Male and Female Imponderables - Bathory Aria
POSTED BY: Nicodemus
UPDATED: Monday, October 23, 2006 19:30
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Good to see you back, Tristan! Glad you're feeling better.
Magda, sorry to hear you managed to get the ick. 
I've had an icky something on and off for three weeks. I just wish it would make up its gorram mind.
Competitiveness...I can be quite competitive in a number of areas including work and gaming and I was all through school, but I try not to be a bitch about it. My friend's husband and I will playfully mock one another during gaming, but noting obnoxious. My friend on the other hand is completely non-competitive. But...in the meanness factor, I've noticed that while guys will be highly competitive about sports, work whatever, they usually won't hold grudges about it where as a lot of women I know will, and are quite nasty about any perceived losing on their part. Lots of sniping and back-biting.
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Magdalena posted on the previous thread: Oh - and a quirky thing about me - there were two teachers in my past who were both Ms's and they were both overbearing and selfish and didn't like people holding different oppinions to them - at least that's the overwhelming impression I got - so I disliked the title 'Ms' because I associated it with each of these women... It is an irony in that I am strongly in favour of male/female equality that I prefer the title Miss - but then again I am also a trained and experienced actor and women in the theatre traditionally retain 'Miss' as their title... little bit of trivia and another piece of the weird and wonderful puzzle that is me!
I didn't know that. I find it very interesting as I don't like "Ms." either, but for different reasons, and much prefer the title "Miss." I thought I was the only one who wasn't over a hundred who felt that way.
DTH: You may be a bad hippie for the short-hairs joke, but at least you're a funny hippie!
Penguin: thanks for sharing the smilie pen! They're all so cute! And for some reason I can't fathom this one -->
seems to make me think of Johnny Cash. 
Well, I'm off. I should go to bed, but I so rarely do what I should.
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RMMC
"Those grenades?"
"Captain don't want 'em."
"Jayne, we're robbing the place, we're not occupying it."
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RMMC, sorry to hear you have the ick, too. 
Rest up and take care of yourself!
I made a web site to introduce my friends to the 'Verse.
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Hello all...
On the issue of whether males or females are more competitive... I'm talking this over with my bestest friend (yes, she's a browncoat) and we think that men are more competitive when it comes to physical challenges (I was going to say activities but...) and will be up front about the competition!"
- yeah - take that!" There will be no doubt if there has been a challenge made!! Men are more transparent in their competition with one another!
Women are more competitive about things close to their heart - for example... men! Reputation, creativity and so forth will also bring out the competitive streak in women - what makes them different is that they can be so much more subtle about it - you might not realise there is a competition on until someone has been trumped and then you'll see a small acknowlegement in the form of a look or a nod and you'll realise what just passed!
I don't understand grudges myself - they take too much energy... though the one thing that will get me on the 'unforgiving
' side is when someone hurts somebody I love or care about!!
Then you all want to get out of my way!!! 
Otherwise ... I'm such a good girl...
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*yawns and stretches* I had a meeting this morning so I wasn't on and then I slept in. Seem to have missed many posts, took me forever to catch up!
I'm crazy competitive, I have to win. It's very bad and no one wants to play video games with me (the ones that matter to me) because I'm ruthless and get sulky when I lose. Really, it's very bad, and is the reason I don't game on a large scale; because I get frustrated.
Isn't it strange how we seem to catch viruses over the 'net here? I know I was fighting it off awhile ago, but it seems to have gone away without causing any damage.
And... I know I'm missing a few things. I'm in too many places at once!
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Mei Mei!!
I missed you!! How're you now? I am off to a friend's 40th birthday Shindig and then I will return to ponder some more...
Glad you are feeling better Tristan!! - did you know you were contageous? hmmmmm...
Hello MsG - I did send you a reply but have posted you another one - when I was in the silliest of moods - you'll have to let me know if we're in business?
We'll have to think of something truely wonderful to ponder coz otherwise everyone goes and does far more interesting things on the weekend...
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My only compitition is on the field of "Who's information is the most accurate". I've gone to the encylopedia dozens of times a year to prove my point when somebody says, for example, that borsht is a sausage, or that there's dolphins on Europa (moon of Jupiter).
*glances around, having said his piece. Goes back to James' Sulking Corner and Gormet Coffee Shop*
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I guess I can be competitive, but (possibly as a result of having always been put in the teams of rejects and misfits, thus losing most games) I tend to view most contests as a purely social affair, not concerned as to who wins or loses, as long as a fun time is had. When it stops being fun is when I stop participating.
Oh, and in response to some previous ponderances.
Briefs/Boxer Briefs Once agin, due to CFS activities, my clothing (and underwear) needs to be natural fibres, not synthetic, so as to prevent melting of clothes when surrounded by flames.
Minimal or no makeup on the ladies Unless it's for theatrical purposes, I don't see the need for people to cake on the powders (this is especially aimed at the school students).
New Ponderance (or it might be an old one,but I'm not prepared to go back through the archives, having already narrowly escaped being eaten by dust bunnies on previous forays.
Is chivalry worth using? By this I don't necessarily mean draping your coat across puddles for the ladies to walk across, but more the little things, like pulling out a seat or holding the door open for your SO/date/companion (in the non-Inara sense of the word). I ask this because there are some who view it as proper manners (it was how I was brought up), while others see it as chauvanistic or degrading. That and there was an essay on it in Finding Serenity (which I have currently lent to a uni lecturer who has already incorporated it into the syllabus).
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If you find yourself getting too worked up about stuff that isn't real (RP Threads etc), then go outside, breathe in some fresh air and try feeding the ducks. (Because ducks don't care about your politics, religion, skin colour, choice of music or even your haircut. They like everyone, provided you bring them food.)
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I think we discussed that one at some point, but it's a good one. I think it's fine, as long as there's some equality. I won't object to having a door held for me if no one objects to me holding a door for them in turn. It's just being nice, most of the time.
*looks hopeful* Silk is natural, right?
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I would never object to equality.
I think silk is natural. I'm much more likely to wear silk than polyesters or the like. Mostly cotton for day-to-day wearing, but silk is nice.
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If you find yourself getting too worked up about stuff that isn't real (RP Threads etc), then go outside, breathe in some fresh air and try feeding the ducks. (Because ducks don't care about your politics, religion, skin colour, choice of music or even your haircut. They like everyone, provided you bring them food.)
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Chivalry is 'good manners', or 'consideration', or 'basic common courtesy' and too many people are not brought up to have those! I say set a good example... I will hold a door open for anyone - male or female, I give way to people wanting to merge or turn into traffic when I am driving, offer my seat to someone whom I think might appreciate it more than me... I love it when someone... anyone... does the same for me, and it has that "oh he's nice" angle to it if it is a guy who does it!
Chivalry definitely shouldn't be dead Nico - and I am so glad that you were raised that way too!! I guess I'm a lot like you too mei mei...
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