Tenth Crew Member needs your help.

POSTED BY: Haken
UPDATED: Friday, October 16, 2009 03:43
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THATWEIRDGIRL

Tuesday, May 5, 2009 10:38 PM

I wish I could help financially. I can offer moral support. Does anyone remember what it is he does or woudl like to do? Maybe locating some job postings or introductions to the right people would be useful.

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AMDOBELL

Wednesday, May 6, 2009 11:12 AM

Is there a postal address for him? I live in England and though I'm not flush would send him a little cashy money. If we all pitch in it has to help. Don't know how soon he needs the coin but it somes pretty damn urgent.

Ali D :~)
You can't take the sky from me...

FILLYGIRL

Wednesday, May 6, 2009 11:59 AM

I have emailed him, hopefully he will get back to me, I asked for snail mail addy or Paypal addy. Anybody else got any other ideas???

deb

Chaplain of the 76th Independant Battalion

Do not bother dragons, for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup!

...it's worse than you know...Operative
...it usually is.....Mal

BLUESUNCOMPANYMAN

Wednesday, May 6, 2009 12:47 PM

He responded to my email this morning. Some parts of it read as follows:

I've now got foodstamps and medical insurance for the kids. I've also applied for other assistance but haven't heard back yet, so I am not sure what bills I will and won't have to pay. But my internet might be disconnected(which is my ability to job hunt as well as continue to do freelancework (paid & unpaid) and to communicate with friends and family. Also my car payment and insurance are all unsolved concerns outside of what help I am already getting.

further down he continues:

I really don't even know what else to ask for. Ironically, I inadvertently emailed Haken an email I sent to close family and friends, and he offered to ask you all. I agreed, because how can I say no? Not sure what folks can do for me long distance...maybe shop at my cafepress store? Then it wouldn't be a handout? I don't know really. I've never been in this situation, and I am not adept at playing the part of a beggar. I'm usually the giver...it's kinda my thing...and now I have nothing to give. Can't tell you how awful it feels. It's like having your personality taken away.

And finally:

I just want to go back to work and get a job, so I can be responsible for my kids, and have reliable income while I work on other projects (games, novel, poety, scripts, screenplays, cafepress,etc.) and waiting for one of those to pay off someday, though they probably never will garner me enough to live off of, but I do enjoy them, and I can't pursue them while worrying about our next meal, so to speak.

There were other things he wrote in between that were more-or-less directed at me and the fact we met at random in 2007. He was pretty firm in not wanting to take straight up handouts and I respect him. A few years ago I was in college when my crappy manual-shift car lost it's transmission while in reverse and forever after would only drive in R. I was told $1900 would be needed to rebuild it. It was that or scrap. I scrapped it and rode a bike my Jr year of school rather than ask for help because I didn't have anything like $1900 at the time. Now my life is much better and I have my own 4 month-old girl. I cannot imagine the anguish of being unable to feed her.

In 2008 Jewel Staite related in a panel how a browncoat in Vancouver fell on hard times and fellow browncoats straight-up built the woman a house. No kidding. A House. Just like Habitat for Humanity. So I'm going to do my small part and shop at his store. Alas though, the link above on the thread seemed broken. Does someone know why that might be?

FILLYGIRL

Wednesday, May 6, 2009 12:53 PM

Thank You BSCM,...maybe we could pay for his internet so he can look for work? I have money to give to somebody in need and I would rather give it to a Browncoat (and children) than to my church. I hope somebody fixes the linky, I'll buy stuff from him.....Christmas shopping now!

Chaplain of the 76th Independant Battalion

Do not bother dragons, for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup!

...it's worse than you know...Operative
...it usually is.....Mal

KIRKULES

Wednesday, May 6, 2009 1:47 PM

I wish he would post a Pay Pal account for those that would like to give. Browncoats helping other Browncoats is just what they do. He could pay us back by helping another Browncoat when he gets on his feet.

ECGORDON

Wednesday, May 6, 2009 2:50 PM

My main questions are: Where does he live? What type of work has he done in the past? What type of work is he looking for?

I'd also be willing to donate through PayPal. It wouldn't be much, but together we can surely make a difference.

wo men ren ran zai fei xing.

STOWEAWAY

Wednesday, May 6, 2009 3:19 PM

OK, fixed the link up there where I could. The proper link is:
http://www.cafepress.com/10thcrew

According to his Cafepress page, he's in Cincinnati. I'd still rather donate through Paypal or even a direct address so that the funds reach him faster. If he's in dire straits, 45 days is a long time to wait for a payout from Cafepress.
On the other hand, I understand his desire not to take a handout. But it's not like he is just showing up and expecting a handout. TCM has been a member of the Browncoat community for a long time. And I'd be willing to bet he's helped out other Browncoats whenever he could. So in that case, it would just be a case of reciprocity -- a little return on good karma.

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BLUESUNCOMPANYMAN

Wednesday, May 6, 2009 3:32 PM

I told him in my reply that if you can't run you crawl and if you can't do that, someone carries you. Which is why I think everyone should consider these items whether you're looking for them or not.

http://www.cafepress.com/10thcrew/793767

Quite a beautiful item of artwork upon the last frame. There, I've said my piece.

TENTHCREWMEMBER

Wednesday, May 6, 2009 3:35 PM

Ni hao, Browncoats!

I, uh, really don't even know where to start here.
Rather emotional at the moment, so I'll probably ramble, bear with me, please. I apologize in advance if this becomes long-winded...I am prone to verbosity, especially when emotional.

I guess, first, I'll say thanks to all of you, just for wanting to help me. Can't truly express in words just how wonderful that is.

I'm the sort of fellow who always believes it is my responsibility to handle, well, my responsibility. I guess it was my dad's influence as he always taught me to "stand on your own two feet or don't stand at all" and "how can you help anyone if you can't help yourself?". Seemed to work well as a philosophy, until recently. Finally had to concede that you can still stand with help.

I know I've been really out on the rim here lately, not spending my usual time here, or anywhere Firefly related in recent months, and that is a direct result of the huge downturn my life has taken combined with my big ol' pride getting in the way of asking for help and making me feel embarrassed, ashamed, undeserving of assistance and like a failure. I know, I know...you don't have to say it, but it is how I felt.

Additionally, it feels weird still, airing my life problems to the world, as again, I was always the guy who, no matter how difficult something got, I managed to find a way through it. Never wanting to be a burden to anyone.
At most, it would be the insistence of close family who would take care of something, and inevitably, I would be equally insistent the next time they had a problem.

As for those of you looking to help me financially, my most immediate needs have been taken care of by family, friends (including a couple of local Browncoats), and as much as I despise "the system" I am feeding my kids and making sure they have medical insurance through them. There are still things I need to pay, such as the utilities, insurance, gas and car payment (yeah, that truck I paid off? blew an engine...) so I can drive to interviews and hopefully a job soon, and if possible, just to get the monkey off my back, dissolution fees (that's a non-lawyer divorce for those who might inquire) so I am no longer burdened by the useless mother of my children (which anyone who knows her, knows I am being awful polite at the moment, frankly she makes Yosaff look like Shirley Temple), and she can run off to SC with the "boyfriend" (who she met at D*C '06 *sigh*) who won't take her until that's final. Yeah, ain't love grand?

Anyway, I guess I should get to my point. PayPal. I am setting up a new account, but my dilemma there is I have to wait a month before I can get a PayPal card and presently I have no bank account to transfer the money to (okay, I HAVE an account, it is just very negative thanks to my former employer challenging my unemployment and me not getting paid for the last 6 weeks and looking at up to 3 or 4 months before an actual arbitration hearing is scheduled). However, at the moment, not seeing a change in my immediate future. Anywho, going to try and open an account today with money folks have sent me via snail mail thus far.

So I have a new email addy,

jaq.lemur[at]gmail.com (J F Reyman Jr)

should be able to find me in PayPal that way. I've long since forgotten my old one, which is attached to accounts no longer open anyway. This way, when I get things in order, I can access the funds hopefully right when I need to. At the very least, I can have PP send me a check.

As for snail mail, today, it is

John Reyman
14 Carriage Station Dr.
Cincinnati, Ohio 45245

I'll post an updated addy next week or 2 when I find out for certain where the Metropolitan Housing Commission is putting me up.

And as some have suggested, you could shop at my CP store, and that money will trickle down over the next few months, and I won't have to feel like it is a handout (plus you get to have something shiny!).

Also, as I am not the most entrepreneurial savvy person (hello? I give away games, eh? *g*), anyone who has ideas

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