The broken heart of Badger's Hat... :(
POSTED BY: BadgersHat
UPDATED: Wednesday, November 24, 2004 06:02
VIEWED: 10060
PAGE 2 of 7
... okay, maybe a little over dramatic, what with the "no reason to go on" crap...
It sucks. It's raw, cuz it just happened, so it's still scabbing, so to speak.
Zoid-- you are quite possibly one of the most profound people I... well, not really KNOW, per se, but you get it... thanks for the words... there's a lot going on with this decision of hers, lots of it coming from various aspects of who I am that need some... shall we say, "direction"... not really accurate, I think, to say she's a quitter... actually, more accurate to say she and I are taking a major break, because she's not sure that certain aspects of who I am are what she sees herself able to spend her life with, and, quite honestly, I can't totally fault her for it.
Mal-- yes, I'll always have you, and I'm eternally grateful... by the way, is there a picture of my precious Mal-licious floating around, just so I know a face with the eternity?
Gojiro-- gotta say, I about choked on my Dasani when I read your response... then, of course, I e-mailed that exact quote to pretty much anyone I'd ever heard of...
Heb and Alantfrancis-- I gotta say, most of what you said, I think I should tell to her! Makes sense.
Est-- I had forgotten that line. Also makes sense, and also something I should tell her, I think.
Agehn-- I'm glad I helped inspire you, and I hope you enjoy your hat
pizmobeach-- don't worry, I have to disagree slightly with Zoid, and I do very much NOT intend to let her go without a fight. And yes, I've had my heart broken a time or three before, just not quite like this (the night I met her, I knew I wanted to spend my life with her)
Veteran-- I know, I was being a tad dramatic... I'm past that part now, don't worry
Auraptor-- Stripes rules, think I'll watch it tomorrow night... after "Lost" that is...
Thanks folks. Very much appreciate your words.
--Jefé The Hat
***************************
--Don't bother trying to predict, figure out, second guess, criticize, or suggest anything that comes from the mind of Joss Whedon, for you shall usually be wrong, and shall find out the Truth and Purpose in due time.
(This is the Truth of Whedoning)
"I like smackin 'em"--Jayne
NOTIFY: Y | REPLY | REPLY WITH QUOTE | PERMALINK | TOP | HOME
grrrr... the dreaded double post... damn you MSN Premium version 9 with DSL, damn you to hell!!!!
NOTIFY: Y | REPLY | REPLY WITH QUOTE | PERMALINK | TOP | HOME
El Jefé Magnifico:
Well, keep your chin up, boyo. Like you, I only know you by your words on this board; but, I think you are 'good enough' and a worthy person, just as you are. We should all strive to improve ourselves throughout our lives; but, we must be acceptable as we are, unconditionally. You're willing to accept her -- warts and all -- are you not?
As a final note, consider this truth: Know how to get a cat to sit on your lap? Ignore it. (EDIT: For maximum effect, shun it)
Very Respectfully,
zoid
P.S.
If your personal shortcomings are in the nature of physically unhealthy habits, that's something that needs immediate attention. On the other hand, if it's just laziness, untidiness and/or cussin' too much (as in: 'being a guy'), then 'lishus or one of her minions should get the call out of the bullpen, because your starter's out of gas. I think you're a good person, and I'm sticking up for you, even if you won't, and even if you don't want me to...
zed
NOTIFY: Y | REPLY | REPLY WITH QUOTE | PERMALINK | TOP | HOME
Hang in there, Hat.
I have had problems in relationships that were caused because I was "difficult".
That is to say, I did not always agree with my beloved, but rather had opinions of my own! Also, I actually had friends that were not HER. 
Of course, I do not know the details of your situation. You will have to judge whether or not this lady is worth fighting for, but if you care to hear my advice, it is this:
Do not sacrifice YOURSELF to get her back.
Make adjustments in your life to please her, if you care to, but do not give up YOURSELF.
Take care.
The Real Me
NOTIFY: Y | REPLY | REPLY WITH QUOTE | PERMALINK | TOP | HOME
BadgersHat, let me first say how sorry I am to hear about your split w/ your girlfriend. I know words don't alleviate the pain, but if you think about the sincere sentiment being expressed by your Browncoat comrades here, I think you will see that you have people that support and care about you here.
I agree that Zoid is perhaps the most eloquent and insightful person who posts here, and I agree w/ everything he said in his first post.
Love should never be forced. It simply happens. Sometimes it endures, sometimes it flickers out. Do not blame yourself. People grow, mature and change. When that happens they find that their needs and their perceptions change. Life is like that unfortunately, but I agree w/ Zoid that it is better to find that out now than after you had married her or worse been married to her and had children.
I also agree that trying to win her back is not really an option. If she left, she may very well leave again. Better to make a clean break, split as friends and drive on.
Time will ease the pain my friend. Take it from someone who has been there. Just keep flyin'. I know it doesn't seem like much now, but it's something. Keep your friends and family close and you will get through this, believe me.
Take care.
__________________________________________
"May have been the losing side. Still not convinced it was the wrong one."
Richmond, VA & surrounding area Firefly Meet Up:
http://firefly.meetup.com/9/boards/
NOTIFY: N | REPLY | REPLY WITH QUOTE | PERMALINK | TOP | HOME
Quote:
Originally posted by BadgersHat:
Gojiro-- gotta say, I about choked on my Dasani when I read your response... then, of course, I e-mailed that exact quote to pretty much anyone I'd ever heard of...
Dasani ain't gonna drown your sorrows, son. Try Jack Daniels. It works wonders on a broken heart.
Glad I could give you a larf, at any rate!
-------
Are you a Southern Ohio Browncoat? If so, join our Yahoo group for news and events: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/firefly-ohio/
And if you're a Cincinnati Area Browncoat, join our meetup group at http://firefly.meetup.com/137/
NOTIFY: Y | REPLY | REPLY WITH QUOTE | PERMALINK | TOP | HOME
Quote:
Originally posted by gojiro:
When one door closes, another opens. And sometimes the one that opens has bigger knockers.
BWAH HA HA HA HA HA HA
Thanks, I needed that.
"Just keep walkin, preacher man."
NOTIFY: Y | REPLY | REPLY WITH QUOTE | PERMALINK | TOP | HOME
Zoid!
Bite me!!
Mal-licious
Co-Holder of the Red Bell from Hell
NOTIFY: Y | REPLY | REPLY WITH QUOTE | PERMALINK | TOP | HOME
Jefe,
There are TONS of pictures of me from the PA Shindig. I couldn't keep the paparazi away from me! Check out the links in the "Link PA Shindig Photos Here" Thread. (I prefer you look at Slayer730's--hers make me look skinnier. Thanks.)
EDIT: Although this one by FirefloozySuzy is my fave: 
I was doing my best Paris Hilton pose!
love,
Mal-licious
Co-Holder of the Red Bell from Hell
NOTIFY: Y | REPLY | REPLY WITH QUOTE | PERMALINK | TOP | HOME
**sigh**
Oooookay. . .
I'll loan you the Harem for a little while.
That'll lift your spirits, sure and I'm not an Irishman.
==================================================
"Wash. . .we got some local color happening. A grand entrance would not go amiss."
NOTIFY: Y | REPLY | REPLY WITH QUOTE | PERMALINK | TOP | HOME