Hunt for the Secret Hidey Place of Nice Boys
POSTED BY: mai
UPDATED: Tuesday, May 30, 2006 17:49
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That's part of the problem, isn't it? Reading signals can be difficult.
Serenity, First Officer of Destiny
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Originally posted by LightMeDark:
Wow, XeroGravity, you have my head spinning, haha ;D
Another point about lack of nice guys (or at least me): I was recently told by some guys that this girl that works the same place I do was mad about me. They said even they could see the heavy hints she was dropping me for a while now. I don't know why none of them mentioned it until she gave up and went with some other guy (she's rather beautiful, no problem with getting men).
My point is that I literally have approximately no clue when it comes to women and their "hints," and my method of hinting to them is apparently ineffectual, as something that would be significant to me doesn't set off anything for them.
Yet another reason that my two relationships have been with women that more or less smacked me over the head with their interest.
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I actually agree, LMD, that it’s really unfair the way men are required to take the initiative (or at least they are in olde-wordly places like England) and us girls have to wait for the nod from the young gentleman of our choice, having to satisfy ourselves with dropping HEAVY hints and hoping they get the message … I’m told there are places where a girl can ask a man out, but certainly where I come from that would be considered fairly forward and likely to make any young man run in terror, scattering roses as he goes …
I once spent a year (a WHOLE gorram year!!) dancing round a guy I thought wasn’t interested, when it turned out he was simply as girly as I was and was waiting for me to make the first move – which I was really never gonna … the only thing that saved us was huge quantities of inhibition-removing alcohol and an empty house …
SO believe me, I sympathise with the whole not getting the signs thing – I personally like to think there are hundreds of nice boys out there swooning with affection for me, each of whom I gaily trot over on a daily basis, totally oblivious – It’s either that or no one’s the least bit interested …
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The female of our species is infinitely more deadly than the male.
It remains true from insects, all the way on through to mammals in every part of nature.
Life on Earth-that-is is just full of basic lessons.
Don't fall in love with a black widow. In other words, don't fall for the "nice girl" routine.
XG
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I love this thread. Not that the fact that it needs to exist is a good thing, but the comaderie of it... I hope that came out right... I'm not trying to say that anyone's pain is good or anything like that. Just that I can completely relate to it and am therefore happy the thread exists.
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Originally posted by XeroGravity:
Don't fall in love with a black widow. In other words, don't fall for the "nice girl" routine.
What is the "nice girl" routine? 'Cause now I'm kind of worried that this may be my problem...
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Originally posted by Kellaina:
What is the "nice girl" routine? 'Cause now I'm kind of worried that this may be my problem...
Uhoh.....I'm a "nice girl"....
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Originally posted by Kellaina:
I love this thread. Not that the fact that it needs to exist is a good thing, but the comaderie of it... I hope that came out right... I'm not trying to say that anyone's pain is good or anything like that. Just that I can completely relate to it and am therefore happy the thread exists.Quote:
Originally posted by XeroGravity:
Don't fall in love with a black widow. In other words, don't fall for the "nice girl" routine.
What is the "nice girl" routine? 'Cause now I'm kind of worried that this may be my problem...
When it comes to guys, I'm one of the foolish ones, hoping to find the best in everyone.
Look where that got Kaylee. During the show I mean.
(Quite a trail of no and where.)
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Well, if I were to consider myself a nice guy that would mean I think very highly of myself, I consider myself an alright guy. I've been told that I'm very nice but I just don't see it, I don't know.
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Just finished reading this thread.
I'm really curious about the demographics
of these forums. I'd imagine the age ranges
would skew to the younger crowd (18-24)?
Asking because I'm 38 (yeah, yikes!) and I'm
wondering if I'm the only Grandpa. Actually,
I've never married...(again, yikes)
I have a ton to say about Firefly/Serenity, but
that's for another forum.
Back to topic,
To echo a few other posts, alot of guys are in hibernation for various reasons. I know this because all my guy friends who *don't care* about commitment, *don't care* about the woman as a person to maybe be with long-term are out there _Getting_It!_ The guys I know who *do care*, (with rare exception) are single, and kind of in give-up mode. Myself included.
For all you younglings out there, the Thirties are kinda strange - I *feel* 27, so when women that age call me sir, it really messes with my head.
Anyhoo-
I agree it's about chemistry but utmost imo is communication. It's weird how you can climb a 1000ft sheer slickrock face with no ropes, address a room full of professionals, coax a growling Doberman into being nice, and then CHOKE when a woman you think is attractive starts chatting you up..... WTF IS that?!?!
(Warning: you too may end up 38 and not know wtf)
P.S. This is the 1st place I've heard of LARPs -- do they take geezers generally?
P.P.S. Mai, where do you want us?
Good Luck all, y'all seem real "nice" to me.
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All this talk of Chemistry..... What about biology! There has to be some biology right? Mind you lets not forget about the physics too, eh phnarr, phnarr!!!!!!... Dang!...I shoulda done science at school - but then, I thought it was all about poetry and the arts...y'know you have to be able to express yourself correctly, when you see that certain someone who you spark with... Oh...Sparks!!!! It is all about chemistry!!!.... Who'd have thunk it!
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Originally posted by XeroGravity:
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The female of our species is infinitely more deadly than the male.
It remains true from insects, all the way on through to mammals in every part of nature.
Life on Earth-that-is is just full of basic lessons.
Don't fall in love with a black widow. In other words, don't fall for the "nice girl" routine.
XG
This is indeed such an interesting thread.
I've always thought this nice girl/guy phenomenon was a little mysterious. I mean most everyone claims to be nice looking for nice but from what I've seen, we all have some not-nice and we're all drawn to the dark side on occasion. I certainly don't think there's more focused niceness on any side of the gender line. We're all human.
My take, of me, is that I'm more on the abrasive side (maybe not to the black widow point) but I want to be nice. Really I do! It just doesn't work out. I'm not good at it.
I had an excellent discussion of this kind of thing with a very wise (and truly nice) friend last spring. Her suggestion is to be my abrasive self but always make sure that the people that count know they are important to me. This isn't as easy as it sounds, but has been somewhat successful.
Maybe that just means I'm becoming nice?
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