Imponderables: Autumn Arrives
POSTED BY: nvghostrider
UPDATED: Wednesday, October 8, 2008 20:51
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Well FLT, I get to hear the twisted points of view from kids at work on a daily basis. Their shitty homes didn't help an already awkward time in their lives. And having friends who have lived like that make a person think about how much influence carries from such things.
Random thought okay. Stupid brain needs stabbing with a Q-Tip.
Awkward non-work conversations can be fun Zeek. When things turn to sex in the workplace it is always bound to be a bit awkward. Had an old partner ask me what kind of woman I like. After answering "warm" she giggled and looked me up and down before saying, "I bet you like 'em small so you can throw 'em around in the bedroom." I was surprized I handled it so well. We had a pretty good discussion about men and women that evening. Didn't work with her much after that. Waaay too much tension and I really liked my job at that time.
ADD: It might be a little of both HK. Mostly I was thinking about domestic violence. Understanding studies and the like seem logical but personally this whole emotional thing is confusing. I might need to re-cut some logic teeth. Tender gums aren't really my thing.
(Looks for logic teething ring)
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I think some women just need to have that feeling of not being alone badly enough that they put up with the bad times because they think the good "honeymoon" times are the person's real character so it makes it easier to excuse the bad behavior as " stress" or drinking and not really them. They don't seem to realize the totality of behavior makes the person...
HUGS to all ok this is the last net time I will have all day
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Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength; loving someone deeply gives you courage."
Life is anything that dies when you stomp on it.”-Dave Barry
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BTW, the spanking thing was a joke, I don't hit women, but I do put men who do under a steamroller and go over them, in idle.
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Quote:Oh, I see. Well, I think it's really very simple (generalizing from a female perspective). The first time it happens, you get very angry and a bit shocked, which turns into incredulity that he would ever do such a thing. That gives way to the hope that it was just an accident, a one time thing, he would never do that again. If he hits me again, I'm leaving. It may sound silly, but the idea that you'll give up "everything" for one teeny "mistake" is actually quite daunting; the words mean nothing until you actually feel it.
Originally posted by nvghostrider:
It might be a little of both HK. Mostly I was thinking about domestic violence. Understanding studies and the like seem logical but personally this whole emotional thing is confusing.
If it does happen again, you have two types of people: those who leave and those who don't.
Those who don't leave... well, there are reasons for it that seem perfectly logical. Fear being one of the big ones. Fear of not being able to make it on your own, fear that he'll come after you, fear that you won't be able to get enough money coming in to make rent or buy groceries, fear that you won't be able to be a single mother. Hope is another of the big ones, and quite possibly the most insidious. Hope that he'll change, hope that you'll have the man you fell in love with back. Because not every day is filled with fear and pain and violence. There are plenty of times when you feel happy and alive and in love. And it's those times that you remember and cling to for all you're worth because you liked the way it made you feel.
By the time these thoughts are running through your head, you're in a very dangerous trap. Self-esteem has been worn down and self-doubt has grown up in its place. The notion that you could ever feel love or be loved by someone else never really occurs to you, so you cling to that one hope....
And then one of two things will happen: you'll come to your senses and get out, or you'll live the rest of your life (however long or short that may be) with him in misery. Unfortunately for a great many people who go through this, logic and reason have long since been abandoned, so the chances of getting out of the bad situation are low... and you cling to that hope that you can one day regain that "love of your life".
...but what the hell do I know. ((shrug))
I wish I had some more Red Bull.
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Quote:
Originally posted by MSB:
I think some women just need to have that feeling of not being alone badly enough that they put up with the bad times because they think the good "honeymoon" times are the person's real character so it makes it easier to excuse the bad behavior as " stress" or drinking and not really them. They don't seem to realize the totality of behavior makes the person...
Oh this drives me nuts. A couple I'm friends with just got married and the guy is practically an alcoholic. The girl hates "drunk guy" like he's some other person. She blames "drunk guy" for any of his actions but doesn't ever seem to get upset at the guy himself. I really don't understand it. He's all one person. He chooses to get drunk. It's still him.
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Mood lightener:
Ronald Knox
A good sermon should be like a woman's skirt: short enough to rouse the interest, but long enough to cover the essentials.
'Who are you and how did you get in here?' 'I'm a locksmith. And, I'm a locksmith.'
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Originally posted by Hell's Kitten:
...but what the hell do I know. ((shrug))
I wish I had some more Red Bull.
Apparently a scary amount on said topic! o.0
Hopefully not of the first hand variety.
Nasty, nasty topic that. Brings out all types of anger, no change that to rage. Never a .... nope gonna stop now!
Must find happy place.
Some men just wanna watch the world burn
Zombie Killing, Ninja in Training Kelkhil
The Shirtless Forsaken
Member of the Coalition for HK - Evil Geniuses for a Better Tomorrow.
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Oh please let this day end
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Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength; loving someone deeply gives you courage."
Life is anything that dies when you stomp on it.”-Dave Barry
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Meh, little (sometimes big) playful permitted spanks, sure. I was just fuming a bit on the strange perceptions people have/attain on such things. Remember though, women hit men too. Sometime they are mutual combatants, but is some communities the women are the primary aggressors.
Thank you HK for your thoughts on the subject. Using logic and adding the emotional parallels helps translate well. I see, hear and read the whys and hows I just forget that some people either don't now how to get out or lack the ambition to do so. Kinda disillusioned with how love works sometime. For better or worse?
I don't know why it is on my mind. Fear maybe? Not that I beat women (despite a few of the past ones needing it).
ADD: Isn't it Domestic Violence Awareness month or somesuch?
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Not sure, but it is Customer Service Appreciation Week! So call up and bitch out your favorite customer service rep!
'Who are you and how did you get in here?' 'I'm a locksmith. And, I'm a locksmith.'
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