Male and Female Imponderables, the Third

POSTED BY: Tristan
UPDATED: Thursday, May 18, 2006 01:06
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MY first quetion is how the heck did I missed this thread???? AND it's predecessors??? Now I'm gonna have to go through the archives to find out all the stuff I missed out on!! gotta get edumucated!

In answer to your question, I too like the guy to make the first move. I'm usually so oblivious to the whole who's making a play and who is just chatting thing that unless it's an overt move, Verbal or otherwise, I'd just assume he was being nice/chatty, whatever, but not "interested".

Maybe that's the (my) problemn - I'm always assuming the guys isn't interested...and here's a reciprical question for you - How do I know? What "signs" should I look for that a guy is interested?
JBW

Whatd'ja all go an' order a dead guy for?

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Yay, new thread!
Mmmm, ok, I discussed porn a little in the last one. Like anything, it depends how it's done. I do tend to be more turned on by a sexy story or a sexy voice than sexy pictures, but they can get a reaction sometimes. And of course a story has to be written well; I've read some godawful stories that I couldn't even finish.
Mmmmmm, knives. I have to talk about this because I am somewhat of a fetishist, and I think knives are very, very sexy. You have to be careful, of course (unless you're into blood, which some people are) and I would say just not pressing down at all is the best bet. But really, the edge of a knife can hit individual nerve endings like nothing else and it can be very erotic. Most of my relationships have *cough* involved knife play in some way, but most of them weren't very skilled at it, so I stopped it in fear of being cut. My last boy was pretty good at it, but didn't do it very often.
In terms of making the first move, I used to be incapable of making a first move; I wanted to know the other person was interested. I stopped minding as much because I got tired of waiting to be noticed. Yes, I get tired of being "hit on" when I'm not giving any reciprocation; some men are totally clueless and just keep at it after I've made it clear I'm not interested. That is annoying. But being flirted with I enjoy, and after a bit of flirtation, I'll just be direct. My last relationship, we'd been flirting for awhile last time we saw each other, so when I saw him again I just said "Hey, you kinda like me, huh?" I just hate dancing around, you know? So as long as someone is being direct with me and getting the hint (one way or the other) I'm happy. I don't insist on making the first move, nor do I insist the other person makes the first move. I am still working out how to talk to girls. I've had a few sorta relationships, but they seem more skittish than men, in a weird way, and I don't know how best to aproach it. It's fairly easy to tell if a man is interested in me, not so much with women.
Whew! Did I miss anything?

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I've found that visual pornography doesn't really do it for me, but books are nice. I think it's because I get to make up the visuals in my head instead of watching a sketchy movie. Maybe that's the other problem . . . the only pornos I've seen were really cheap ones that my friend bought off of ebay or really bad ones playing at this restaurant I ate at.

I tend to prefer if a guy makes the first move, but I've occasionally done it. However, I get really put off if the guy is creepy about it or sloppy drunk when he tries to pick me up. For instance, there was this guy on the street one morning that would not leave me alone. He just kept saying "I'm interested in getting to know you better" and I'm responding with "I'm not interested". Then when I said bye he definitely tried to make out with me in the street at 10 am. I had "known" this guy for approximately 5 minutes. I was highly flattered at my bday party this weekend when a girl AND her boyfriend were trying to pick me up because that doesn't happen that often.

Question: What do guys/girls really think about a girl's weight? People always SAY they like more, but you only ever see people dating thinnish people and it's annoying!

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Originally posted by jaynesbunkwoman:
MY first quetion is how the heck did I missed this thread???? AND it's predecessors??? Now I'm gonna have to go through the archives to find out all the stuff I missed out on!! gotta get edumucated!

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By all means, check out the other threads, they were very interesting. I will warn you however, that the first thread was hijacked by a scary troll. Thus the creation of the second thread. But no worries, the trolliness has been non-existent since then.

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Whew - back to work, and more fun to catch up with on the MF thread!

First - copilot, you kill me with your sudden discussion of knives, I'm with Emma about the initial reaction of WTF!!! Are you really saying erotica knife play? (You're wrecking my naivete!)

Re first move - I admit to occasionally having that annoying chick habit of wanting men to read my mind. I was on a date once, talking about something that I thought was fascinating, and the guy was staring at my lips and replied that he hadn't heard a thing I said because he wanted to kiss me. That's sweet and I guess should be flattering, but I was talking for chrissake. Save it for later!

Anyway, so first move by man can be great, but only when I'm in the mood too... and that comes after some successsful meeting of the minds.

As I get older, I'm more into making the first move myself. It could be a mid-thirties empowerment thing, but I find myself more into being in control than I ever was in my twenties.

Most guys here have said they like making the first move - really? I have to say, I almost pity the next guy I'm really attracted too, [warning - too much information ahead!] because it's been a while and I'll probably attack him. Often.

Would that bother you manly-take-charge types? And honestly here. Like - public groping, things that might get a man sued if he did it to a woman. Would you be freaked if a woman you were dating did that to you?



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What? No opinions? Have I freaked out the men?

Dang, and now I'm taking the afternoon off so I'll have to catch up with things again tomorrow. Bummer!

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Originally posted by jaynesbunkwoman:
How do I know? What "signs" should I look for that a guy is interested?
JBW



Thats what I want to know!

As for Porn. Book, movie its all good as long as they don't use REALLY cheesey lines. Then its just over!

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