Male and Female Imponderables--Back in the Saddle
POSTED BY: Tristan
UPDATED: Thursday, August 31, 2006 12:52
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Hey MSG - enjoy that bath! My new house has a small, nasty tub which is really not bathable. 
I miss the hot water soaking so!
Funny thing with my older sister - she was a total baddy party girl. No matter how bad I was I could not rival her at all, so I got away with everything! Well, almost.
Isn't it usually the other way around? Everyone I know has the older siblings the goodie ones, and the younger are the crazy deliquents. To varying degrees. Is it like that with y'all?
BTW, I missed the whole PR almost leaving thing. I'm glad you're still here deary!
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Originally posted by mal4prez:
Everyone I know has the older siblings the goodie ones, and the younger are the crazy deliquents. To varying degrees. Is it like that with y'all?
Oh no. I was the goodie two shoes. Older brother was the strong-willed, hard-headed child. Would do something, even if he knew it was wrong/stupid, just b/c someone told him not to. I can't count the number of times he drove drunk/license-less while carting my junior high self around. soft core drugs, parties, girls.
Me, I suppose I was tough for him to live up with because I did everything right. Good grades (w/o tyring...that really chapped his hide), didn't really party (was too busy working and riding horses). etc. I watched him screw up and then did the opposite. Watched how much he would piss my mother off and then learned to not talk to her the same way (that is, until he moved out...those last three years were tough. Maybe it was my mom....
) But I suffered the consequences b/c of the bro. My mom never trusted me and always judged my actions by what he would've done. He was pretty much of an ass until just recently.***************
"The power of accurate observation is commonly called cynicism by those who have not got it." - George Bernard Shaw
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Originally posted by RugBug:
Oh no. I was the goodie two shoes. Older brother was the strong-willed, hard-headed child. Would do something, even if he knew it was wrong/stupid, just b/c someone told him not to. I can't count the number of times he drove drunk/license-less while carting my junior high self around. soft core drugs, parties, girls.
My goodness - our sibling situs are nearly identical! Except my parents had this attitude that as long as I wasn't doing anything to directly land me in jail, I was a little angel. That must have pissed my sister off too, that I never once got grounded.
Of course, I was pretty boring. TPing houses was about as crazy as I got!
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Nice to see ya 'round M4P.
Sibling rivalry. Hmmm. Aside from video games with my little brother and who could burp the loudest with Babysis, can't remember having much. I am trying to catch up with little brother though, (career, beautiful wife, kids).
Got to play Mighty Mouse on my lunch break. Mom's boyfriend ran out of gas. Just happened to run into him. Half hour late gettin' back.
"Here I come to save the day."
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I was oldest, but we didn't really have any wild kids in my family. Not straight laced or anythng, but no major parites, no serious fighting, no problems with grades or anything...gee we sound like the Osmonds or something.
Rugbug- hmm I think that'd be frustrating. I mean my sibs and I have had occasional differences, but rarely ever fought and now we're really close. I alway feel bad when I can sympathize, but not empathize ( as I've never been there)...side comment : You don't like sales now I can see why you didn't like being a teacher. A good portion of this job is selling yourself( in a good way gutter brains:) to the students, parents, other teachers, and administration. It's still sad to see someone as smart and charming as you leave teaching, but I'm glad you do what makes you happy:)
NV- you are always Mighty Mouse ( you just don't always wear that fetching cape and tights:)
Ok I am so done!! Going to the gym and then home. It's early , I know, but I am out for today:) HUGS to you all.
I choose to rise instead of fall- U2
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Me and my siblings actually get along pretty well. Sometimes we get annoyed at each other, but fights are rather far and few in between. Maybe it's because we are all so close age-wise or something, but most of the time we are just like friends...
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I was an only child until age 9. My step father was a real SoB and I was always compared to his son; an over-achieving Eagle Scout with straight A's, but also a bit of a jerk. I kept thinking, why do you want me to be like him?
The marriage didn't last, not with Bill and I always fighting!
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*joining in for the first time since the original thread*
I was the youngest, and while my folks were careful never to compare us kids, when it came to school, I kinda felt under a bit of pressure due to my sister having done so well before me.
I think some of it had come from having a number of the same teachers that my sister had had and a few did have the expectation that I should do at least as well as she had. Fortunately, they were few and far between and it also helped that with some of the others, they had had my older brother as a student as well.
My brother is not stupid by any means, what he excells in I'm not quite as good at (English and history) but by the same token what I excell at he's hopeless at (math and sciences.) He was the one who most easily got bored in class and was a big nitpicker, so the teachers remembered him as someone who either didn't pay much attention or was too arguementative. I think for those teachers I, having been a bit of a quiet mouse in class, was a bit of a relief.
In retrospect, I realise I did my best in classes where I had a teacher who hadn't had either sibling previously. I don't know if this was an unconscious thing on my part, their part or just a strange concindence.
Of course the rivalry at home was different. I think that had to do with attention. From talking with my brother (easier now that we no longer live in the same house) was that he felt that our father constantly singled him out for misbehaving. I know he got into trouble a lot, but he seems to be forgetting that he got in trouble because he did things he knew would get him into trouble: swearing, fighting with my sister and I and not doing his chores. I think he may have had a bit of the 'middle child' syndrome and just wanted attention from our father, and bad was easier to obtain.
As now we don't have to live in the same place, my brother and I can actually have civilized conversations for a few hours rather than minutes.
So where is all this going? I think, that at the root of all the sibling rivalry, is kids wanting parental/adult attention by being the best in school, home or the worst if the first doesn't work. Parents making sure they spend equal time with all their kids may help alleviate it, but as long as the pull is momy/daddy time, I think it'll always be there to some extent.
'Tis human nature to compare ourselves to others. Using your sibling is the earliest form of this and the one you keep the longest.
Okay, I'll stop my ramblings now. 
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RMMC
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Hello everyone!!!
Ive got a brother
Hes older and clever but hes also spawned of pure evil and would sell MY soul for HIS ammusment.
Thats why im the favourite child!! HEHEHE
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I actually am in the opposite position...hello, by the way, I'm new to the imponderables.
I was the kid that everyone always compared my younger brother to. I got straight As and all that, never did anything particularly wild (back then) and every day after school, my brother would come home upset, look at me, and say "Whe in the hell can't you screw up once in awhile?" Broke my heart it did. My parents were always very careful not to say "Why can't you be more like your sister?" But the teachers never were.
Even now, we're both adults and there's still a remnant of that. Makes me sad, but my brother gets along better with my husband than he does with me. They're cut from the same cloth those two, and I always feel a little like it's a club I can't join.
Mal: You know, you ain't quite right.
River: It's a popular theory.
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