours!
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Awwwwwwwww....
Yay for you! I am jealous of the cuddling. I am sad I have no one to cuddle. I agree with the arm under neck thing, btw.
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One summer.
One mission.
One legion of Browncoats.
Starting June 23rd, we aim to misbehave.
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Don't be sad PhoenixRose! You are young yet. You'll find a champion cuddler of your own I am very sure!
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I hope so!
'Tis not easy for me, the finding of people I actually wish to cuddle. The talking and falling for people. The wondering if they actually like me or not. (this is due to many past experiences.) Then with the finally being able to cuddle...
*sigh*
No, 'tis not easy.
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One summer.
One mission.
One legion of Browncoats.
Starting June 23rd, we aim to misbehave.
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WorshipMal, Shiny! Glad it worked! And the line you used would have worked on any man! Dessert first...yeah, ok!
Holding until you get back, Captain.
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Originally posted by PhoenixRose:
The finding of people I actually wish to cuddle. The talking and falling for people. The wondering if they actually like me or not. (this is due to many past experiences.) Then with the finally being able to cuddle...
I sooo hear you. It's never easy... although it can sometimes seem like it is for everyone else. But trust me - for someone as self-aware and comfortable in her own skin as you seem to be, it can only get easier!
And Tristan - thanks again for the great tip
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Thanks!
It's good to hear that because sometimes I feel like my self-aware kinda gets in my way. Maybe it's better to say it limits my options somewhat. I wouldn't give it up, but sometimes I wonder if I'll just stumble across someone who will actually fnd it attractive.
For the record, a lot of men have seemed to find it attractive initially, and said it was a good thing, and then gotten a little unnerved by it. I think I have witnessed actual devolution of spirit in these instances. Sad and tragic 
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One summer.
One mission.
One legion of Browncoats.
Starting June 23rd, we aim to misbehave.
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It wasn't just me, WorshipMal, all the browncoats come together to help!
No, it's not easy to find the right person. I can't speak, as I have found mine (or did she find me...?), but keep at it. Look at every failed match as experience; you will always learn something good even from something bad...like what to look for in the next partner. Or, if all else fails, come talk to us...we are here to help! Browncoat Lovin' Helpline...what to do when your mate is an idiot! Can a Browncoat find happiness out in the black?
Holding until you get back, Captain.
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Wow, the fourth incarnation. The imponderables just keep coming don't they?
I don't know if this had been brought up already, but here goes:
Since much of this thread doesn't actually apply to me (I've never had a boyfriend or had sex) I thought I'd bring up a topic that does. I've always had trouble talking to people (though when I was a child it was easier to speak with boys). So I was wondering how many of you guys find it easy to speak with the opposite sex, or people in general.
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"The path of the righteous man is beset on all sides by the inequities of the selfish and the tyranny of evil men. Blessed is he who, in the name of charity and good will, shepherds the weak through the valley of the darkness. For he is truly his brother's keeper and the finder of lost children. And I will strike down upon thee with great vengeance and furious anger those who attempt to poison and destroy my brothers. And you will know I am the Lord when I lay my vengeance upon you."
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