Gosh..... I just need to know.....

POSTED BY: tatertot
UPDATED: Tuesday, June 10, 2008 23:27
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JEWELSTAITEFAN

Monday, June 2, 2008 9:25 AM

In the firefly sense, I doubt anybody has had a "FALL" while on this sight...
Ahem. But assuming you're not using that term in the verse literation, recently a number of posters have professed their interest in Foster, who I think shunned them all successfully. I did not participate in professin'.
That's the closest incident I'm aware of.

THATWEIRDGIRL

Monday, June 2, 2008 11:44 AM

Wow, Shiny has a good memory.

I know of multiple couples that developed out of this site or FF in general. Most didn't come here to find it. And more than a one came about because of a relationship ending and the people here being around to offer support...then grew the new feelings.

So, yes. It's happened. Quite a bit more than some folks know. I can think of 5 couples off the top of my head (self included). If I tried, I bet I could think of a dozen or more.

The problem with professing attraction to someone we meet online is that we don't really know their whole situation. Sure they come here for some sort of companionship, but the details of everyday are lost to us. It's hard to guess what will happen if you admit your feelings. It's safer just assume they are not looking for a partner.

....on the other hand sometimes you have to take a shot.

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MANWITHPEZ

Monday, June 2, 2008 12:40 PM

Heh...HA!

I'll admit to being involved in the "I Love TWG" thread. I didn't start it, and I wasn't looking for anything at the time.

She offers good advice on this subject, and to whit...it was a good deal more difficult than it needed to be. In and of itself, this site is NOT real life, much like the rest of the internet, so, you don't know what the real situation of anything is. It takes a good deal of trust and loyalty to believe without fault in the person you have a thing for. I've been burned, and I've survived and things have turned out very, very okay.

The point to all this is to view it like an exercise in operational risk management. Does the risk outweigh the benefit? If it does, then you're probably looking at trouble. If it works the other way, then you might be looking at something incredible, but the execution in such matters can be problematic. You have to ask yourself if it really, really is worth the hassle. And, there will be hassle.

Also...there will be people crawling out the woodwork to offer advice on this subject. Examine it carefully. Then make your own decisions.

Or, just gun it. That's what I did, and it worked out great!

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Simon: "It means more out here. It's all I have..."

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ARTCAT81

Monday, June 2, 2008 1:31 PM

In this day and age meeting someone on the internet is increasingly acceptable way of meeting that special someone.

I can think of at least one couple that met on here. In the 76th, which has only been around for a year now, has two engaged couples that met through us, and at least one other couple I can think of. Bubblecats chat over at serenitymovie.org has similar stories. In my local crew, we have already had one wedding.

Hang in there, and dont be embarressed, you stepped out on a limb, that takes guts.

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MAL4PREZ

Monday, June 2, 2008 3:37 PM

Tatertot -

A few years ago, just before a dance performance, the director/choreographer said something I'll never forget: Making yourself vulnerable is one of the hardest things to do, and one the most admirable. That struck a chord with me, because like a lot of people I've always viewed vulnerability as thing to be avoided at all costs. Not so - if I keep myself closed, I'll never really be alive. As an artist, or as a human being.

The risk you took in talking to this person is something you should be proud of. It shows that you have courage and deep feelings that you aren't afraid to own. A lot of folks live their whole lives without doing something so scary.

So good on you! I'm sorry it ended sad, but you certainly have nothing to be down on youself for. I hope you never become afraid of taking such risks!

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TILLIESONG

Monday, June 2, 2008 10:33 PM

What Mal4Prez said is true, and really important.

You did an incredibly brave thing to open your heart to someone, and to tell the person how you felt. I'm very proud of you for being so brave and honest, both with yourself and with another person.

I'm very sorry that you are suffering right now. The good news is that it will get better. Not right this minute, and not all of a sudden, but day by bay, little by little it will feel a little less awful, until you'll feel a little better and then a little better than that. And the whole time you're healing from this hurt, there will be people who care about you, who are on your side, who want you on their crews and in their chat rooms and in their lives. I'm one of them, mei mei. And I offer you whatever comfort you can find from my friendship. And that's real.

SPACEVIKING

Monday, June 2, 2008 11:36 PM

I have no courage when it comes to expressing my feelings for others. It took me a year to open myself up and tell my current girlfriend how i felt about her i was lucky to find she had also liked me for that whole year but didnt say anything either. We both felt really stupid afterwards but are doing great. So i respect that you were able to express yourself.

the day i found out firefly was over

TATERTOT

Tuesday, June 3, 2008 2:36 AM

Wow. I did try and post something that had alittle message to each and everyone of you...but it didn't post and I can't think of what I put. And I'm too lazy to try again!

So I will say just say: Thank you all for your time and your kind words! It makes me feel alot better! And I'm telling the truth when I say that all yee shiny browncoats are like family!

(also as to the couple thing I was thinking of TWG an MWP! haha)

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HUGHFF

Tuesday, June 3, 2008 6:40 AM

There're lots of nice people on here giving all sorts of life affirming advice. I'm not really one of them.

You struck out. It happens - no-one bats 1.000. It doesn't mean you're out of the game, just this innings. Step up again, have another swing. You'll never score until you do.

I hadn't intended a baseball metaphor (what I know about the game you could write on a fly's eye with a chunk of charcoal and still have room for postage) but it actually works, doesn't it?

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UPPERSON

Wednesday, June 4, 2008 10:24 AM

Can't say I have, but I met plenty of nice and interesting people here, of which you are definitely one tater!

It is a hard one, but you will live to fall again!

This is just a personal opinion; but feeling something is better than feeling nothing at all. If you close yourself off when you get hurt, you lose more than you win!

That was my preachified moment for the day! Good luck tater, and see you around!

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