Male and Female Imponderables
POSTED BY: Tristan
UPDATED: Tuesday, September 26, 2006 15:29
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I would have to agree with Chris when he says that the ladies don't need make-up. My wife stopped wearing it shortly after we met and I think she is more beautiful without it. I'm not sure what the comment about the 30 year old boys is. I don't think that there is anything wrong with acting young as long as you know when to do it.
Tristan, great question. I have been with my wife for 12 years and married for 8. We have gone through some rough times with illness but never had a problem where we have really fought. I do beleive that trust is huge in a marriage but I think the thing that works for my marriage is that my wife is my best friend. We talk about anything and everything and there's nothing kept secret.
Simon: What if he(Mal) tells you to kill me.
Zoe: (without hesitation) I kill you.
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I also don't think that there is a problem with flirting. I have an excellent relationship with my wife, but we both have a tendency to flirt. It doesn't go beyond that. Again, much like Tristan said, it is a long story. It makes people feel good and I like to make people feel good.
Simon: What if he(Mal) tells you to kill me.
Zoe: (without hesitation) I kill you.
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What moron said everbody hates Chris? Was it Fox? Whatever. Alright, question for all the teenage girls out there:
In general, would you feel unattracted to a guy if was a crapload smarter than you? I've learned from experience that it does, and have suffered greatly from my damn 156 i.q, as lots of girls immediately classify me as a nerd or a geek.
(Just realized the irony of that statement.)
I think a little chaos is in order.
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hate make up...rarely wear it. maybe twice a month.
You see? She's not a junkie or mentally ill, she's gifted!--Momma Roxy
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Not a teen girl...but as a teen, i was always fond of the nerds, geeks, and dorks...but i was one.
I still prefer the glasses and shelf full of books...a brain is always sexier than a body.
You see? She's not a junkie or mentally ill, she's gifted!--Momma Roxy
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Not to travel into the realm of fantasy (wait, isn't this board dedicated to....no, it IS reality), but I am a follower of the idea of chivalric love. "You have a significant other who you love and are devoted to, and you flirt?" Well, yes, let me explain.
Flirting is an art form, and at it's higher levels, can be as exciting as love. The chivalric ideal was to love someone in every way but physically.
Lysander, as a fellow medievalist, you may be able to help me here.
It's sort of like having the beginning part of a relationship, the intense, adrenaline-inducing part, last for a long time. My wife and I still have this; we still flirt, we are best friends, and we also fight together (literally, like with swords). Both of us are flirts, although I have slacked off lately.
It's not that easy to explain in words, but it is almost a game; an intellectual pas de deux that enriches both lives without creating the akwardness of an affair of the flesh...
Any of this making sense, or have I managed to tree myself?
Lysander....help?
Holding until you get back, Captain.
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For anyone in the 'verse that could give me a bit of advice. My quandry has recently come to a very surpising head. A "friend" has recently distanced herself from her other, albeit lesser half. My best friend, (who happens to be female), warned me about becoming "that guy". Everyone knows "that guy". The guy after someone serious who somehow snaked his way in despite being a total gorram tool. My mistake may or may not be the fact that I've not allowed myself to give in to the only great woman that has excited me mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually in TEN years, (and I'm 28). I've already made the decision to peraue her, but I'm in serious help on how.
PS. All the guys I asked agreed with the wrist to middle fingertip thing.
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My only concern would be whether or not she is married. That would make a world of difference. If she is, be her friend until the divorce is final, then see what happens. If she's not...well, I would still be careful. It would also be helpful if she felt the same for you.
Holding until you get back, Captain.
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I find that it isn't really the things I DON'T know about women that puzzle me, but the things I DO know about men.
As a guy, I don't really care to know why women go to the bathroom in packs (because I assumed it wasn't the reason I wished they went in there together). I do wonder who invented the urinal buffer rules? Do they still apply if there are dividers? Why is there that one guy who insists on peeing next to me and then tries to start a conversation?
I don't really care what physical feature women check out first, as I can't really change any of that. I do want to know how a girl's interest in you is so "subtle" that you don't even notice until it's too late, and then it's all to apparent (guilty of this on several occasions).
And I swear God gave men unreliable brains because certain parts just don't work when women are involved. I mean reason, judgement, and sometimes coherent speech? Nonexistent in the presence of certain females.
I have accepted that women are quirky (I think that's putting it kindly) but the fact that men are fundamentally simple, and we can't even change that of which we are aware is what puzzles me.
"All I got is a red guitar, three chords, and the truth...the rest is up to you"
--Bono
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Quote:
Originally posted by wildigstart:
Not a teen girl...but as a teen, i was always fond of the nerds, geeks, and dorks...but i was one.
I still prefer the glasses and shelf full of books...a brain is always sexier than a body.
Amen!
Serenity,
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