Male and Female Imponderables--Friends, Romans, Countrymen...
POSTED BY: Tristan
UPDATED: Wednesday, January 7, 2026 16:50
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The true appearance of the entity known as '13' shall remain unknown.
Delicious mystery.
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'It's Braedan. With an A.'
'Shiny moments aren't a destination any of us get to, and stay put forever. They're unknowable, brief flashes in time. That's what makes them shiny.' -GorramReevers
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Aw, 13, that's too bad. I bet you're cute!
"Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever." -- Mohandas Gandhi
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I too shall probably remain a mystery, for... well, half the point of posting online is not being seen but being heard, and also, I can't find the thread of pics anymore.
Oh, and I have a negative self image. Could be any of those reasons.
"But, these strong women characters?"
"Why aren't you asking 100 other guys why they don't write strong women characters?" -Joss Whedon
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Waaaaah! I missed a lot!
Yes, if a guy is really shy I assume he's not interested in me. I know a lot of girls want to draw someone out, but I enjoy being talked to and/or acknowledged. No strong silent types for me. Though I've still managed to end up with folk who have a "shell". Damn them all.
I used to feel uncomfortable asking a guy out, but I got over it. If he's interested and it's obvious, why not? Even if it's not the most obvious, what have I got to lose if he isn't, in fact, interested? The most successful relationship I've had to date would not have happened if I hadn't made a few moves. I might kick myself for it a little now, since he turned to Doom, but it was very good while it lasted. But he was showing interest in me. I'm still working on the "walking up to a guy I don't know and showing interest" thing; get very nervous about it and I want to seem confident. I've got a cute and funny line to use and everything, I just need to pull it off properly. And find a guy I wanna use it on...
As I am no longer spoken for, I can give the desription of the kind of person I want, but be warned it's a bit long:
I want someone who is self-aware and honest about who they are to themselves and others, also willing to tell the truth about everything else. Someone who can (is willing to) communicate effectively and actually work to solve any problems before they become a deal. Someone who is appreciative of the good things in life, very much including me, who I can have a mutual respect and admiration for. I would want to be appreciated for dressing up, but not feel like I had to do it all the time. It would be very good if they shared many of my core beliefs; i.e. love and sex are sacred artforms, politics really needs to meet in the middle, every band I like rocks, and the Bible is broken. That's the short list, anyway. Must be basically self-reliant and also thoughtful. I'm always buying little things for people, finally found a friend who was the same way, love having that dynamic. Also, no drugs. No drugs at all. I do not do them, I do not want to be around them, I do not want to deal with it. This does include the drinking. Really someone who takes good care of themselves all 'round, because it's hard for me to watch the health of someone I love decline because of their actions/inactions. And someone who loves loves loves to cuddle; could cuddle up for hours and be happy as a clam, because that is me and I'd like it to be actually possible. And they must be a Browncoat who will call me bao-bei 
Oh, and they have to understand what being bi means and what it means to me. I've written it all out for future interests who might be confused.
On a shallower end, I like soft skin and hair I can run my fingers through. I really don't have that many physical requirements, I've dated quite a few body types. But they were all cuddle-able.
And... They have to like being bitten! 
Seriously. I can't keep myself from biting.
I used to love and adore dancing in the rain, and once had a lightning bolt strike right behind my house and thought it was the coolest thing ever. I would still really enjoy being out in the rain if I didn't have to be anywhere that being soaking wet might be a no-no. Also if it wasn't always so damn cold. Actually 
I have a long held fantasy about getting it on in the rain. I worry about being caught and arrested, though, so it's never happened.
SBDB, it's too bad you're as young as you are; you almost perfectly describe my brother! Sensitive, creative, extroverted, very curly hair (lucky hwoon dan got our mother's hair while I got my dad's hair) But he is more than ten years older than you... Pity.
I am cracking up at Ms G's planning, there! funny stuff! I like spur-of-the-moment plans, myself. I'll call someone and be like "Hey what are you doing today?" and if they're busy I tend not to see them unless they call me the next day or something.
One thing I would change about my appearance would be thi
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msg - I am back from the movie and it is disappointed I is 
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Becareful PR. I am EXTREMELY self-aware and it is not a good thing.
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Yes it is.
With self-awareness comes the ability to change. To fix what might be wrong and celebrate what is right. Also to know what you are and are not capable of. I don't want to go through the finding out that someone is not what they think all over again. I don't want someone to tell me, and believe, that they love me and want to live with me, only to have it proven untrue because they didn't know what they were talking about. I don't want to watch a minor annoyance escalate to a massive health problem because someone couldn't even tell what was hurting. Seriously, being so out of touch with yourself you think a blood clot in your leg is consipation... That's bad. People who aren't self-aware can't keep their word, don't understand why things happen, and also can't really deal with someone (like you and I) who is self-aware and not afraid to talk about it. It makes shut down people uncomfortable to hear about it. I can't deal with that anymore.
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Anyhoo, on the subject of women asking men out and shyness... it's the way of life in my findings that everyone is afraid of everyone else, especially if they like other said person. So, just as women asking men out is renowned for being awkward, the reverse is generally just as true. The obvious issue there is, if someone is being shy, they outwardly want the other person to assume they arent interested, though inwardly they probably dont. So, people get afraid of people, and no one ends up happy.
Silly humans.
On self-awareness... hmm... I think I'm self aware... Eh, actually I know what you mean, sometimes you just have to wonder about this whole individuality-in-a-big-world thing, as in: I think therefore I am, but how can I be sure you think? Basically, I can't. I'm sure I think, but I've no way to prove it to you all, really prove it to others the way I know it myself.
Weird stuff.
"But, these strong women characters?"
"Why aren't you asking 100 other guys why they don't write strong women characters?" -Joss Whedon
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Self aware? I know I exsist is that enough?
Shyness-I gave up on caring that much
So anyway there is a boy I thought was one way but turnes out he's completely different. I expected him to be a womanizing ass but actually he's a cuddly teddy bear! He was supposed to be a one time booty call guy but he's the sweetest boy I've ever met! I think I actually like him! This is lovely and confusing all at once. yes I'm tired and not typing properly sorry honeys!
An I carried such a torch
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Self aware? I know I exsist is that enough?
Shyness-I gave up on caring that much
So anyway there is a boy I thought was one way but turnes out he's completely different. I expected him to be a womanizing ass but actually he's a cuddly teddy bear! He was supposed to be a one time booty call guy but he's the sweetest boy I've ever met! I think I actually like him! This is lovely and confusing all at once. yes I'm tired and not typing properly sorry honeys!
An I carried such a torch
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