Loafer's Nook - 23 skidoo and more fooding.
POSTED BY: Jadehand
UPDATED: Saturday, October 21, 2006 10:32
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Well it's all academic for me anyway.
Hand tossed crust. Erm, that, erm, sounds a little dodgy...
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Pish and posh, Seanny.
You put just a little effort into it, you could find yourself a VERY lovely young woman to spend lots of money on. You're smart, you're good looking, you're funny, you have a decent job, you even have a nice car!
You've already got an edge on most men your age, who are still making minimum wage driving something second hand that's more rust than not and think bathroom humour is the height of entertainment.
So there.
Serenity,
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Quote:And yet they get more attention than I without putting any effort in at all, so obviously either those good things about me aren't really true, or there's something about me that far outweighs anything good about me.
Originally posted by CallMeSerenity:
You've already got an edge on most men your age, who are still making minimum wage driving something second hand that's more rust than not and think bathroom humour is the height of entertainment.
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Oh, no, it's just that 90% of women your age are very very silly. Don't waste your time on them.
Serenity,
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I see, it's not me, it's everyone else.
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Yes!
Well, no.
But, really, next time you're at a party, just bypass the girls who waste their time with the losers. They aren't worth your time. It's the girls that are standing over to the side discussing current events or the one that's in the kitchen helping the hostess put food out or the one that goes out of her way to talk to the wallflowers that are more worth your time.
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Originally posted by seryn:
real question, why have men not got it yet that that when a women uses the word 'fine' (even when its hissed through clenched teeth) she means that she's anything but fine.
(infact, quick translation, 'fine' in female-speak often means 'yes, i'm extremely pissed off at you but i'm not going to explain why, you inordinately stupid oaf, because you aught to be able to guess exactly what it is you have done to wrong me. In the meantime i'm going to smile and be gracious infront of our family and friends and you had better quake in fear because if you still haven't worked it out by the time we get home man are you in for it.)
its just this handy form of short hand.
And listen to Serenity, you'll never get dumped again.
Let's take it as a given that the hypothetical guy is unaware of his horrendous gaff. I'm going to address the whole isuue of the 'fine' answer. I'm sorry there is no one single answer to this one.
Some men really are so dense that they don't get it. It's not that they are completely brain dead, though that can be part of it, often they aren't paying close enough attention. There maybe exceptions, but as a rule these men are not worth keeping.
Other times men are likely to disregard the underlying meaning of a woman's 'fine' because they are rubbed the wrong way by the tactic. They see that sort response to their question as sarcastic, biting, and anti-social. They asked if you are okay and you snap at them in nasty manner. It doesn't encourage interaction on their part.
If confronted they can say they asked if you had a problem and you said you said you were 'fine'. So in fact to them they are trapping you with your own lie.
Many men are extremely frustrated that women "expect us to be able to read their minds." Saying you are "fine" just gives these men more ammunition for their arguments.
When a woman I care about gives me the "fine" answer or it's nearest equivalent it's time for me to decide what to do. I can give her space and time to cool down or I can tell her something like "your happiness is important to me and I want to make good, so what do I have to do?" It took a lot of training to think that way. The guy reflex is to think "I asked her if there was problem and she got all snooty, so to hell with her."
Next time you want to give the 'fine' answer, try 'do you really care?' instead. If he says yes then you have a basis to solve the problem, if not, to hell with him.
I suggest you lose the short hand, it's disfunctional and has a lot of potential to make things worse. Two wrongs don't make a right.
Scorpion Regent
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Yeah those girls aren't interested either.
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Learn to luv yerself, and the rest of the good stuff just kinda follows.
Ain't saying it's easy, though.
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Quote:
Originally posted by citizen:
Yeah those girls aren't interested either.
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Sounds to like you need to tap a diferent pool of women.
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