Male and Female Imponderables, the Third
POSTED BY: Tristan
UPDATED: Thursday, May 18, 2006 01:06
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I'm no expert, but I have done the whole I'm interested talk many times. I think two of the things that you need to look at are the eyes and the mouth. Watch for the intensity in the other persons eyes when they talk to you. If they don't wander and they have that enlightened look, there is something a little more than conversation going on in his head. Where are his eyes during conversation? If they are looking you over, this is a good thing. If their eyes move down to your lips, there is either definite interest or you have something on your lip. Check your lip first to see if anything is on them, if there is nothing, he is interested. Also, look at the mouth. Do they smile a lot? Even when things are not that funny? Dead give away. Watch if they are constantly wetting their lips. Nervous habit that a lot of guys do. But, make sure that it only happens when he's talking to you. I don't know if this is going to be of any use, but this is how things work for me. If all else fails, just ask. Better to feel stupid or just out right asking then to feel stupid for trying to act on something that was never there. I forgot the other topics so I will be back with more of my input.
Simon: What if he(Mal) tells you to kill me?
Zoe: (without hesitation) I kill you.
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I'm with FutureMrsFillion on this one! No dating! You're destined for sainthood you know.
An I carried such a torch
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Anybody else ever read How to make anyone fall in love with you? I read it and realized how much I didn't need it afterwards. Natural flirt be I. I keep forgeting what I learned when I'm talking to people and damn it if they arn't always falling all over themselfs! WTF I'm not even that attractive. Aparently the mind fills in the missing spots in a persons charchter if you really like them.
An I carried such a torch
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Not to sound crude, but usually the easiest way to find out if someone likes you is to ask them. I can state for a fact that if I am flirting with someone, and I am insterested in a relationship with that person, and they ask me straight out what my deal is, I would tell them. (Sorry, the grammar monster in my head is having a problem with that many commas in a sentence) I think that one of the major reasons relationships never start is because hints and clues are either overlooked or misinterpreted.
Case in point (or, story time!): My wife. She and I have been friends for a long time. We have always flirted, always joked, and almost always been there for each other. There was a time she was having problems with her boyfriend, and I had already been divorced, I tried cheering her up during online chats. One of my statements was "We should have a passionate love affair"...now, I have always had feelings for her, even while I was married to the first wife, but never told anyone nor acted on them beyond flirting. I had no idea how she felt about me. Her repsonse was along the lines of "Are you serious?" with no sarcasm. My response was "...", in that moment, I realized she, too was interested in me. We have been happily married for almost two years now. Had she not asked, I never would have known she was interested.
Anecdote; if in doubt, ask!
Holding until you get back, Captain.
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Mal4prez, about the whole public groping thing and the take charge woman, I like a take charge woman but I'm not really big on the whole open thing in public. Certain things are okay, but most stuff is better left for home.
Copilot, we may be stupid and have coodies, but it seems that most of you ladies don't mind. I would also like to add that I may have coodies but I don't really think I'm stupid.
FMF, nice to see you back! In answer to your question, it does not seem like a good thing. If he were not married it would be completely different. Just my opinion, but I only see bad things coming from this.
Simon: What if he(Mal) tells you to kill me?
Zoe: (without hesitation) I kill you.
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I just wanted to respond to Copilots statement about not being that attractive. It is not always about the looks on the outside. I'm more attracted to who the person is and what they are about. Yes, the mind does fill in the spaces both physically and internally. I'm sure you are not giving yourself as much credit as you deserve.
Simon: What if he(Mal) tells you to kill me?
Zoe: (without hesitation) I kill you.
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CoPilot, I have to disagree with you. From what I have seen, you are attractive. Physically as well as "other"...by that, I mean as far as the content of your posts. Believe it or not, a lot of males are attracted to what's on the inside, mind-wise; I think Lysander pointed that out.
You have nothing to worry about in the attractive department! 
Holding until you get back, Captain.
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Awww I feel special thank you guys 
An I carried such a torch
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Oh no, I have no interest - it is just weird!
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