In the garden, and RAIN!!!!
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Originally posted by SIGNYM:Quote:Nah.... the Stepford Wives of the USA have fogotten all about it!
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Muh Ukraine monkeypox!
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That was some seriously awesome work, SIX.
I divide work into the kind of stuff you have to do every day (brush teeth and, in my case, cook and wash dishes), the kind of work you have to do every week (sort mail, water potted plants etc) the work you have to do every few weeks, and the work you do maybe once a decade or might not even have to repeat in your entire lifetime.
THAT once-in-a-decade kind of work is a real accomplishment. I hope you're as pleased with your work as your aunt is!
Gonna do my weekly lawn mowing today, followed up by my once a decade kitchen cleaning.
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Laundry day for me once I get a move on.
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Sounds like you did a lot of good work for your grandmother and aunt, SIX. I'm sure they were very pleased.
My aunt sure was. My grandma's probably already forgot that I was even over though. :(
But the good news is that I get to tell her all about what I did there today again tomorrow.
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Your grandma will be thrilled to see and hear what you have done.
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My memory has never been good. I run the risk of looping segments of my life (movies, stuff that doesn't interest me) bc I've forgotten it already.
So I used to laugh self-deprecatingly about memory jokes, bc I can see that I my future.
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Actually, if my grandma knew what I did outside of the cleaning she wouldn't be thrilled at all. She's always been a mid-tier hoarder, and it was always a struggle to try to get rid of anything. If she knew our plans to get rid of two entire filing cabinets of bills and other paperwork BS from decades ago next week, she'd pop her top.
It needs to be done though, and since my old man wants nothing in that house and I'm taking my aunt at her word that my uncle doesn't either, I'm going to get rid of everything I see that isn't useful for their lives now.
I have to keep my own hoarding tenancies in check too here. I have taken a few things I've found so far. One is a vintage Panasonic radio that still works fantastically and just needs to be cleaned up, and the other is an ancient pipe wrench with my great-great grandfather's last name etched into it. (I thought all of that stuff had been thrown out by my other uncle years ago. Maybe more will turn up... hopefully???)
The basement will be super easy to clear out. The 2nd floor will be easy for small stuff, but getting furniture downstairs is going to have to be done while she's napping or super quietly. I know my aunt wants the first floor cleared of everything they don't use too, but I don't know how we're going to be able to do that. I'm not even going to think about being the guy clearing out the small bedroom that she uses as her closet that is 95% full of clothes she hasn't worn in decades. I think that stuff is going to have to stay for now.
Part of me feels bad doing this knowing that she wouldn't approve if she knew it was happening, but at this point it's really not about her as much as it is about her kids and what they're going to have to deal with one day. I only wish I could have gotten her to do this stuff decades ago. Drawing from personal experience, I think she would have been happier with a de-cluttered house.
Anyway... Got the yard work done and just drying my hair off before I go out shopping.
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Mone of my sisters who was never good at paperwork was taking care of our mom. They had a room full of paperwork, which I sorted when mom was in hospital during of of her stays. A lot of Explanation of Benefits which gave me insight into dad's final years and decades-old bank statements from accounts long-since closed. I boxed it all up categorically and even bought a filing cabinet to sort out the financial records for when it came to.e to do an asset search. Found a few literal shares of stock (not worth much, if anything) but in the end made sorting the estate easier. Also did long term care insurance reimbursement filing which was a PITA bc sis paid by week and reimbursement was by month. At one point we also took down furniture and tossed a lot of junk from the basement.
Anything you can do along those lines is a big help.
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Back from my walk on a nice day.
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Mone of my sisters who was never good at paperwork was taking care of our mom. They had a room full of paperwork, which I sorted when mom was in hospital during of of her stays. A lot of Explanation of Benefits which gave me insight into dad's final years and decades-old bank statements from accounts long-since closed. I boxed it all up categorically and even bought a filing cabinet to sort out the financial records for when it came to.e to do an asset search. Found a few literal shares of stock (not worth much, if anything) but in the end made sorting the estate easier. Also did long term care insurance reimbursement filing which was a PITA bc sis paid by week and reimbursement was by month. At one point we also took down furniture and tossed a lot of junk from the basement.
Anything you can do along those lines is a big help.
I will be going through it reasonably and not just throwing away everything willy-nilly like my Aunt likely would given her current state over everything. I won't be opening every ancient envelope or anything like that because many of them are the SAME because they're bills from the same companies month after month for years, but I'll bet there are some photographs in those file cabinets, and possibly some more old shares... Funny you mention that, because I did "liberate" one single share of Commonwealth Edison from that cabinet many, many, many years ago. It's not worth much, but I don't intend to sell it anyhow. It was from the days when those things looked like letter-sized currency, and I didn't want anybody else to grab it and sell it for the price of eating lunch out. It deserves to be framed like the "Chocolate Seal" $100 bill my Grandpa was so proud of will be framed now that it's the one thing I got from him after both of them passed away on my Mom's side.
The more I think about this though, there's no way I'm going to be involved in throwing out anything from her closet/bedroom, and I will do everything in my power to make sure nobody else does either. With the state of my Gram's short term memory being what it is, and her inability to let anything go, that would be a daily nightmare for her and everybody else. Every morning she'd wake up and freak out about where her stuff went and she'd have to relive that horror every day.
I'm here to help... everybody... But this is all pretty sensitive and needs a delicate hand. Psychologically speaking, emptying out that room except for the things she still uses would probably be the worst thing we could do to my grandma.
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I agree. Messing with your grandma's immediate environment would be disorienting and distressing. She may be depending on those things to help her remember.
I try to get dear daugher to let go of things bc she's got hoarding tendencies. But bc of her seizure disorder she can't remember much of her past.... but when something does trigger a memory it's detailed. When I try to get her to give up some things. She doesn't communicate well, but she managed to get out "I don't remember and now you're taking these away from me too". It was very sad and heartfelt.
I think you're doing the right things the right way.
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