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POSTED BY: Aprilise
UPDATED: Thursday, January 11, 2007 16:31
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APRILISE

Tuesday, January 9, 2007 2:16 AM

KK New Question time (you can still respond to the other question in the thread too)

Lets see

Ah...Here's one

#6 You discover that your wonderful one-year-old child is, because of a mixup at the hospital, not yours. Would you want to exchange the child to try to correct the mistake?

ASORTAFAIRYTALE

Tuesday, January 9, 2007 3:04 AM

I would exchange it. It wouldn't matter if it was wonderful and all, it wouldn't be mine. It would not be fair for the child to be raised by someone who wasn't their real family, when their real family was off raising some other kid. It's just wouldn't be fair to anyone. You also would have to live wondering what happened to your child, and what happened to them.

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APRILISE

Tuesday, January 9, 2007 3:26 AM

I would, at the very least, try and get to know the other family. I think it would be worse on everyone if the kids were just switched with no contact with the child I gave up ever again (even though it wasn't mine by 1 year an attachment would have formed) but if I had to switch the child (with no contact) it would be easier to do this at 1 year old then at say 3 or 5 or 10...after a time it would be worse on the child to switch from the home they grew up in to live with strangers. Just look at what happened with Kimberly Mays

At 1 it would be hard but at that age it's more the parent who would go through the most trauma.

In any case I think that if I had to face this situation I would want to be in the child's life as much as possible and would give the other parents the same opportunity, to be in the life of the child they raised for a year.

TRAVELER

Wednesday, January 10, 2007 2:06 AM

I would keep my mouth shut. Knowing my genetic code, I'm sure I got the better end of the deal. Let the poor bastards that got my child suffer.

Traveler

CAUSAL

Wednesday, January 10, 2007 3:06 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by Aprilise:
#6 You discover that your wonderful one-year-old child is, because of a mixup at the hospital, not yours. Would you want to exchange the child to try to correct the mistake?

Would I want to? Of course not. A year is a lot of time to develop an emotional bond. But I think that to have integrity, I would have to notify the other set of parents (the ones that have my genetic off-spring). That's not something that I think I could really keep secret. If they wanted to swap, well, I don't know what I would do. Raises all kinds of interesting questions about DNA and biology and all that. What's more important? The fact that this kid has your genetic code? Or that you've spent a year loving, nurturing and caring for the other one?

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PHOENIXROSE

Thursday, January 11, 2007 3:26 PM

I think our memories shape us. The most important thing to the mind is how we remember something, which is why there are types of therapy that take you back to a bad memory and then tell you to imagine what you wish would have happened. Obviously a bad memory can't be erased, but it can help with the trauma to imagine something else. So the way someone remembers something tends to be the important thing in terms of how they behave and how they react.
Tricky one with the child. I like the idea of trying to get to know the other family and maybe trading babysitting ro something. Of course, it would depend entirely on what kind of family it was. I know that's not brought into the question, but if they were, I dunno, meth-heads or something, probably wouldn't be a swap so much as ending up with two kids.
My mind goes strange places.

ASARIAN

Thursday, January 11, 2007 4:31 PM

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Originally posted by PhoenixRose:

Sure I would. I mean, I'd prefer to be able to remember, but it's still a year of perfect happiness. Happiness is too precious to say no to, I think. Now if you had said "Would you want a year of perfect happiness if for the rest of your life you would be miserable?" I would say no.

Good answer! :)

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