Male and Female Imponderables
POSTED BY: Tristan
UPDATED: Tuesday, September 26, 2006 15:29
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I'm not sure what it is Tristan but you and I seem to be on the same page here. I think it is great that you and your wife sword fight together. My wife is more of a watcher while I do the sword fighting. As for the flirting thing, you seem to have it down. I don't think that there is anything wrong with it. To make an intellectual connection with someone else is not a bad thing. It gives a certain level of thrill to both parties. It's a good feeling as should be felt by everyone. There does not have to be any mention of the physical. What I have with my wife is a great thing and I would not change it for the world. It sounds like Tristan and his wife are much the same. Congratulations! It is more like a fun game in which all parties feel good about themselves. I don't know how much this is going to help Tristan, but I do know that chivalry has passed many people by over these many years.
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So many topics already in this thread:
Smaller breasts have more sensitive nipples:
I think this may stem from the fact that when a woman gets a breast enlargement the nerves often end up damaged so they may look pretty but they aren't going to give the girl much of a thrill... One of the reasons I decided against this procedure back in my 20s. I was foolishly dating and ended up marrying (later divorcing) a boob man when I should have gotten myself a butt guy. C'est la vie!
Flirting:
Not my forte but I appreciate it when it's done well. I guess it could be classified as a game depending on the intentions of the people involved. It is kind of a dangerous gateway for marrieds or "committeds", IMHO.
Bad boys:
Love 'em. This is frankly because, in my limited experience, they are better in bed. I don't need a man to support me or be a father to my children. I can take care of fixin' things or have the means to pay to have them fixed. So they only thing I need a man for is sex. Nice guys are just too nice for the kind of sex I like - even when I tell them exactly what I want. (Please, don't e-mail me any offers - I'm happy with what I have right now!)
Makeup:
Again, in my experience men who say they don't like make-up mean they don't like an artificial look. They prefer the "natural" look which means no blue/green eyeshadow, heavy eyeliner, deep red rouge or lipstick. But most (I'm sure there are a few exceptions) seem to like the look of a tinted chapstick and a bit of mascara (waterproof).
These are my opinions/experience and not meant to say anybody else is wrong. Viva la difference! 
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Thank you, Lysander. It's good to know I am not alone.
Sex...no, I did not mention it. With my wife, wonderful, with others, not an interest of mine. I am completely happy with what I have in that department, but we both also love the flirting...like you said, weird to those that don't understand. No, we are not swingers, and no, neither one of us is having an affair--that is for all the others reading this with a raised eyebrow.
Chivalry is not dead by any stretch of the imagination...at least in my little world!
MSCKAREN, it is nice to see an opinion like that. Thank you for being frank! I, for one, have always wondered if females feel the same level of lusts as males do.
Holding until you get back, Captain.
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I certainly hope you don't go around (a) telling girls your IQ or (b) telling them that you are a crap load smarter than they are!
Suffice it to say that I am very intelligent. Some me are intimidated by that, I just don't date those men.
You should find girls more your equal.
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Appreciate the input TRISTAN. Through the grapevine the feelings are mutual, but we just haven't met in the middle yet. She is not married and I have enough self respect to hold out for someone who can meet my prerequisites, (better looking, richer, and smarter than me). She also understsnds that I'd been places and done things I'm not proud of. She sees me as the "hero" everyone else sees, but she beats my ego to a pulp when it emerges. She left me all turned about and Mal-adjusted.
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Originally posted by 13:
In general, would you feel unattracted to a guy if was a crapload smarter than you? I've learned from experience that it does, and have suffered greatly from my damn 156 i.q, as lots of girls immediately classify me as a nerd or a geek.
(Just realized the irony of that statement.)
I think a little chaos is in order.
I'm not a teen-ager, but YES! '
Men who are alot smarter than I am intimidate and scare the hell out of me. If I can't keep up in a conversation, or if they're suddenly calculating the algorithm that determines the amount of salt that falls out of a salt shaker at dinner (I shit you not. It has happened to me on a date!), I get scared and run away like the dumb bunny I am!
Alot of that has far more to do with my own insecurities. I know I'm not stupid, but I'm never going to be a River Tam. Anything more advanced than Algebra 101 is beyond my mathematical ability.
So, to have a guy who thinks way beyond my capabilities, even though he may think the world of me, and reassure me constantly that he thinks I'm smart- well, I feel like a moron constantly. And that's not fun.
As for breasts, as a bisexual with a pair of my own, I think I can honestly say from experience that it depends on the woman, not the breast.
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Quote:
Originally posted by 13:
In general, would you feel unattracted to a guy if was a crapload smarter than you? I've learned from experience that it does, and have suffered greatly from my damn 156 i.q, as lots of girls immediately classify me as a nerd or a geek.
(Just realized the irony of that statement.)
In a teenager? If the IQ wasn't matched by a bit of obvious emotional intelligence, frankly, yes. In an older guy who's had time to a) develop and b) demonstrate said social IQ, I'd see it as an asset.
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Not a problem, NVGhostrider. Sometimes a stranger has some good input, sometimes not...
Let me know how it works out.
Holding until you get back, Captain.
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Quote:
Originally posted by 13:
What moron said everbody hates Chris? Was it Fox? Whatever. Alright, question for all the teenage girls out there:
In general, would you feel unattracted to a guy if was a crapload smarter than you? I've learned from experience that it does, and have suffered greatly from my damn 156 i.q, as lots of girls immediately classify me as a nerd or a geek.
(Just realized the irony of that statement.)
I think a little chaos is in order.
Again, not a teenage girl, but having actually been out with a near genius I feel I can comment. It was actually his intellect that drew me to him. Sometimes he just said things that were so witty and clever that I just had to jump on him and rip all his clothes off! (On reflection this might have been my genes controlling me, as he's have made superior kids! Damn biology and its subliminal effects!)
The problem came when he became short tempered and impatient with me when I couldn't keep up. Because I wasn't as instantly articulate as him and occasionally had trouble expressing my thoughts in presicely correct terms he would tend to dismiss whatever I said! Very frustrating and horribly bad for the ego! So a little warning, develop your patience skills. It'll get you more sex for longer!
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Originally posted by jpstargazer:
I don't really care what physical feature women check out first, as I can't really change any of that. I do want to know how a girl's interest in you is so "subtle" that you don't even notice until it's too late, and then it's all to apparent (guilty of this on several occasions).
LOL, historically I've been absolutely clueless when it comes to a girl dropping hints my way :) This has been known to go on for years. Doesn't generally help that I've never been terribly good at broaching the whole "you and me" subject with anyone I've been interested in. ('Course that's where my little sister comes in handy, as it's always so terribly obvious to her :)
To be fair, though, I think I've been guilty of the same thing: being too subtle about being interested in someone.
Far as the wrist to middle-finger thing: that's pretty accurate on my end I suppose.
And I'd generally rather not have her spend too much time on my own nipples (maybe as I guy I'm still not terribly settled on just why I have them or something :) But in the interests of fair play, I've been known to acquiesce to the wishes of my partner on more than one occasion. :P
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