Male and Female Imponderables--Yet Again

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UPDATED: Thursday, June 15, 2006 20:08
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MSG

Tuesday, June 13, 2006 9:11 PM

Good luck NV..all our clippers are on standby. Just remember if she can't see how great you are..she's roadkill:) So either way it's all good.
And yes I think we need to do something for FMF soonish...

You're only young once, but you can be immature any time!

RUGBUG

Tuesday, June 13, 2006 9:16 PM

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Originally posted by msg:
Hey Rugbug I know I think we all had an eek moment as the screen faded to black. However your anti-list system does scare me just a bit:)

Heh...the anti-list theory is mine and mine alone. :insert evil laugh: Well, I did meet a professor who once had the same basic theory. 'Course he was 'splaining this to us after missing a class.

As I get older the theory is harder and harder to abide by, but it still hasn't failed me yet. I rarely forget to do something, so....

NVGHOSTRIDER

Tuesday, June 13, 2006 9:30 PM

So I have an Imponderable for y'all. Who likes to cuddle? The last woman I cuddled with was my best friend, (female), in my truck. She seen that I had a growing interest in a co-worker and seemed to become very jealous. That night, she got very drunk and demanded that I take her for a drive. During the drive she was very grabby and affectionate like. So, ladies, does that whole jealousy thing factor in to some of your "plutonic" relationships. And if it does, then how. Just curious. (And also trying to change the subject of my current female problems).

Jayne: I was gonna get me an ear too.

MSG

Tuesday, June 13, 2006 9:39 PM

I'm not really cuddly as a general rule, much to my husband's disappointment. However, I am sometimes in a cuddly mood when I'm mopey or cranky. I don't think jealousy is a good cuddling motivator. Cuddling with guys who are friends is more affectionate as far as I've seen( again I don't really like to cuddle)

You're only young once, but you can be immature any time!

LITTLEALBATROSS29

Tuesday, June 13, 2006 9:45 PM

The only time I can cuddle is if I'm interested in someone.I am very affectionate, but it does not apply to friends.I have seen many other women be cuddly with their male friends & female ones too.I never understood that.It makes me very uncomfortable.

I can't see being jealous of a friends romantic interest in someone else. Is it possible that she has feelings for you that aren't so friendly like ?

Bryce
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I swallowed a bug.

RUGBUG

Tuesday, June 13, 2006 10:07 PM

NV, you've got too different questions there.

1. Who likes to cuddle? It's got to be someone I'm with or attracted to (and know well). I'm just not a "touchy" kind of person otherwise.

2. Jealousy in platonic relationships? Sometimes but it fades quickly. It takes a little "hey, he's mine. oh wait, I don't want him that way" and the jealousy is gone.

NVGHOSTRIDER

Tuesday, June 13, 2006 10:16 PM

Strangely, alot of people liked to cuddle with me. That whole bear-like quality seems to do it. I like it. I do miss cuddling my nephew to sleep, (He is a very active child, hyper-active in fact). I do miss cuddling with the ex while she sang fab four songs and painted her nails, (Hyper active as well).

LA29: She and I have had conversations on the subject. Strangely we were very attracted to each other, just never met in the middle. Thats okay she is still my best friend.

Jayne: I was gonna get me an ear too.

EMMARIGBY

Tuesday, June 13, 2006 10:28 PM

Oooh! I'm finally let back in!

I've been pining for you guys all evening!
I thought my computer was having an intervention to force me to do some work so I went off in a sulk instead!

Hmm, now that I'm here I feel I should contribute with something witty and profound.

Um.... um.. um... HIPPO!

Sorry, I panicked. (A quote from Coupling. Anyone watch? Very good program! Like Friends but with grown up issues and more sex)

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Hisssssss!

LIGHTMEDARK

Tuesday, June 13, 2006 11:05 PM

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Originally posted by RugBug:
2. Jealousy in platonic relationships? Sometimes but it fades quickly. It takes a little "hey, he's mine. oh wait, I don't want him that way" and the jealousy is gone.

I'm like that, too.

EMMARIGBY

Tuesday, June 13, 2006 11:08 PM

Sorry, back on topic now, promise (and hey, if no-one's gonna talk to me I'm quite happy to whitter away to myself 2 posts in a row!)

1) Cuddling. Strange, when I was a child I hated to be stroked or cuddled, now I can't seem to get enough of it! So much so that when a friend was over recently my parents became convinced we were an item just because I snuggled up to him a lot.

2) Jealousy in friendship. This is something I've been thinking about a lot recently as I got quite jealouse over a friend of mine. It confuses things a bit because I ocassionally sleep with him (in a light-hearted - just keeping in practice- sort of way). What puzzled me was that I felt less jealous when he told me he'd had sex with an ex-girlfriend than I do when he spends weeks staying over with our ex-flatmate. I think the thing is that I still have a lot of bitter feelings towards the latter (it got awfully unpleasant living with her towards the end) and possibly feel more threatened by her. If she demanded that he choose between us I know she'd win (he's known her since school) and I don't entirely trust her not to ever make that ultimatum.

Long ramdom dribble over now, I'd better go to bed!

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