Male and Female Imponderables--Back in the Saddle
POSTED BY: Tristan
UPDATED: Thursday, August 31, 2006 12:52
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Morning, AgentRusco!
Roommates are a great Imponderable...they can be a blessing or a bane. Makes you sometimes wish you had a handy Firefly engine running, eh?
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It's simply so petty... But since you insist:
My roommate has been my roommate for three years now. She has also had the same boyfriend for that time period. Until now. She broke up with him a week ago after spending the whole summer with a guy from her work. It is a very confusing situation. I have no problem that she broke up with him. I kinda hated him from past events, but the fact that she basically cheated on him doesn't bode well with me. And now, she claims to be taking a break from dating until the end of the semester. However, this guy from her work is over here alla time. I mean ALLA time. When she is here, so is he. I want to talk to her, but I can't, he's always about. They go out to dinner... She buys new skirts... He brings her flowers... It's all very confusing. I have no problem with this lad in general, but the fact that he cheated on his girlfriend doesn't make me very happy for my roomie. I also realize that it isn't really my problem. But I can't really be excluded, cos I live here. I and four others. And all of us are worried and confused. So. Imponderable?
I think it would help if I DID have a nice running engine...
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Ponder away, Agentrusco. Bad roommates are hell, I think most of us will share your anguish, pat your back, and say lots of words of empathy!
Not to mention evil plans for roommate punishment. 
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so anyway, kinda double postness... i have class. gotta catch up on reading, didn't think i'd ever have a hard time reading. specially Beowulf. guess it's good i've read it afore.
Oh, and by the way. I like my roommate. A great deal. I'm just all confused about it all.
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Ah AgentRusco, roomies can be a great joy and utterly evil all in the same day.
I always hate it when my roomies weren't being honest about why they were doing something (or anyone in general, can't stand dishonesty...even subconsciously done). Sounds like your roommate is 'taking a break' so she can date the other guy. She found someone else she's interested in, but jumping from one relationship to the next opens up the possibility that she was cheating...and no one wants to be a cheater. Her "break" is her way of remaining a good person.
I watched a roomie sabotage her three year relationship with a wonderful guy because she had always had a crush on someone else. I'm not sure she even realized what she was doing, but it was awful to watch. And then she'd come to me for sympathy and I just couldn't muster it. She eventually drove him away, but never did get together with the other guy (he and his wife are some of my best friends).
Ah, roomies....
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I haven't had a roommate before 'cause I'm not in college yet, but I could see how this situation would be bothersome, especially if your roommate is your friend. My opinion is that you just talk to her about it and try to make her see that the situation bothers you.
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Afternoon, everybody.
Regarding sibling rivalry: If you had to designate lables, I suppose my brother would be considered the "bad" sibling. Though in all honesty, we've both had problems. It's just that my brother was usually the one who got into trouble, and had some run-ins with the law. It was almost like we were on opposite sides of the spectrum. My brother acted out a lot (did poorly in school, had bad influences for friends), where I on the other hand directed all my frustration inward (had many problems with depression, hospitalized for suicide attempts). It's a wonder my mother isn't in the loony bin after all we put her through. But she still insists we're the best thing that ever happened to her. Ain't mom's grand? 
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OK let me just make sure I have the whole story straight. You live together with 5 people. One of the people is this girl who had previously been dating one guy that you don't like too much. This summer she started "fooling around" with new guy that you don't mind too much. After the summer she broke up with first guy. She decided she wasn't in the right state of mind to date someone but she is constantly "fooling around" with new guy at your place. New guy doesn't annoy you personalitywise, but he has some other issues. He previously cheated on one of his girlfriends and you're worried that roommate girl is getting too attached to him and that she's going to get hurt. Right?
If so then I think it's really her call. If she knows that he cheated on one of his girlfriends once then there's probably not much you can tell her that will change her mind. It is possible that she's not too attached to the new guy. Maybe he's just a fling. Overall if she's happy with the situation and has all the information then I'd leave her be.
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You have got the story pretty much down pat. One thing though: there are a total of 6 of us. Not that the detail matters in the sceme of things.
Thanks fer all yer input.
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Cluster Fudge.
That's what is sounds like to me.
Peanut Cluster anyone?
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