Male and Female Imponderables the Fifth
POSTED BY: Tristan
UPDATED: Sunday, May 28, 2006 11:01
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did you know that cows can sleep standing but they only dream when they are lying on the floor
Simon:"If the battle was so horrible, why did he name the ship after it?"
Zoe:"Once you've been in serenity you never leave"
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Consider me lying on the floor then...dreaming of a world without work...maybe aboard Serenity, taking the jobs as they come...
And, we wake up back in reality.
I am not a female, but I have been the "emotional hole-filler" (not how it sounds, honest). I was a really close friend to someone I found attractive and they found me attractive, but we did not desire to destory the friendship by going physical. We were there for each other, as I had dry spells, too. It was actually a nice relationship; neither expected anything from the other but an ear and a shoulder.
Holding until you get back, Captain.
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Originally posted by nvghostrider:
True or False. Women tend to keep at least one guy friend around in order to fulfill the emotional hole their men cannot fill. I have my own opinions, but I'd like to hear what all you SHINY folks in the 'verse have to say.
I have friends I like being around, male and female, and their friendship is a good thing that I need, whether I'm in a romantic relationship or not. It's not like I "keep" a token guy friend for anything. Ick!
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I'm the president. I don't need to listen.
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As someone with a bevy of female friends I've always preferred the term "emotion fluffer".
Send lawyers, guns and money
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Emotion Fluffer! Love it. Now lets see if Websters will accept it. Why not, they took jiggy didn't they?
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Imponderables...I like it.
I have one for all you lovely people: What kind of terms do you keep with your exes / do you believe is most healthy to keep with your exes?
When I broke up with my boyfriend of two years, he was my best (and nearly my only for a while) friend, and I couldn't imagine not being on friendly, close terms with him. Breaking up was awful, but after a short while without talking we had a good relationship as friends, if questionably close friends.
Four months later (sooner than I would have liked, but crazy things happen) I met a great guy and we have now been together for two months. He is incredibly understanding and supportive of my relationship with my ex, but things with my ex and I have been increasingly bad. He feels replaced and alone, and talking to him only makes me feel guilty.
People warned me that it's better to just seperate yourself completely from your ex, but I don't let people go easily, and I can't stand the thought of no longer knowing this person I was once so close too. At the same time, I'm starting to think maybe it's better to just remember the good times I had with him and cut it off. But I'd like to still try to make it work.
Any one with similar problems or advice-ful type thoughts?
Sorry if this has been discussed, I kind of missed the first four of these...
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I am a leaf on the wind.
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I think it just barely won out over fo'schizzle.
As far as the flip side of the question at hand, I'd say I never kept my friends, female or otherwise, as "token" anything.
Friendships are based on mutual likes and dislikes. Not a required demographic slot that needs to be filled.
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Send lawyers, guns and money
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It is difficult to keep ex-lovers as friends, but not immpossible. For example, I do not think I could be in the same room with my ex-wife, and we divorced a good four years ago. However, I am still very good friends with some "serious" relationships from college. I think there is a required "away" period of time, and then a slow re-building of feelings that needs to occur. Unless, of course, the break-up was amicable, in which case it should be alright. This may just be me, however...
Holding until you get back, Captain.
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Sounds to me as if your ex is still harbouring some feelings for you.
You might need to step back a little bit more. It might just need a little more "adjustment time", or you may find that you can't continue the relationship anymore.
I am on The List. We are The Forsaken and we aim to burn!
"We don't fear the reaper"
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I think its great that you current guy is cool with the old one. A friend I had once stated that two men who have slept with the same woman can't ever be in the same room together. I'm sure that is true in many cases, but if your guy is okay with your old one, then maybe you made a good desicion. One quick note: Despite how you broke up, happiness is never something you should feel guilty about.
Wassup FMF.
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