Male and Female Imponderables, the Third
POSTED BY: Tristan
UPDATED: Thursday, May 18, 2006 01:06
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They're on sale at the fight!
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I am on The List. We are The Forsaken and we aim to burn!
"We don't fear the reaper"
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Originally posted by mal4prez:
Men - what would you want your lover to do in this situation? Would it crush your manly ego to know she just wants you to finish up
I just can't get into sex unless there is mutual arousal...boring sex is, well, boring...might as well be playing golf...(sorta the same feeling...)
I don't think I have a fragile ego, but i've been down so long it all looks like up to me.... (that's a joke, son)
I think if you are with someone who is bored of having sex with you, maybe it's time to move on... Maybe sex isn't the only part of the relationship, but until you hit those golden years it is a large part.
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Raises hand quietly while sitting in the back row.
And I married him. Going on 18 years now. And it is still a mind-blowing wonderful experience.
And you all thought you were strange.
EDIT: Clearly, I don't know how to work my computer or how to post on this board. I was trying to respond to Emmarigby's question about the first time being a mindblowing wonderful experience. But my post is so far removed from the original I doubt anyone could understand it. When I tried to edit, it failed, so now I'm double posting with an explanation. Yeah me for spoiling the mood.
Carry on as if I never entered the thread.
There's no place I can be since I found serenity.
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Originally posted by Tristan:
And as a side note, I would hate to find out that a lover had been bored...talk about an ego-killer...
I hear ya, but I'm not talking about boredom, just occasional physical impossibility. I guess I'm like a man in that I got one time and I'm done for. Makes for tough logistics, re who's first.
Like someone else said, I've had the good fortune to have considerate lovers (or the stereotype of selfish men is overdone) and sometimes they try so hard, I don't want to disappoint...
I've decided that the fault is often mine for not being more open about how things are... it's just that the topic doesn't tend to come up beforehand, and I'm so afraid of crushing that ego! Must tread carefully!
Edit: [and warning for the too much detail, but this is kind of fun to vent] I should add that this is mostly based on my last BF, the stoner, who'd sometimes be too high and have a difficult time, a-hem, finishing up. It was sometimes unclear if he was waiting for me or what. I wasn't sure what to do about it.
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I'm the president. I don't need to listen.
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You are just fine. Double posts happen to me by accident all the time. At least you had a reason.
And thanks btw. I thought you were saying you faked all the time and it was mind blowing!
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Don't go away!!! You could probably give a lot of good advice Faultisfirst.
An I carried such a torch
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I would rather a lover told me things weren't going right, and either end it, or guide me in the right direction. It is so much easier for a man to "get off" that I think it is very important to focus on the female...and the female body is a wonderful playground! (don't take that the wrong way) It is vital to give as much pleasure as possible before the peak is reached. In a perfect world, the male would know exactly what to do, when, and how often...however, the erogenous zones of a female are elusive creatures. What turns you on one time may not have the same reaction the next. I love exploring and finding out where these spots went, but sometimes I like to know if I'm doing alright. No, I don't need scorecards held up (
) or anything like that, but gentle guidance is nice.
My findings; they may be exclusive or shared by other males...
Holding until you get back, Captain.
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I have to go to the store to get a new keyboard now. I shouldn't drink pop while reading at the 'puter.
Very, very funny FMF.
To be clear, I've never faked. I've never had to. Am I lucky or what!
Any complaining on this topic has never had to do with the quality issue with my guy. Quantity maybe, but not quality. Perhaps if quality were the issue, quantity (or lack there of) wouldn't be the issue.
I can't believe I just told how many "strangers" this. 
There's no place I can be since I found serenity.
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There are no strangers here...we are all just folk.
It helps to type out issues, problems, and views...that is what this thread is for.
Thank you for sharing, Flautisfirst, and welcome to the thread (should have done that earlier, sorry!)
Holding until you get back, Captain.
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Thats the beauty of a virtual world. We could walk right by each other and never know it!
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