Male and Female Imponderables, the Third
POSTED BY: Tristan
UPDATED: Thursday, May 18, 2006 01:06
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Originally posted by mal4prez:
Anyway, I've never been so forward in a relationship, not sure if a man would feel like he was being used by being so accosted, but that's silly. Most men would love that. No?
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See this fits right in with what I'm talking about. My ex was WAY into sex, probably a little too much, but I think it got me used to the idea that men are supposed to want it all the time. We got carried away in any number of inappropriate places... but my current guy is practically the opposite. He surely enjoys sex, and knows what he is doing, but I never feel like he is overcome by lust... I guess my point is that there are definitely guys out there who are unbelievably turned on by something like that, and others whose reaction is just "no way, are you crazy?!?" I am trying to convert my current guy into being a little more of the former, but I'm not sure if it's working. Do you all think it's even possible?
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So - as an aside - you've all seen Fried Green Tomatoes, right? Where what's her name meets her husband at the door dressed in saran wrap?
Well, for work I recently had to ship big things, and I went out to buy a roll, 2 feet wide and ~3 feet in diameter, of bubble wrap.
Oh the fun that could ensue...
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Let's see if I can get this down before another post gets there first...
Mal4Prez, I can give you a resounding YES on that question. Again, unable to speak for all males, but it is great when I get ambushed, used for all I am worth, and left in a quivering pile on the floor while she bounces away to do something else. It doesn't happen often, but when it does, I have a dumb grin on my face for days.
So, by all means, do what you have to!
WorshipMal, it may not be totally necessary to meet him at the door in a teddy. Have you tried talking? Sorry, that may sound weird, but give me a minute. This approach is similar to the "ambush", but is much more subtle and refined...whispering in his ear that you would like to make love here and now. That way, you are initiating, and yet he becomes the agressor. With encouragement, most males will become the agressor, but we do need an indication that this is what you want. Try that, see if it works.
Does that make sense?
Holding until you get back, Captain.
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Originally posted by WorshipMal:
I guess my point is that there are definitely guys out there who are unbelievably turned on by something like that, and others whose reaction is just "no way, are you crazy?!?" I am trying to convert my current guy into being a little more of the former, but I'm not sure if it's working. Do you all think it's even possible?
I'm thinking a lot of these issues could be avoided if a couple could just sit down and talk about it openly. What do you like, what do I like, etc.
Which is something I've always dreaded, being a properly prudish American. Sex talk, oh fear, discomfort, yikes! I think I'm getting over it in my middle age, thank goodness.
Now, is that stereotypical chick behavior or what, suggesting that talking will fix everything... LOL!
EDIT: great suggestion re the sex talk Tristan! What an excellent solution.
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Originally posted by mal4prez:
Now, is that stereotypical chick behavior or what, suggesting that talking will fix everything... LOL!
Well it must not be since you and Tristan suggested it at the same time! The advice sounds good to me. I definitely like the whispering sweet naughties into his ear idea... maybe I'll try that tonight
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The whispering has always worked for me...well, to me...um, against me? No, when it's used on me. Yeah, that makes more sense.
Good luck!
Holding until you get back, Captain.
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Originally posted by WorshipMal:
Well it must not be since you and Tristan suggested it at the same time! The advice sounds good to me. I definitely like the whispering sweet naughties into his ear idea... maybe I'll try that tonight
Well... I recommended boring grown-up talk, and Tristan added the naughty part. I like his idea much better!
Good luck with that...
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Thank you both - maybe I'll start an "Imponderables Part IV" thread tomorrow and let you know the result!
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Thank you both - maybe I'll start an "Imponderables Part IV" thread tomorrow and let you know the result!
Excellent plan!
I'm out for the night, fun thread all!
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Worship Mal,
Per your idea, I will start Part IV. Not getting presumptuous, but I started the first one, and I'd like to continue hosting these...please don't take that the wrong way...I'll create the thread now...
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