Male and Female Imponderables
POSTED BY: Tristan
UPDATED: Tuesday, September 26, 2006 15:29
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Originally posted by Dayve:
i've always wondered why some women prefer a life more akin to a day time soap opera than a stable, loving homelife....
Funny, I've wondered the same thing about men. I just had my heart broken, and the reason I was given was that we didn't have any "spontaniety" which was really, really not true. He just got used to how our relationship worked. I liked the stability, esspecially because we had the trick down of stability and passion in one neat little package; but I guess he didn't like it. So it's not just a female mystery, is it?
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Alright, now I've read the rest of this thread so:
Size has nothing to do with sensitivity (unless there are implants, as mentioned) I am almost painfully sensitive at times and I'm a C, so that has nothing to do with it. I think that sensitivity is in the mind as much as the body, too, from my personal experience 
, but that's a long drawn out thing that I don't have time to go into as I'm at work. Maybe later if people really want to hear about it.
Subtle hints; yeah, I stopped trying that awhile ago. If youre too subtle he doesn't notice you, I realized this very early in my life. So, I try to be obvius. I found giving hugs, sitting in laps, and asking guys if they liked me to be very good techniques. Even the smart guys (who I happen to find very attractive; I have a 140-something IQ myself, by-the-by) were clueless unless I just came out and asked them. I don't mind being direct.
Most important thing in a relationship to me is honesty. Trust comes from honesty, knowing what you have in common comes from honesty, everything comes from being honest. Too many people try and be or act a certain way to impress someone, and it never works. I think one of the problems with my most recent relationship (read: heartbreak) was that we had some very differing views on a few things, and he could never come right out and say it. I don't know why. People should know who they are and not be afraid to show it. Honesty to yourself is as important to success as honesty to your partner. I'm not just being bitter here!
What else? It has been conclusively proven that feet are not an indicator of size. I don't know that hands really are, either. I don't know that anything is. I've known guys with quite large hands and, uh, not very large members. My recent ex had very slender fingers, though they were pretty long, and he was surprisingly thick (try losing your virginity to that ouchouchouch) so I don't think that's an inicator either. I can't say if size matters to me since I've only had the one full-fledged partner, but I really don't think there's a way to tell without seeing someone naked.
What do I notice first? The face. Overall face, ending with the eyes as my focus. I like a nice voice and good conversation. Someone who really knows how to speak is very attractive. In terms of body, I notice different things depending on the gender. I think anyone can have a beautiful body if they're attractive to me in other ways. But I'm kind of an ass girl, for both genders, and I love women's waists and men's chests.
Did I cover everything? I think I did...
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Had a discussion about nipples with a ex of mine once. And what I learned from that discussion is that people with small breast (like she had) generally have softer bras and since there nipples dont get irritated by constant exposure to fabrics they become more sensitive, while women with larger breast have bras with less stuffing and therefore there niples are exposed to more agitation and become less sensitive. She also told me that she barely could use shirts if she hadnt a bra on because it hurt like hell for a while, but also that after a week or two she wouldnt be so sensitive any longer and didnt need to use a bra to protect her nipples, and ive learned that the reason men generelly have less sensitive nipples is the simple fact, we have no bras at all and therefore our nipples constantly are exposed to stimulation by shirts and other clothingitems and we lose much of our sensetivity in that region. And ofcourse, some people are just more sensitive then others.
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Vinterdraken and Phoenixrose,
Thank you both for your insight into my question. It's funny how no matter what yo ask, people will honestly respond.
So, are there any other people with questions or comments? Look forward to hearing from all of you. Thanks for the thread Tristan.
Simon: What if he(Mal) tells you to kill me.
Zoe: (without hesitation) I kill you.
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Originally posted by Tristan:
Here's another one:
For those of you either married or in a serious relationship; what is the most important aspect of a happy marriage/relationship?
I am going with trust.
Holding until you get back, Captain.
Communication.
Trust hast to be built, has to be earned. Honesty has come before trust, but THAT still has to be communicated.
Funny, I moved 300 miles away from my primary partner, and VOILA! We're communicating like never before! It's fabulous. We were at a party last weekend and our friends were telling us how envious they are of how great our relationship is and how well we seem to communicate. We both said, "It's soo much work! But so so worth it!"
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Originally posted by ChrisMoorhead:
Questions for women:
Look at your wardrobe. How many articles of clothing do you have that hug your ass and thighs? How many shorts come above mid thigh? How many tops "accentuate" the area that they cover? WHY? That stuff CANNOT be comfortable.
On a related subject, makeup: You look better without it, and even if you don't, oh well. Why do you spend any amount of time trying to put on a fake face?
First, I like wearing clothes like that because I feel good in them, and I find them more comfortable than clothes that are baggy (but that's just me). Also, if you compare modern women's clothing to clothing of other eras (corsets, hoop skirts, bustles, ect.) then modern clothes are more comfortable than what were worn in the past.
Secondly, I agree with the makeup thing, I rarely if ever wear it, almost only in situations where I'll be under bright lights. However, I've found that putting on makeup helps me calm down when I'm angry (don't ask why, I haven't the slightest clue).
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Originally posted by Vinterdraken:
Had a discussion about nipples with a ex of mine once. And what I learned from that discussion is that people with small breast (like she had) generally have softer bras and since there nipples dont get irritated by constant exposure to fabrics they become more sensitive, while women with larger breast have bras with less stuffing and therefore there niples are exposed to more agitation and become less sensitive.
I'm sorry, but that's a little ridiculous. If your bra fits, it won't rub your nipples. From my experience wearing A's, B's and C's, it's actually easier to find bras that fit nice and snug when you're a little more well endowed. When I frist started to develop, my bras never fit right, now they fit fine and there's no excess stimulation. Most women have trouble finding the perfect bra since we're all shaped a little differently, but they do exist because the companies that make them know we're all shaped differently. It's just a matter of hunting around. Of course there's still the mind over matter factor in it; if you're nervous, stimulation doesn't feel as good and sensitivity might go up or down depending on your natural state of being. I'll restate that I can be painfully sensitive, but once I relax, that sensitivity is just... nice. An advantage, even. That's why easing into anything physical is pretty important.
It's interesting, too, to hear that so many men aren't sensitive or don't like to be stimulated that way. I have yet to find a man who doesn't turn to pudding if you brush/kiss his nipples correctly, though I did meet one who claimed he'd gotten them pierced in order to "wake up" the nerves. Weird. I thought it tended to kill more nerves than it woke up, but I guess it worked for him.
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Originally posted by Rhyianan:Quote:
Originally posted by ChrisMoorhead:
Questions for women:
Look at your wardrobe. How many articles of clothing do you have that hug your ass and thighs? How many shorts come above mid thigh? How many tops "accentuate" the area that they cover? WHY? That stuff CANNOT be comfortable.
On a related subject, makeup: You look better without it, and even if you don't, oh well. Why do you spend any amount of time trying to put on a fake face?
First, I like wearing clothes like that because I feel good in them, and I find them more comfortable than clothes that are baggy (but that's just me). Also, if you compare modern women's clothing to clothing of other eras (corsets, hoop skirts, bustles, ect.) then modern clothes are more comfortable than what were worn in the past.
Secondly, I agree with the makeup thing, I rarely if ever wear it, almost only in situations where I'll be under bright lights. However, I've found that putting on makeup helps me calm down when I'm angry (don't ask why, I haven't the slightest clue).
Ah, I forgot those points. I like tighter clothes because they support the girls, and yeah, they make me feel good. Clothing doesn't have to be uncomfortably tight to hug the form.
I haven't worn makeup for years. I used to, but I got tired of it. It's easier not to worry, and I've never had a guy tell me I looked bad without it.
I understand how it could be calming, though. It's kinda precise work. I get the same effect from sewing.
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Absolute first thing? Whether or not he's closer to my mom's age than mine. I'll confess, when it comes to relationships I'm a bit of an age-ist. And height-ist. Sometimes it sucks being sort of tall.
Following this, the "first thing" I look for is personality/fun-ness/spontaneity/ and some modicum of intelligence.
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No, I wouldn't be unattracted, but I'm arguably a bit of a geek myself and also have a high IQ.
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