Male and Female Imponderables the Fifth

POSTED BY: Tristan
UPDATED: Sunday, May 28, 2006 11:01
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NVGHOSTRIDER

Wednesday, May 24, 2006 7:20 PM

Dang FMF, you're a machine. I really envy the guy that can keep up with you. Go trolling at your local grocery store. Look for the guy looking at travel magazines with a loaf of bread, PBJ, fresh fruit, and light beer. Be careful though, make sure he ain't too femanine. Or find the guy looking at the real hot rod mags (Ol' Skool Rods and The Horse). I tend to be in these sections and the guys around me seem to also be single with that dream of travel and adventure. Also try your local media store (Boarders,Tower). And of course anybody hanging around the Firely/Serenity area of the video store is fair game.

DAYVE

Wednesday, May 24, 2006 7:32 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by FutureMrsFIllion:
Here is my imponderable - I have no access to unmarried/unattached/heterosexual males.

I work from 7-4 Mon to Fri. I have an evening job from 5:30-11. My house is 40 miles away from my day job, and I work the second job 2-7 both weekend days!

my question is, what would you do with one if you got him? seems like you would way too tired to entertain the guy anyway.... i mean holy snikees batman.... you work WAY too much....

all seriousness aside, i would say you need to take some "Me" time... get yourself out there and put that bright, shiny face where it can be appreciated.... i know those guys are around - i saw one yesterday... granted he was giving me a speeding ticket, but i'm pretty sure he was straight....

DAYVE

Wednesday, May 24, 2006 7:36 PM

& there's always the Personals... most alternative newspapers have em.... worth a shot and it might save some of your precious time.... (since you don't have much to spare)...

MERCURY002

Wednesday, May 24, 2006 9:06 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by copilot:
No you guys are just fine no worries. Just found out what I really mean to this particular individual is all. After four years apparently all I am is a drunk ugly whore to him. Good to know where I stand I guess. I'm still really angry so bear with me okay?

Try telling them what they mean to you, they may open up or have been having a bad day, still no excuse for that unless your mal.

As for violence i dont know what kinda fights that you guys have been in but some of the ones i have been in (few and little) look quite choreographed, with jumping dodging and counter attacks, i have had no formal training, neither have my freinds but the natural flow of a fight can be fast and pretty.

A few people are saying that they get angery, the last and only time i got angery was when i was seven (now 18) and it dosent affect me much i just get mildly annoyed.

A question about anger and fights ... has anyone been bullied, in my highschool our entire year was close, we made a sort of early student union full of comradeship, and all of the rugby team, football team and the big kids surrounded a small group of bullies early on and said if they didnt stop we would get the rest of the year and beat the living crap out of them and they never ever did it again, it was a fairly empty threat and wouldnt hurt them too much.

I know that this is a sensitive topic but most of you are older and have left schools and might free able to talk about it.

Simon:"If the battle was so horrible, why did he name the ship after it?"
Zoe:"Once you've been in serenity you never leave"

FUTUREMRSFILLION

Wednesday, May 24, 2006 9:24 PM

NV and Dayve -

Thanks for the advice. I do need to have some "me" time. Anyone up for offing the bigamist ex? NO? Dang it! The insurance would come in handy!

I have to work, because he feels that after 19 years of marriage, the fact that I do not have a retirement account or pension is not his problem. Even though he was the one that wanted me home with the kids. And he doesn't think he should have to help me pay this house payment. So here I am. 41. No prospects.

As for all those lovely places to look - there aren't really any here. This is a tourist town, so there are a lot of crap tourist stores, an outlet mall and a walmart. The locals, well, not going there and the tourists are married or Gay.

Anyway, this too shall pass!

I am on The List. We are The Forsaken and we aim to burn!
"We don't fear the reaper"

TAYEATRA

Wednesday, May 24, 2006 9:57 PM

In response to the bullying thing...

I was picked on age 7-8 because I was too smart for my own good and a natural suck-up. The same girls then picked on me at high school aged 11.

After that I stopped acting smart and took on a generally 'disinterested'/'can't be arsed' persona. This is basically the equivalent of 'ignoring them'. I became very subdued and avoided large groups of people and I know it affected my self-confidence. It's still an issue I'm working to overcome but I recently found out that one of the girls that picked on me now has 2 kids, is pregnant and is getting divorced (she's 19). On the one hand I'm trying not to be petty and cruel about it but one small part of me is amused... does this make me a bad person?

I never reacted violently to anyone that picked on me but I did give someone a black eye for bullying a friend of mind... I guess I tend to stick up for others more than for myself.

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Taya
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I'm going to S3!!!
(*Insert hysterical celebration dance here*)

COPILOT

Wednesday, May 24, 2006 11:41 PM

My relationship is not fulfilling in the least so yes I do tend to keep one or two surrogate boyfriends around to make me feel special. It's not fair to the guys but they seem to gladly take on the job. Basically it comes down to hanging out with me watching chick flicks takeing me out on "dates" and telling me I'm beautiful. Wow that is a really sucky job! I should buy them something for their troubles. On occasion these relationships turn sexual but not that often. My relationship with Significant Other is severly screwed up! Sometimes I forget how much but typing that out made me relize how bad it really is.

An I carried such a torch.......For the Dark Lord

NUCLEARDAY

Thursday, May 25, 2006 12:49 AM

On bullying: Yeah, I was one of those geeky kids that got picked on in school time to time. (Oh wait, I'm still a geek :) I was mostly left alone once I got to high school, though. I realized that most of bullying is something of an act, and that both the bully and the victim have parts to play. Once I stepped out of my own role of playing the victim, the bullying pretty much stopped. ie, once I started standing up to them it stopped being as much fun. Never got in any fights over it or anything, just found that it's not as fun to bully someone who doesn't act frightened and squirmy. Still, there's always some ass-hat out there that just wants to mess with people...

Oh, and hugs for FMF and Copilot. Us menfolk aren't all walking piles of go-se, but I think some of us never got the memo... :P

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You can take my Browncoat when you pry it from my cold, dead fingers. (Or if Kaylee asks me nicely...)

SOULQUAKE

Thursday, May 25, 2006 1:09 AM

I was never bullied - but left in the corner sort of? You know, last picked. It was that way until my sophmore year of high school.

Dealing with anger - loud music and a notebook! Write out the storm - seriously, it's amazing how much of a difference it can make. Not only are you getting the stuff out of your head and onto paper, but the physical act of writing is a release as well. Screaming in a pillow is good as well ;)
I used to deal with anger in a very... unhealthy way. But these are some things that work for me. And if you need it, a good cry never hurt anyone.

Hang in there FMF - you've got tons of support!

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"Sun came out, and I walked on my feet and heard with my ears. I ate the bits, the bits stayed down, and I work. I function like I'm a girl. I hate it because I know it'll go away."

VINTERDRAKEN

Thursday, May 25, 2006 2:08 AM

Wow, lots and lots of things to reply to. Didnt think I had been gone so long ;)
Ok, first off.
Violence. Generally real violence is bad, got into my fair share of scraps when I was little and learnt the ugly side of violence pretty fast, also I have berserker blood in me, dont know if you get what I mean, its a icelandic thing. (the expression I mean).
Violence on TV can be fun, depending on what it is. Dont like violent sports much but the occasional action movie is great (also, im a big fan of horror movies).

Then to the Ex question. Ive tried to stay friends with some of my exes, but usually it results in either we grow apart or we get into a fight and stop being friends. Dont think its impossible to be friends with a ex though, just hard at times. And I can say that my brother and a friend of mine have both slept with the same women (although at very different times) and they have no problem spending time together or talking about it so I dont think thats a male thing, more of a person thing.

And to answer Mercury002´s question,
Yes ive been bullied. I actually to the point that it broke me completely and messed me up for a long while. Even resulted in a fair share of suicide attempts (please, no pity. Was a very long time ago). Although it was hell, it made me the person I am today. Dont have much trouble talking about those times, there all in the past now.

You can’t stop the Signal.
Keep spreading the word about Firefly!

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