warning! venting, pissing and moaning about my mother

POSTED BY: boris
UPDATED: Wednesday, May 18, 2011 00:29
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HARDWARE

Tuesday, May 17, 2011 2:36 PM

I recommend a minimum safe distance of 200 miles. Too far to just pop in because you were in the neighborhood. Close enough for holiday visits. Plus, if a visit is turning to shit you can always play the "Oh, we've got a long drive ahead of us" card and bail early.

The more I get to know people the more I like my dogs.

...and he that has no sword, let him sell his garment, and buy one. Luke 22:36

MSA

Tuesday, May 17, 2011 4:37 PM

HUGS...

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

CHRISISALL

Tuesday, May 17, 2011 6:22 PM

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Originally posted by boris:
She can't be reasoned with as she's completely manic and in one of her "I'm psychic and know that everyone is out to get us" cycles. I have started packing and downsizing subtly and have applied for work far far away. If only I could take the old man with me.

Maybe if you & your Dad could call the police & have her taken to a hospital where she could get some meds to calm her... sounds like something controllable if you can just get her some chemical assistance.

The laughing Chrisisall

WISHIMAY

Tuesday, May 17, 2011 8:06 PM

Well, that would definately get her outta yer hair for a while...except she would KILL boris when she gets out...

CLJOHNSTON108

Tuesday, May 17, 2011 9:49 PM

I totally feel for you, Boris. My own stepmom is sort of a cross between Mary Tyler Moore's character in Ordinary People and Nurse Ratched from One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest.
She's a big fan of the movie Gaslight, and she's always tried to mess with my sanity in the same way: i.e. giving me conflicting orders and punishing me for doing things "wrong", trying to rewrite history by destroying evidence.
For example, she destroyed a bunch of my father's artwork after he died, then tried to convince me he never made them. Stuff like that.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting
I've never been able to catch her at it, though. She's really slick that way.

PIRATENEWS

Tuesday, May 17, 2011 11:14 PM

Family ties get on your nerves when caged in a zoo

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Originally posted by cljohnston108:

She's a big fan of the movie Gaslight

That's a very bad sign. #1 symptom of a psychopath, as proven by Our Govts.

RIONAEIRE

Wednesday, May 18, 2011 12:29 AM

Hi Rose, that sounds really frustrating. I agree that maybe its time you find another place to live so that you have some space and distance from her, she sounds very difficult to live with. As for your dad I'm sorry that he has to handle her in her current state, she sounds exasperating to say the least.

It sounds like she has some mental health challenges/differences/she's totally out of control. I don't know about the rules where you live but here where I am one can't force someone to get help unless they are a danger to self or others (sometimes people can exaggerate though if necessary.) I think though that finding another place to live is a first rate idea. Do you have any friends who could be housemates with you, like you guys could live in a house together?

Could your dad go to a caregiver's support group? Best wishes and I hope you can find somewhere else to live soon and give yourself some space. take care and best wishes.

"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya

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