Male and Female Imponderables--Yet Again

POSTED BY: Tristan
UPDATED: Thursday, June 15, 2006 20:08
VIEWED: 16927
PAGE 2 of 23

PREV PAGE 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 NEXT PAGE

PHOENIXROSE

Tuesday, June 13, 2006 2:46 PM

Okay, I'm just catching up on the other thread; boy did I miss a lot! Have to respond to something RugBug said, though, before I read more...
No, I do not like a challenge. I do not like games. I don't like feeling like I have to "catch" someone. If they're interested I want to know about it and act accordingly depending on whether I'm interested; I don't want to dance around in the shit. That is not fun.
Okay, sorry. Going to catch up more now.

***********

RUGBUG

Tuesday, June 13, 2006 2:49 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by FutureMrsFIllion:
I have one. Fellow women - WHY would you EVER choose a man over your children? I just don't get this. Why does our society create women that NEED a man, no matter how disgusting, to feel worthy?

Society puts a lot of rules on women that are just stupid. Being married, having children, those are all societal expectations. I can tell you that I am often treated like a freak because I don't want children. That decision MUST mean I am cold, uncaring and "not normal." Um, no. I just don't want kids. I like them well enough, would probably be a decent parent...I just don't WANT them. And I don't get all mushy about the yard apes. When a baby comes in the office, I don't feel the need to go see it. I don't want to hold it, and I certainly don't want to be left alone with it. Keep your chillin' to yourself, please.

As for women choosing men over kids. The kids should be taken away. I was watching Oprah (I was at the gym, not much choice) and the story was about a son who was sexually abused by his stepfather. The mother had divorced the man, but had then re-married him. That's just WRONG. Massivly low self-esteem in that woman.

Coldness: Yes. I am almost always cold. Feet especially. And if my feet aren't warm, I can't sleep. I do like to sleep with the window open, though. Even in winter. Cold room, warm bed.

PHOENIXROSE

Tuesday, June 13, 2006 3:07 PM

OK, I am caught up on the "ladder" discussion and I have to say... I have a man's ladder. Yes, yes I do. At least at first. Does it make me shallow that I tend to become friends with people that I have a least a slight interest in sleeping with? It doesn't always stay that way, but it usually starts out that way. Unless it's a friend I met through someone else kind of thing. If it's someone I meet while I'm out and about and I talk to them and am friendly, there is usually a thought resembling "There is something sexy about you" in the back of my mind. And under the right circumstances, ladder jumping is possible; probably because of the initial attraction I tend to feel.
Chocolate raspberry creams are goooood...
Ghostrider, it is your decision, but if you've been pursuing the woman for that long it might be time to look elsewhere. Don't give up on her out of hand, but don't turn down other opportunities, whether they are "buddies" or the genuine article. Just my two cents.
I am with RugBug in not wanting kids. Not now, possibly not ever, though I can't be sure of that. I would need to know I was ready to take care of them, and that they would have a really good daddy.
Yes, Copilot, I wish it were as easy to connect in real life as it is on the net. Did anyone see my thing WAY back when about how shiny it would be if there were, like, teleport booths on every corner that would transport us all to a secret location so we could talk in real life and hang out?

I had a question, but it slipped from my brain...

My temp fluctuates a little; I do tend to like it warmer rather than colder. Most of my partners thus far have had similar preferences.

**********************************

TRISTAN

Tuesday, June 13, 2006 3:15 PM

MSG, I am an absolute fanatic when it comes to cleaning the bathroom. I do not know why, as I am not that freaked about the rest of the house. I go so far as to wash the walls and ceilings with a bleach compound. To give you an idea, it takes me four to five hours to clean an 8X6 foot bathroom...and I can spend the same amount of time cleaning a living room/dining room, kitchen, den, and bedrooms. So, yes, I think I do know when it's clean

That leads me to a question for the females: do you find that males are not good housekeepers? Do you have to go behind them and repair what they started?
On the flip-side; are there any males out there who feel the same way about the females?

____________

FUTUREMRSFILLION

Tuesday, June 13, 2006 3:16 PM

MSG

Its not just the bathroom! How bout the kitchen! Men do you REALLY think that "cleaning the kitchen" constitutes pushing all the crap against the back of the counter?

I am on The List. We are The Forsaken and we aim to burn!
"We don't fear the reaper"

MSG

Tuesday, June 13, 2006 3:17 PM

Ok stop taunting me with chocolate....argh!! Anyway, Nv I hope everything works out for you, but if it doesn't the offer still stands to shave her head ,ruin her day, and just grenerally make her very sorry;)
Rugbug- hey I see no reason why you should have to have kids. I really wanted them, but my husband's in your camp so I just enjoy me niece and nephew a ton and to mother my students ( who desperately need it) Just because I don't have kids doesn't mean I don't have kids:)
As for the ladder, I have mostly male friends and I have to say I would agree on the difficult to jump a ladder thing, but mainly because I know my friends too well to ever consider dating them ( best friend is a guy I've known since I was 4)

Tristan- oh my god Ihope your wife thanks her lucky stars every day!! Anyway yes I do re-clean after I have pointed out the unclean parts, but all that seems to achieve is an "I don't know what you are talking about" look and some snotty comments about stuff I don't do well.

You're only young once, but you can be immature any time!

EMMARIGBY

Tuesday, June 13, 2006 3:22 PM

About the kids, I always said that I never wanted them ever. Now, nearing 28, I feel that maybe I want one a little tiny bit. Unfortunately you can't just have a little tiny bit of a kid so I'll stick with encouraging my sisters to procreate. Then I can be the cool auntie and give them back when they get smellie! My sister is 36 and struggling to get pregnant at present so I may end up having her kid for her (I'm willing, she thinks it's weird!) How would you guys feel about that?

________________________________
Hisssssss!

PHOENIXROSE

Tuesday, June 13, 2006 3:23 PM

My stepdad is a superb housecleaner when he's in the mood. The problem (before we all moved and got separate bathrooms) was that he would "clean off" the counter - literally. All my contact stuff, my hairbrush, and other such essentials I used every single day were tucked away somewhere. It drove me mad. But he did clean the bathroom in a Tristan-like fashion (minus bleach cuz the fumes would linger for days).

***********

PHOENIXROSE

Tuesday, June 13, 2006 3:27 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by EmmaRigby:
About the kids, I always said that I never wanted them ever. Now, nearing 28, I feel that maybe I want one a little tiny bit. Unfortunately you can't just have a little tiny bit of a kid so I'll stick with encouraging my sisters to procreate. Then I can be the cool auntie and give them back when they get smellie! My sister is 36 and struggling to get pregnant at present so I may end up having her kid for her (I'm willing, she thinks it's weird!) How would you guys feel about that?

________________________________
Hisssssss!

I wouldn't mind someone being an incubator for me if I really wanted kids and couldn't do it myself. (Hell, I've talked to pregnant women; I might just want to avoid going through that!!) No really, though, if I could and really wanted them, it would be good to carry them myself. But I think it's sweet you're willing to go through that for your sister!
My aunt spent lots and lots of money to have her little girl...

***********

ELOISA

Tuesday, June 13, 2006 3:33 PM

I'm a horrendous cleaner. I'll clean house once every month or so, unless there's a particular reason to do so early. Something just needs to look pretty hygienic to satisfy me. Lavatory's an exception. Need a clean loo at all times. I'm afraid it tends to be my intermittently visiting sister or even more intermittently visiting ex-flatmate who tends to clean up for me...

I blame my father, who hates mess in any form but whose method of cleaning is to complain and yell till someone else does it. I have a similar reaction to making lists - he relies on them, I won't even do shopping lists. Is that a guy thing?

***
http://forums.ffonline.com/forumdisplay.php?f=19
Creative Writing

PREV PAGE 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 NEXT PAGE