Gender and Violence and Blame
POSTED BY: Magonsdaughter
UPDATED: Tuesday, August 25, 2026 20:14
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I challenge everyone on the board to think back over their lifetime experience over who got physically violent, and count up the instances and sort it by gender.
Women overwhelm mine, because I'm the main feature in all of the violent episodes I can recall.
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But IRL, women tend to be under MORE stress than men, if you simply want to weigh the responsibilities and commitments versus the resources.
...Nooooo... Kinda don't think that either.
I think we're not going to make any headway in this discussion.
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BYTE, on the one hand you want to think that everyone is like you or that you're like everyone. OTOH you want us all to think you're a sociopath. So, what you're saying is that everyone is a sociopath. If that were the case, the word would have no meaning. So, what ARE you saying?
The word has meaning because it is pretty much everyone. That's the state of our society. Everyone is a sociopath.
And when someone comes out as a sociopath, and admits their wrongdoing, everyone feels like it's perfectly okay to use that as ammunition as a point in an argument. Sig just played the you're a sociopath card, she wins.
Seriously, where is any of that even applicable to the conversation, or did you just want to hedge that in again because it's worked to quell me in the past?
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" ... you are never too old to deliver a much needed ass kicking."
Obviously written by a young person. Though I can say to both you and Chris,isall age isn't the issue - size, strength, disability, numbers and weapons are. There are old people who are in decent shape. And there are young people with disabilities. And there are old people with disabilities. Though given the nature of aging, you will probably find more old people with disabilities than young people. More women who are smaller and less muscular than men. More women are isolated from help. More men who own weapons. More men who are aggressive.
Back to aging, when I was younger I had no clue what aging would bring to me. I had no idea that some days just getting out of bed and standing up straight would be a victory against pain.
I was in seriously kick-ass shape - could race bicycles against guys over long - think 100+ mile - distances and not feel it. I was rock-solid, fit, strong, alert. I'd taken judo and self defense. Lived in a bad part of town and so was quite wary.
But here’s my experience with physical violence. Back then a man tried to attack me and ran away screaming in frustration b/c I was taking punches and backing up, but not going down. But he was only marginally larger than I was. If he'd been much larger, or stronger, or if he'd been more experienced or had more intent - I wouldn't have had a chance. If he'd had a knife - I wouldn't have had a chance. If he'd had a gun - I wouldn't have had a chance. If he'd had a friend with him - I wouldn't have had a chance. I don't care how situationally alert, young, fit, experienced and ready to defend yourself you are - circumstances win out. Claiming anything else is fantasy.
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And when someone comes out as a sociopath, and admits their wrongdoing, everyone feels like it's perfectly okay to use that as ammunition as a point in an argument. Sig just played the you're a sociopath card, she wins.
No, I said YOU say you're a sociopath. I said I would take you seriously on that score, and I do. If anyone has ever played that card it's you.
You can't have it both ways, BYTE. You can't stake a claim and then cry FOUL when someone recognizes it!
So now you continue to say that everyone else is a sociopath too. Just like you.
AFA you featuring in your own list of violent episodes by women... well, you're the odd one out then. Your personal experience is just your personal experience. You're one instance in a society of many.
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You're one instance in a society of many.
No way. I might've done wrong on the board and in my real life, but I'm not quite delusional enough yet to think there aren't people out there, both men and women, who haven't done worse than me.
And that most people WOULDN'T do worse under certain circumstances.
That's what humanity is. Shades of grey.
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People say I get personal, but when people ask me about being a sociopath, isn't that taking the argument in a personal direction? People get pissed when I bring it up, say that I'm being an attention whore, but then other people get to bring it up just to score points in an argument?
Let's drop the sociopath line of inquiry, it's not even tangential to this real world event discussion.
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Hello,
Is this going to be a 'men are mostly violent, women are mostly not' thread?
--Anthony
Note to Self:
Raptor - woman testifying about birth control is a slut (the term applies.)
Context: http://tinyurl.com/d6ozfej
Six - Wow, isn't Niki quite the CUNT? And, yes, I spell that in all caps....
http://tinyurl.com/bdjgbpe
Wulf - Niki is a stupid fucking bitch who should hurry up and die.
Context: http://tinyurl.com/afve3r9
“The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.” -T. S. Szasz
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Originally posted by AnthonyT:
Hello,
Is this going to be a 'men are mostly violent, women are mostly not' thread?
--Anthony
Note to Self:
Raptor - woman testifying about birth control is a slut (the term applies.)
Context: http://tinyurl.com/d6ozfej
Six - Wow, isn't Niki quite the CUNT? And, yes, I spell that in all caps....
http://tinyurl.com/bdjgbpe
Wulf - Niki is a stupid fucking bitch who should hurry up and die.
Context: http://tinyurl.com/afve3r9
“The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.” -T. S. Szasz
Yes. It makes me hit my head. It makes me rocket propel my head through the nearest wall, and then all that's left of my scalp is exposed skull and bloody ribbons with stringy hair attached to it due to the friction involved with my head repeatedly hitting that brick wall.
This is my goddamn agony, and since this thread is going there, I feel compelled to share that misery with everyone.
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Yes BYTE, you push someone hard enough and god knows what someone "might" do. I've been so frustrated I threw a glass against a wall. (Soft wallboard, all I did was dent the wall.) I was picked on in school... I would imagine by people pretty much like you. But I didn't take your path.
And, if I may say so... YOU started the discussion down this path by bringing up your own sorry history. Sorry if you don't like the destination.
So, enough of you, and back to the discussion at hand.
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TONY, hmmm... yes, that IS what I've been saying, isn't it? But it's not all men, obviously. Men are also victims of (male) violence... all you have to do is look at gun deaths to see that the perps and victims are often of the same gender. Clearly, it is a subset of males who are extra-juicy aggressive.
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"Is this going to be a 'men are mostly violent, women are mostly not' thread?"
I would change that to a higher percentage of men are violent than women.
That's been my experience and observation. Statistics seem to bear that out. Not that women aren't abusive, they're just abusive in non-physical ways and for different reasons.
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