Whatever Happened to Live and Let Live?
POSTED BY: 6ixStringJack
UPDATED: Wednesday, November 29, 2006 22:26
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Thank you all for your kind and thoughtful comments. I was in a real downer mood yesterday. Not that I'm normally Mr. Cheery, but just being awake yesterday was excruciating. It took everything I had to not tell my boss that I needed to go home (it's on my dime, as I'm out of vacation) and so I vented a little here and a heck of a lot more on my MySpace blog. Thanks for reading it, for whatever reasons you did, and thank you for taking the time to say a kind word or 1000 words. Little things like that go a long way and you guys and gals are all good people for doing that and cheering me up a bit. That's what Christmas is all about, isn't it? Not Playstations or Nintendos or that boxed set of your favorite TV show on DVD. I dare say that I don't think I'll be recieving a better Christmas present this year than what ya'all have given me here.
Even though I'm going to be working through it, I hope you all have a Merry Christmas and enjoy the holidays with your friends, families and that special someone if you've found them already.
SpaceAnJL - Yes... a holiday would be nice. I have long weekends all the time cause I work 12 hour night shifts. I think what I need is to somehow escape myself for one of them. Getting away from the commercial crap for a while sounds like a great idea. I thought about enlightening you about Richards and the other garbage, but if you don't know, you're probably better off. My advice to everyone is to stop watching the News.
Sweetserendipity - Sorry to hear about your ordeals with your mother and depression. I haven't exchanged a single word with my mother in 4 years. My brother tells me she just turned 50 the other day. I'm glad that you've overcome your depression, and though I'm sure it's always with you to a degree, you sound like you've managed to cope with it and that it's healthy.
I won't go into it here, but I'm not a big fan of perscription drugs. I don't trust them or doctors at all, but it's nice to hear that somebody was helped by them and is now currently not taking them anymore. In the spirit of letting go of my opinionation and live-and-let-live, and the honest realization that I really might have no idea what I'm talking about, I won't even try to speak of my notions of the evils of pills because I know that no matter how much I don't want to admit it, they do help some people, and even though they are handed out like candy, sometimes the right people get them and they work wonders. And bottom line, I smoke pot and since I'm not growing my own, I have no idea what chemicals they're sprayed with anyways so how is that any better?
I can't have pets at my apartment and that's kind of a bummer. I miss having a dog. I do however have some good friends that I can talk to on occasion. I try not to burden them with my crap all the time though. Most of them are married now or getting married and they have lives of their own to deal with. Then I've always got my Browncoats. You're all real cool people. I've been writing in my MySpace journal... usually ranting about the stuff that I can't control, but yesterday I did a post that kinda scared me. It just seemed to flow out of me without my even thinking about it until I was done. Everything in it was true... but it was kind of a wake up call to see it staring me in the face. I don't want to live the way that I've been living anymore and only I have the power to change it. At the end of the day, how we chose to live our life is really the only thing any of us have any control over.
Safeat2nd - We're all entitled to our opinions. It's funny how genetically we're all so much alike, but our brains can think so many different ways and though we can all find things to agree on with each other, we disagree on other things. Probably my biggest problem with a prodominantly 2 party system is just that... there's absolutely no way to put all of the different types of personalities into 2 or even 3 seperate parties. As for retiring the soapbox, it's probably a good idea. The more voca
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I'm sorry things aren't going well for you 6ixString. I hate this time of year too. My advice will seem crappy compared to what most have written here but maybe it will help.
Stop watching the news and reading the paper for a while. Sometimes a person just needs to disconnect from the world for a bit. I know it sounds cliche but love usually finds you when you aren't expecting it. That doesn't mean that it won't if you are I just find that to be true most of the time. As for finding people to hang out with I can't help you there. I am a loner and I find that the older I get the harder it is to make new friends in "real life". You could try and join an intrest group or club but I don't know that this would be something you'd do (I suspect not). I do hope things get better for you. Take a deep breath and hang in there as best you can.
"Well, my days of not taking you seriously are certainly coming to a middle." http://whimsicalnbrainpan.blogspot.com/
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...Siri - "I can only effect what is within my sphere of influence - not necessarily my sphere of interest." I've never heard that, but I really like it. Hope you don't mind if I use that myself. I'm not sure if there is a most perfect self under all that mess, but it would be nice to get in touch with it.
Still working on the quote thing. Stopped by to see how you're doing today. Sounds as if you're doing OK - trying to apply some of the suggestions folks had to offer. You are free to use the sphere of influence vs sphere of interest phrase in any way that works for you.
You gave people an opportunity to open their hearts and offer you wisdom, guidance and compassion and you gratefully accepted what they offered. It works both ways - people need to be needed and appreciated. And, believe me - there is an absolutely perfect human being within your very skin. You just have to be willing to meet and greet that being. Perhaps no one has ever reflected that perfect person back to you before. Maybe this Christmas time that will be the perfect gift you receive - your perfect self. Wouldn't that be just totally shiny?!
Siri
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That would be pretty shiny Siri. I've got my moments that I shine, but I'm still pretty skeptical that there's anything close to perfect. But maybe I'll meditate on it. :)
You keep shinin'
"A government is a body of people, usually notably ungoverned." http://www.myspace.com/6ixstringjack
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Hey 6string, glad you're feeling a bit better. Hate that you can't have a pet, that always sucks. I couldn't do without mine. Glad you have some friends you can vent to.
I have to agree with Whimsicalbrainpan, avoid the news for awhile. If a bit of news is truly important, it'll find you.
And if you haven't read Whimsical's blog, you need to. Read all the fire ones.
Deb
http://serendipityagain.com/
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Siri, I took your advice and checked out Whimsical's blog.... little did I know that I would be glued to my monitor for about 5 hours here at work.
I just finished the fire and I have to say Whisical.... it was absolutley enthralling. I don't believe in happy endings, but I'm so glad to see that you've found yourself somebody that you can get along with so well. You've been through so much... your story is much like my brother's who had a brain hemmorage and several strokes when he was 6 years old and he showed everybody that he could walk and talk again when the doctors said he couldn't. He's 23 now and he has to struggle, but it's great seeing him in the shape he's in today as opposed to where the doctors said he would be.
Sorry, but my turnover is comming in a minute... I have so much to say, but where to start. Yours is a true story of empowerment and a wakeup call to somebody like me who should stop bitching about everything and start living life. Thank you for sharing that with us. I'm sure it must have been very hard. And might I add that those hands do just fine at typing. Most of the people that are in my circles can't punctuate or write anything that even resembles the English language... and I'm talking about people that I work with too.
I know I'm leaving stuff out, but my turnover is here.
Gotta run! Merry Christmas you. And to all of you and I hope your New Year is even better. "A government is a body of people, usually notably ungoverned." http://www.myspace.com/6ixstringjack
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Glad to help 6ixString, even if only just a little.
I'm still working on retiring my soapbox. One can't always just go cold turkey eh?
Merry Christmas to you too.
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"Got a headful of lightning
And a heart full of rain
And I know that I said
I'd never do it again
Oh and I love you sweet baby but I always take the long way home."
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I'm right there with you, 6, and I feel your pain (not in that trite, jingoistic way).
We will survive it, and be strong. It's what we do.
With love from a fellow blues-burdened Browncoat Chrisisall
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61,
You remind me of me from a few years back. Your outlook on life is bordering on nihilistic. Not necessarily a bad thing but as you undoubtably know it isn't exactly a pleasant experience. Unfortunately someone who seeks truth in the world as well as within themself is bound to be somewhat miserable. I imagine you must feel alone even when you are in a roomful of people.
Fear not, for I have the solution. Don't question anything. Ditch your imagination, creativity, and independence. Be like everyone else. Wear pre-faded jeans, hang out at trendy nightclubs, listen to hip-hop, eat at Chili's and for God's sake no more sci-fi. From now on it's reality TV and talk shows for you mister!
A psych professor once told me "a well adjusted person is simply more capable of deceiving himself". Is that beautiful or what?
Lastly, I still haven't been able to follow the advice I recommended for you. I'm still a miserable S.O.B. It's just that now I revel in it. Good luck!
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Originally posted by 6ixStringJack:
Sorry, but my turnover is comming in a minute... I have so much to say, but where to start. Yours is a true story of empowerment and a wakeup call to somebody like me who should stop bitching about everything and start living life. Thank you for sharing that with us. I'm sure it must have been very hard. And might I add that those hands do just fine at typing. Most of the people that are in my circles can't punctuate or write anything that even resembles the English language... and I'm talking about people that I work with too.
6ixString you have a right to bitch, everyone does. At least you are bitching about somthing important and not about how you can't afford the Playstation 3 for Christmas or something equally irrelevant. You are in a bad place right now and you don't have to have a stroke or be in a fire to be in one. I just hope you find the tools you need to make things better for yourself. I hope you know by now that there are a lot of people here for you.
I wrote what I did mostly for myself but it has brought me a lot of joy knowing that folks have found what I have to say helpful. And as far as living life, the fire was almost 12 years ago and I am just starting to do that. The cliche is true, dying is easy it is living that is hard. It sucks but sometimes our life gets stuck in a holding pattern (I like to think that it is for a reason) so don't be so hard on yourself. And believe me, I bitch all the time and about really stupid stuff.
Thanks for reading. And as far as my typing goes... Well it is slowish and I have to back up and fix things a lot but at least I can do it. It is funny but I think I type faster now than I did before I hurt my hands. Never been much good with a keyboard. I really hope you feel better and if you need me I am here for you like every other Browncoat on this shiny site.
"Well, my days of not taking you seriously are certainly coming to a middle." http://whimsicalnbrainpan.blogspot.com/
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