POLL: How many peeps here lost someone close, and how does that affect your view of 'Serenity?' (Spoilers)
POSTED BY: chrisisall
UPDATED: Wednesday, April 7, 2010 12:28
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I lost my Mom in my 20's, so having Wash die in Serenity was a hard reminder that anyone can go, anytime. Sure I'd have liked to see him live, but we don't always get what we want, and Joss knows this.
Thoughts? Rebuttals? Condemnations? Rants?
The laughing Chrisisall
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Too painful a topic?
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I lost my dad when I was 18, and I concur with you. I don't have a problem with the deaths in Serenity, as much as I liked the characters.
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TV and movie deaths don't usually bother me as I know they are not real, even if I'm really into the movie, but I can understand that it can be a reminder for those that have lost someone really close. Even more so if the circumstances on screen are similar to the real life ones.
I count myself very lucky that both my parents are still alive although I did nearly lose my Dad a few weeks ago to blood clots. It was scary but he's pulled through.
The only real death that bothered me so far was when I was in my late teens there was a ten year old girl called Emma who lived a couple of houses away that I sort of babysat for a few years earlier (her parents would leave their two kids with my parents when they went out). Apparently she went to bed not feeling well with a strong headache and she never woke up. Doc's said she'd had this condition from birth and because she'd never been really ill no one had picked up on it. Basically her brain gave up at that was it.
Seeing someone so young and so full of life go was very hard.
As for Serenity and Wash's death it shocked me like a lot of folk but had I known that the series/movies were continuing I might have been more bothered by it in the long term as he was a great character that added a lot of humour to the show.
"I don't believe in suicide, but if you'd like to try it it might cheer me up to watch."
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Originally posted by chrisisall:
Too painful a topic?
Yes, it is kinda painful right now. My mother just passed away on Wednesday. She had been ill for along time so it wasn't unexpected, but it still feels as if the world has shifted off it's axis a bit.
I was saddened when Joss killed off Wash and Book, but death is part of this crazy trip we are all on. I don't hold it against him.
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I'm so sorry Littlebird. I've been there. Precisely.
After a time your world finds it's axis again.
Promise.
Chrisisall
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Joss and Tim are pricks. Knew that goin in.
Condolences, Littlebird.
Father-in-law was killed by doctors this year at age 57. I'm wearing his shirt right now. Mother-in-law killed by doctors at age 52. Grandmother killed by doctors who said tobacco was good for you, at age 32.
Death, we're all gonna see it face-to-face. I saw it when I was 17 in a dentist chair, looking down on my lifeless corpse as they tried to resuscitate, laughing my ass off. Seems somebody forgot to turn on the O2 with the nitrous. Damn rednecks.
I think a pole shift is comin...
Or a pole dance.
Keep feeding the game of life. Best game in town.
"A coward dies a 1000 deaths, but a brave heart only 1."
-Famous Old Dead Guy
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Having just recently...observed?...the 1-year anniversay of my mom's passing from a stroke (caused directly by a heart attack, indirectly by diabetes), your question is an interesting one, chrisisall.
On the one hand, the filmed/displayed deaths of Wash and Book are still shocking and painful for those who came to feel for the characters. On the other, their deaths were basically sudden - yes, before anyone jumps on me, I know Book got the movie cliche slow death to get the hero all revved up - but they were basically healthy and whole before getting gunned down and/or skewered. My mom was basically in a coma for 2 days before she finally passed away...and I was there when she did. Every other person I've lost that has been close to me has died when I wasn't present, so my mom being the first one has left me struggling this past 13 months. Definitely understand what Zoe would be going through, even though it wasn't a spouse I lost.
Honestly, I am kinda itching to want write something from Zoe's POV, to explore the nuances of losing someone like a spouse or parent when you had an extremely close relationship with them...to shine a light on the mix of hatred and sadness and confusion you're left with when that special someone dies and you are left trying to find a new method to orient a moral compass or find happiness.
Truthfully, the movie didn't hit me any harder or softer the first time I saw it after my mom died (which would have been the 2009 Toronto Can't Stop the Serenity charity screening)...but a year past and gone, with all the slow bleeding of my emotions back into the forefront? Gonna be interesting times this summer I think...
"The revenge of the beaten comes in refusing to fall." -- Mal, in "The Losing Side - Chapter 45" by jetflair
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Blue, my Mom passed after a long bout with chemo & complications. I wasn't there to see her go, but it was sudden as it gets for the knowledge that cancer's gonna do it's evil job.
That year I saw Bright Lights Big City with Michael J. Fox. Talk about CLOSE up & personal. The characters' Mom died the same way, and it shook me to my roots. Stories will do that.
When Wash died, it just took me back to the loss again. To hate it or deny or run away from it cheapens the special meaning of having that person in your life in the first place IMO.
So, when Wash goes in Serenity, I say a silent prayer for my Mom.
It's a reminder to me of this transient thing we call life.
The serious Chrisisall
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I first exeperienced the death of a friend due to agressive leukemia when I was 12. I think it coloured how I deal with death of loved ones. I have a pragmatic outlook and basically focus on experiences we shared, and let myself react however I need to when I want to talk to the people who have passed and then realise I can't. I was saddened by the death of Wash a much loved character, and shed a tear but it was not entirely the same as my real life experiences as there was no shared emotional investment.
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