Eliza Dushku describes how she was raped at 12 yrs old in Hollywood, actress would later star in 'Buffy' and Joss Whedon Dollhouse
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Wuts with her older brotherz & dad? Why didnt they beat the perv haf to deth within an owr uv being told about it?
I dont get how anybody coud not think 'I will be murdered, so I will not do it', yet it happenz all the time.
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Yanno... something happened at work this very night that reminded me somewhat of this situation. Now, of course, what I'm about to say wasn't related to sexual harassment, and I am by no means trying to diminish at all what a terrible thing happened to Eliza when she was only 12 years old. It actually made me glad that, in at least the case of sexual molestation, that people are finally able to speak out about it.
What I'm going to talk about isn't a grave situation at all, and is absolutely trivial compared to what she went through. It's just that I wonder if for many human beings speaking up about anything, at least to the people with the power to do something about it, is just intimidating as hell or something?
I heard one of the day shift ladies late in my shift talking to one of her co-workers and saying something like "what do they give a shit? They don't have to pay for it." I didn't know what this was about so I just kept doing my work. About 15 minutes later this kid around 23 years old comes up to me and had his coat on. Nothing out of the ordinary because I tend to stay as late as they need me, while most of the people just leave exactly when they were scheduled. I asked him if he was leaving for the night and he said "I need a fucking cigarette." I asked him what was wrong and I guess they had been bitching to him about rotating the stock in grocery, how they have to throw things out everyday and he said they were swearing when they said it too. He says that everything he works is rotated and was blaming it on another guy who admittedly doesn't really perform all that well. I wasn't there, so I don't know for sure exactly how it went down, and I don't monitor my co-worker's while they're working so I don't know the entire truth of the situation.
I told him if that ever happens again that he doesn't have to take that shit. I told him not to get angry, but simply look them in the eyes and tell them to talk to [my manager], then go back to doing your work.
So I talked to my manager after shift about it, just to see if the kid said anything to him, or if the ladies from the day shift did either. Not only did he not know of this incident today, but he had no idea that rotating stock has ever been a problem. I told him that if it is, then it needs to be properly addressed and that the issue needs to be taken care of by management downward, otherwise we're going to have more incidents like this in the future... and people who worked a long day are going to go home in a shitty mood and people who just started their day are going to walk around all day in a shitty mood. Plus, the kid I'm talking about is a really hard worker and I wouldn't want to see him blow up at them some time and lose his job over something that should never have happened in the first place.
My manager thanked me for bringing this up to him, told me that they should have spoken directly to him and not to an associate, and that he would get to the bottom of this.
My point is, I wonder if this type of behavior is just typical among most people... you know... just taking a bunch of shit and letting it fester inside instead of doing something about it?
Of course, I can't blame anybody who was only 12 years old and was taken advantage of by a sick individual. It's terrible that she felt there was nobody she could have talked to in her life at that time who could have done something about it.
I dunno. I'm glad that women being molested are coming together in solidarity to do something about it. I wish it didn't take a freaking movement to do it and that people in general would just stop being punching bags for assholes and stand up for themselves once in a while.
Do Right, Be Right. :)
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It's called "conflict avoidance" and most of us are guilty of it in real life.
I have spent many wasted hours in "brainstorming" sessions trying to "make the agency function more efficiently", looking for a global solution when the REAL problem was So-and-so never fills in the last part of the form and never files it in the right place, causing all kinds of fires that we have to put out"
Not sure if you recall, but I mentioned a co-worker who was kind of a jerk. He used to subtly horn-dog after attractive young women, he had a sarcastic sense of humor, he was probably one of the least diligent workers around ... the only way that (some) people could express their displeasure was by cooking up a sexual harassment complaint against him which, IMHO, was something of a witch-hunt.
There has to be a way of RESOLVING these conflicts. At one point, this person had "jokingly" maligned another person's work, and I sat them both down, along with a bunch of witnesses, and ultimately this person had to withdraw his snarky remark and apologize to the offended party. But yanno what? It was completely out of HR policy and I could have been hung out to dry. We're so hung up on sexual harassment (which BTW is still a real problem) that we haven't figured out how to resolve non-sexual workplace conflicts.
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Yes. Conflict avoidance. Just you saying that made me remember scenes from the last act of the movie Fight Club where they were telling the members to go out and actively start shit with people and watch how almost none of them will actually do anything about it. On particularly comical scene comes to mind where a guy was watering his lawn with a hose and started spraying people walking down his street.
Your example of the horn-dog at your job is typical of what most companies do today. If for some legitimate reason there is a desire that somebody should be fired, rarely is that ever the reason they actually get fired. Proving that somebody screws off all day on the job can be pretty hard to do without tons of video evidence of it happening, but how would one justify obtaining and amassing that evidence on a single employee? Would a company even want to use that tactic since word would get out and employees who already know in the back of their mind and accept that there are cameras might become paranoid about that fact?
Good management is a way to resolve a lot of these conflicts. Unfortunately, it has been my experience most of my life that those who are in management don't actually deserve those positions and are not good at them.
I remember a story my old man told me when I was a kid about a fight breaking out between two guys where he was managing. He got out of his office, said "Alright!". Pulled a quarter out of his pocket and told one of them to call it, and said "whoever wins gets to keep working day shift and whoever loses will be filling one of the night shift vacancies". Both of them immediately went back to their seats and never said another shitty word to each other after that.
Not only did that earn him a lot of respect from his subordinates, but word of that stunt spread quickly and he was being praised by upper management for it.
I've never had a manager anywhere who I would even begin to believe was capable of anything like that.
Maybe it's genetic?
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Quote:Fucking awesome. I don't think you can teach people to have that kind of spontaneous but spot-on reaction. But if there was a school on how to do it, I'd attend!
Pulled a quarter out of his pocket and told one of them to call it, and said "whoever wins gets to keep working day shift and whoever loses will be filling one of the night shift vacancies".
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Originally posted by SIGNYM:Quote:Fucking awesome. I don't think you can teach people to have that kind of spontaneous but spot-on reaction. But if there was a school on how to do it, I'd attend!
Pulled a quarter out of his pocket and told one of them to call it, and said "whoever wins gets to keep working day shift and whoever loses will be filling one of the night shift vacancies".
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lol... funny you should mention spontaneity. My dad acknowledged that he's not usually a very spontaneous person and he didn't know where that came from. I'd have to agree with him on that. He's not as deliberate and calculating as me, but spontaneous is never a word I would use to describe him.
I think that's one of the problems with judging a person's abilities on a college diploma. You most certainly don't learn real world things in a classroom or a lab setting. I think part of it is which role models you emulate as a child and another part of it is who you associate with regularly as an adult. This is one of my major problems with the "HR" Department at any company large enough to have one. I see them as the private sector equivalent of a Commissioned Officer in the military. All book smarts and zero street smarts.
I think large companies have adopted this model though because it's "safe". They know what to expect from the homogenized minds of the college graduate. Even if on average these people would be less effective than a lot of non-graduates, somebody who didn't graduate college is a wild-card. There's really no telling what they would do in a given circumstance until after they've already done it.
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Quote:How many Military Officers, Commissioned by the United States Congress, do you know?
Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:
I see them as the equivalent of a Commissioned Officer in the military. All book smarts and zero street smarts.
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And of that group, you really think you know one who can't run circles around you?
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I was comparing Commissioned Officers to NCO's. Not to myself.
I think that's strikingly obvious if you re-read the post.
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Quote:I see no comparative reference.
Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:Quote:
Originally posted by SIGNYM:Quote:Fucking awesome. I don't think you can teach people to have that kind of spontaneous but spot-on reaction. But if there was a school on how to do it, I'd attend!
Pulled a quarter out of his pocket and told one of them to call it, and said "whoever wins gets to keep working day shift and whoever loses will be filling one of the night shift vacancies".
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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE men poor - William Blake
America is an oligarchy
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lol... funny you should mention spontaneity. My dad acknowledged that he's not usually a very spontaneous person and he didn't know where that came from. I'd have to agree with him on that. He's not as deliberate and calculating as me, but spontaneous is never a word I would use to describe him.
I think that's one of the problems with judging a person's abilities on a college diploma. You most certainly don't learn real world things in a classroom or a lab setting. I think part of it is which role models you emulate as a child and another part of it is who you associate with regularly as an adult. This is one of my major problems with the "HR" Department at any company large enough to have one. I see them as the private sector equivalent of a Commissioned Officer in the military. All book smarts and zero street smarts.
I think large companies have adopted this model though because it's "safe". They know what to expect from the homogenized minds of the college graduate. Even if on average these people would be less effective than a lot of non-graduates, somebody who didn't graduate college is a wild-card. There's really no telling what they would do in a given circumstance until after they've already done it.
Do Right, Be Right. :)
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I think you're intentionally not seeing it.
At any rate, I certainly don't see where you think I was comparing myself to Commissioned Officers.
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