Imponderables: Mmm, you know you want it. BACON!!!
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UPDATED: Monday, May 31, 2010 18:25
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The date is tonight. If the news is talking about a missing radio host tomorrow morning I get to say "I told you so".
Sounds like she's going all out with one of the dates. An olympic gold medal swimmer apparently is in the talks. Another date is a fireman. They sure found a good way to fill up their show.
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Ooooh a swimmer?? Sounds niiiice
I could have a go at the fireman too.
As for the ponder, hmm. I guess to relate to the talking too much MsA mentioned, I don't talk enough. But see, I don't have a problem with periods of silence that other people do. I can sit there and eat a meal in silence and feel fine, not awkward at all. I wouldn't even take it as a bad date, just moments of thinking.
I've noticed it makes other people squirm though.
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Super conscious of on a first date?
Ugh. Everything. I HATE dating. Biggest is probably not having anything to say. My idea of a worst first date every is dinner or coffee, or whatever. I want to DO something: hike, play a sport, etc. Then the conversation just flows better...and if you don't have anything to say...or aren't hitting it off...at least you're doing something instead of awkwardly avoiding eye contact. etc.
Oh...and I worry about blushing. I blush. A. Lot. I blush so much it almost makes me blush.
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"The power of accurate observation is commonly called cynicism by those who have not got it." - George Bernard Shaw
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I could have a go at the fireman too.
One DJ asked how she met him and the other one quickly quipped that she walked outside after work and lit her car on fire and waited. I thought it was pretty good joke.
As for the first date thing the only thing I get nervous about is how much chauvinism girls want. I hate it cause it's such a damned if you do damned if you don't situation. Open the car door when you pick them up? Pull out their chair for them when you get to the restaurant? Even getting the door can be awkward when there are two doors. You can get the first but then do you double time it after holding the first one to try to get to the other door in time. Argh!
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So, I guess they've been following fff.net. They reworked the date. Now instead of going to his place she just did a lunch date at one of the hotel restaurants. The only thing that the chef prepared was the salad. She got to choose whatever she wanted in it. Sounds kinda lame if you're dating a chef.
I'm more amazed that she recorded the whole date. They gave her a hard time for saying a lot of negative things about herself. She said stuff like "I shouldn't eat so much I'm getting fat" (she sure doesn't look fat on their website), "I don't date much", and stuff like that. They really thought she blew it. They told her she needed a new haircut. They even got a psychiatrist calling in saying she'd give her a few free sessions to help her out with her self esteem.
Is it just me or did they just cut her down completely? If she had even minor self esteem issues they just destroyed her. Her hair is fine IMO.
http://www.mix947.com/pages/4799151.php?#sara
I just don't see the point of telling her she blew it if you think she's nervous or self conscious. Be nice. Tell her some things she did well. Then give her a few pointers. Anyway it should be fun to follow for the rest of the week. Today she tried to get some dates with local news anchors. She named a few and the first to call gets a date. lol
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I don't know which one she is, but all the girls look fine on the website.
I can see both sides of the problematic first date though. You don't want to be around someone who is constantly putting themselves down, but it does sound like they overwhelmed her with advice at the end, especially to have a psychiatrist call.
The chef making a salad is ridiculous. I'd be majorly disappointed with that. However, if they asked me what I wanted on it I'd just say a sirloin steak, some crab legs and garlic mashed potatoes. Hey! you said I could have whatever I wanted in it!
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She's cute! What the heck on the hair comments...she's got great hair in that picture (Sara, right?). Maybe she's changed it since then or didn't do it well.
Zeek: It's called chilvary, not chauvinism. :D And I think you should do as much as YOU want to do. That way, if she thinks you're a misogynist because you do too much or too little, well then, you know she's not a good fit for who you really are.
My last date was with a car salesman, he proceeded to tell me how they profile potential customers. Ways to approach Asians, Hispanics, if it's a couple, talk to the man, etc. The add'l comments that went along with the sales strategies where "eek" I was done within 10 minutes of hearing that crap. Thankfully, I wasn't feeling well that night anyway, so right after dinner I was like 'see ya.'
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She's cute! What the heck on the hair comments...she's got great hair in that picture (Sara, right?). Maybe she's changed it since then or didn't do it well.
Zeek: It's called chilvary, not chauvinism. :D And I think you should do as much as YOU want to do. That way, if she thinks you're a misogynist because you do too much or too little, well then, you know she's not a good fit for who you really are.
Yep the #sara should have worked. But yeah the hair seems fine to me. They say it's too plain.
But I don't care about those things. Doing them won't bother me or not doing them won't bother me.
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Originally posted by RugBug:
Zeek: It's called chilvary, not chauvinism.
This is true, but I think in the spirit of the current conversation, that doing it his way would make for a better horrible first date story.
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True Navy, true. I suppose the best stories would be from the worst behaviour. So decide what you want out of the date (good story or good date) and then act accordingly. You could be surprised that your good story behaviour ended up being a good date and your good date behaviour ended up being a good story.
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Originally posted by RugBug:
She's cute! What the heck on the hair comments...she's got great hair in that picture (Sara, right?). Maybe she's changed it since then or didn't do it well.
Zeek: It's called chilvary, not chauvinism. :D And I think you should do as much as YOU want to do. That way, if she thinks you're a misogynist because you do too much or too little, well then, you know she's not a good fit for who you really are.
But I don't care about those things. Doing them won't bother me or not doing them won't bother me.
Then do what you want to do...what feels right. don't overthink it.
for me personally, I want you to:
1. Unlock my car door first and open the door for me to get in. (I will reciprocate and reach over and unlock your door for you as you go around). On the flipside, DO NOT make me wait in the car while you get out to run around and open the door for me to get out. That drives me nuts.
2. Open doors to business for me...if it's a double door, I only need one opened, thank you very much. I'm pretty sure I'm not wide enough to need them both open. If I am, I'm probably not going out with you anyway. I also expect you to open the door for any other women that are on their way in or out at the same time..or even a man whose hands are full. It's not just how you treat me...it's how you treat everyone.
3. Pulling out the chair? Eh...it's nice when we first sit down, but not necessary. I do think it's adorable when the guy does the little 'stand up' if I get up to leave the table. 'Course that's just on the first few dates. I don't mind if it falls by the wayside at all. I do mind about the doors, however. :D
There are a few other bonus point things (hand on the small of my back "leading" me into a room, etc). But really it's about doing what makes you feel comfortable and natural. If it's awkward for you, it's awkward for her, not matter how she feels about the topic.
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