Male and Female Imponderables - Juicy Juicy Green Grass
POSTED BY: Nicodemus
UPDATED: Saturday, November 11, 2006 03:57
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NVG...go with what feels right.
MSG, thank you for the emoties! 
RugBug, welcome to the wonderful world of insurance!
Speaking of which...I need to get back to work...
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Hey all, just popping in to say hi, and reply to a couple of things, though I know there's a ton I've missed.
PR: Something like 70% of women are wearing the wrong bra size, and since it took me so long to get correctly fitted, it's become somewhat of a crusade for me. So all you ladies, get out the tape measures! The bra industry has the stupidest measuring criteria I've ever heard of ("put on your best fitting bra and measure the difference between your bust and your underbust" -- if you don't have a good fitting bra, how are you ever going to find one in the first place?!), so here's what I recommend: Get a tape measure and measure your underbust, without a bra on. Add 3 or 4 inches to that (but no more than 4!), and that's your band size. Then go out and start trying on bras in the band size, and fiddle with the sizing as necessary. When you buy a new bra, you should put the hook&eyes on the largest setting, since the elastic will stretch over time and you'll need to go in from there (so if you have to start on the second or third set of hooks&eyes on a new bra, go down a band size!). The band should be parallel to the ground, and shouldn't ride up in back at all. You shouldn't be able to squeeze your finger in between the band and your ribcage, but it also shouldn't be leaving red marks on you.
Once you have your band size, start trying on bras in that size until you find the right cup size. The middle of the underwire should lie flat against your sternum, and be in contact with your sternum at all times. If you bulge over the top of the cup, go up a cup size, and if you have extra fabric in the cup, go down a cup size. Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if a lot of the Browncoat ladies here have a much smaller band size and much larger cup size than they currently think. It makes financial sense for the bra industry to try to make us all fit into 32-38 A-D, but every woman deserves a properly fitting bra! It makes you look better and your back feel better.
Ok, stepping down off my soap box now. 
All that bra stuff said, I am definitely agree with you Jonny on the perky boobs thing. While watching Lost last night (which I always watch, and seeing our dear Captain was just an added bonus!) I was reflecting that the actress who plays Kate, Evangeline Lily, is pretty much my definition of beauty. She's got natural beauty, she's athletic but still curvy, not too far in any one direction. Completely perfect, IMO. I generally feel pretty good about my body, but man, I would love to have a body like hers.
And Humor: an absolute must in my book. One of my favorite parts of my marriage is that we have a huge list of "inside jokes", and can communicate about them without even talking, which comes in handy in public.
~CK
You can't take the sky from me...
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'Night Mav. I just ate leftovers for lunch since I'm stuck here for a bit.
On the askin', I really gotta know, but wonder if it could be detrimental to the friendship. I usually opt for dry and to the point when emotions can get invilved. Just a defense mechanism I guess. But there also has to be a time, blah blah blah.
I hate my excuses. Except this one. I'm never afraid of rejection. In fact, I've grown quite used to it. There's just been one too many letdowns lately. But hesitating seems to be a huge mistake in this case. We'll see what happens when we meet this afternoon. And of course on Sunday there's apt to be some reason (None actually) to get together.
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NV- If, for some insane reason, she isn't in to you ( which I must point out is about as likely as me being struck by lightening) then there'll be a bit of awkwardness and then it'll be back to normal so long as you act normal around her:) I'm pretty sure she's just gonna jump you !!!
CK- Yeah took me forever to get properly fitted, but I had to early because of dance and costumes and such. It's a peeve with me as well. Not a fan of the underwire though for the most part. I've really like victoria's secret ipex which comes in non underwire and fits flawlessly for me.
I choose to rise instead of fall- U2
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Forgot to comment on the story of MrG and the towel incident. Honestly, I'd been in similar situations but prefer a truthful request rather than an insinuated one.
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Yep. It's my life insurance broker's license. But, I will not be selling anything. My company requires us all to get licensed for E&O purposes.
The worst part of this is about 2% of what is on the test actually applies to what I do on a daily basis. The test is mostly geared towards life, annuities, individual disability, etc. I do group benefits. Biggest issue is I took the class last year before I broke my arm. Now I'm having to re-learn all this stuff. Blargh.
NVG: what I was trying to say, but might not have done if very well, is that if you approach GND in a relaxed easy "just looking for some more information" type manner, the friendship can survive if that's all she wants. Just a "Hey, I wanted to see if there is a possibility so I can know the appropriate boundaries of our relationship." If a guy came to me and did that I would be fine even if I was in a "just friends" place. It's the ones who come to you all "I want more" that 'cause problems. Then I get all freaked. I guess I'm advocating an "I want more if you do, but am okay being friends if you don't" stance.
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"The power of accurate observation is commonly called cynicism by those who have not got it." - George Bernard Shaw
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Heres where we cross the line. Mindy asked me if I got jealous of the guys she talks about (ex's, friends, etc) and honestly I do. I fully admit to it. And she knows I do. But I shouldn't be jealous, should I?
I like asking about the appropriate boundries thing. Honestly, if we ain't gonna be together I don't need another female coming to me for emotional support and having someone for everything else. But I really don't like the idea of pushing her away because of it.
Guess I really hate to lose and it shows.
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CaliforniaKaylee, you're the best storyteller ever. Feel free to tell us more anytime. 
Seriously, I have no idea why it's hot just hearing women talk about bras. But it is. So, continue.
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Originally posted by CaliforniaKaylee:
PR: Something like 70% of women are wearing the wrong bra size, and since it took me so long to get correctly fitted, it's become somewhat of a crusade for me. So all you ladies, get out the tape measures! The bra industry has the stupidest measuring criteria I've ever heard of ("put on your best fitting bra and measure the difference between your bust and your underbust" -- if you don't have a good fitting bra, how are you ever going to find one in the first place?!), so here's what I recommend: Get a tape measure and measure your underbust, without a bra on. Add 3 or 4 inches to that (but no more than 4!), and that's your band size. Then go out and start trying on bras in the band size, and fiddle with the sizing as necessary. When you buy a new bra, you should put the hook&eyes on the largest setting, since the elastic will stretch over time and you'll need to go in from there (so if you have to start on the second or third set of hooks&eyes on a new bra, go down a band size!). The band should be parallel to the ground, and shouldn't ride up in back at all. You shouldn't be able to squeeze your finger in between the band and your ribcage, but it also shouldn't be leaving red marks on you.
Once you have your band size, start trying on bras in that size until you find the right cup size. The middle of the underwire should lie flat against your sternum, and be in contact with your sternum at all times. If you bulge over the top of the cup, go up a cup size, and if you have extra fabric in the cup, go down a cup size. Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if a lot of the Browncoat ladies here have a much smaller band size and much larger cup size than they currently think. It makes financial sense for the bra industry to try to make us all fit into 32-38 A-D, but every woman deserves a properly fitting bra! It makes you look better and your back feel better.
CaliforniaKaylee - WOW! I never knew so much about bras before. Maybe that's because I'm a man?
Still, I just got myself educated-ed. 
Interesting stuff!!
O Captain, My Captain? (or the other way around)
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Nv- Ok at this point the suspense is killing me Would you just for pity's sake ask her out~!!!! I'm almost certain that's what she wants ( the only tinge of uncertainty is that I'm not there to see it) based on everything she's said and everything I know...She really really likes you and the best thing you can do is ask her out! That way you both stop dancing around and get down to it. If she says no I'd rather be friends, just smile and say "well that's what we've always been, so it's fine by me. Just wanted to see where we were going." If she leaps on you and begins to tear off your clothes, that would be a " yes I'd like to go out with you" in case you didn't know.
I choose to rise instead of fall- U2
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