Male and Female Imponderables--Dancing in the Dark
POSTED BY: Tristan
UPDATED: Tuesday, August 22, 2006 21:40
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Hello Dear Impoderables...
(just realised I still write on the forum like I'm writing a letter sometimes...)
WOW!! Yay!! Happy Day Darlin' PR!! I knew he would get in touch!!! ... (and you knew what I meant about him being a 'Wash'!!
) Have fun with the flirtin' gorgeous girl!! 
Funny thing - teaching - as a student I loathed and detested school... I was miserable and never met my potential and didn't go to university as it would have been difficult to commit to the kind of level of work-ethics that I knew it would demand, when my heart wasn't in it. Now - 20 years later, I am seriously thinking of going to Uni as a 'mature student' (I don't think they'd accept me as an immature one
) to study Theology and History, and then do a Dip Ed. 'Does that seem right to you?'
I think it is a calling too - not a job you aspire to as a career if you like flash cars and holidays in the tropics... but one you know you have to do if you care about the development of the next generation and want to share your insight and patience for those 'lightbulb moments'. I think that being a nanny is a bit like that too... it'll never pay well, but you get love and hugs thrown in!!
FMF - go for it - I keep telling myself that if I don't take a deep breath and just smile and be myself I will never give anyone the opportunity to just love me for who I am. If I am projecting 'Uh... don't know what I'm doing here...I am so fat...I am so unattractive... who am I kidding... why would anyone want to look at me... then all the above will be exactly what others read in me! (I keep saying it... and yet
?) I know you are gorgeous - wonderful friend, wonderful mother, wonderful and fun woman! Just relax, have fun and remember, going to meet him isn't actually committing to a life-long relationship... it's just 'going to meet him'. It helps me to ask a guy out (well - it helped me to ask a guy out) to remember that I was just asking him out... not asking him to marry me!! 
It worked too, although he's seeing someone else we're now friends!
A week without Tristan.... 
how will we get through it.... Be good Tristan... (I know we will...
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MsG - I had a teacher at college when I was 32 who talked to us like we were primary aged students. My train was late one morning and there were three of us on it and as we rushed into the room, 10 minutes late and appologising profusely, she made a point of getting out her roll book and saying 'lateies' in a most disapproving voice. We had never been late before I might add!!! Nice in other ways - but not when I came to maintaining order - she just had the one style obviously!! I can relate to you and your principal!
Well, hi NVG!! Haven't seen you for a while - it's good to hear about your fun weekend - and thanks to all of you for the supportive comments! It is good to be reminded of our finer qualities every now and again! I think it's a good thing when we can express ourselves in a caring environment like this without the angst of our appearance issues getting in the way!
Love you all! - Magdalena x x x
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Teaching should indeed be a high paid job. The highest of high paid jobs. In fact, let me just say that to my boss!
I think teachers can occasionally get stuck in a groove where they end up dealing with everyone the same way they deal with their students. I know I have a very annoying habit of explaining things clearly and in great detail to people who didn't ask and don't care. The reason I know this is because they tell me. Often.
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Remember that Gloria Vanderbuilt was NOT kidding when she said " you can never be too rich or too thin."
I thought that was Rasputina! *loves Transylvanian Concubine*
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Originally posted by magdalena:
Funny thing - teaching - as a student I loathed and detested school... I was miserable and never met my potential and didn't go to university as it would have been difficult to commit to the kind of level of work-ethics that I knew it would demand, when my heart wasn't in it. Now - 20 years later, I am seriously thinking of going to Uni as a 'mature student' (I don't think they'd accept me as an immature one
*comfort* I'm sorry that was your experience in school. But yep, that does seem right to me.
Teachers tend to be those who had a really good experience or really bad experience. The ones with the really good experiences tend to want to pass on what they experienced. The ones with bad experiences go in to improve the system. Quote:
I think it is a calling too - not a job you aspire to as a career if you like flash cars and holidays in the tropics... but one you know you have to do if you care about the development of the next generation and want to share your insight and patience for those 'lightbulb moments'. I think that being a nanny is a bit like that too... it'll never pay well, but you get love and hugs thrown in!!
What?! No tropical vacations?! *blinks* Does that mean that someone is going to make me fly off these islands to somewhere dreary and depressing? *ponders* Okay, just as long as I can visit those imaginary places (like Colorado, Utah, Iowa, Minnesotta, Oregon, Washington, or England, Ireland, and Scotland) and dropped back here to work the "salt mines" of public school in Hawai`i.
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Is Ireland imaginary? Because that would explain a lot...
I fully approve of mature students. I was totally clueless about what I wanted to do with my life when I went to University. I studied English because I loved it, but I was terrified about how I'd get a job. It took me years to find my niche. I think a lot of people are better off waiting until they know for sure what it is they want to study, for work or for pleasure.
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Originally posted by Dancingneko:
What?! No tropical vacations?! *blinks* Does that mean that someone is going to make me fly off these islands to somewhere dreary and depressing? *ponders* Okay, just as long as I can visit those imaginary places (like Colorado, Utah, Iowa, Minnesotta, Oregon, Washington, or England, Ireland, and Scotland) and dropped back here to work the "salt mines" of public school in Hawai`i.
Oh?
You actually have a job that is meaningful and gives you an influence on the next generation and you get to live in hawai'i??? How do I do that?? I thought Hawai'i was just full of tourists and tourism, surfies and...er... surf! Vocanoes and... volcanic-novelty-rock-souveniers...??? Maybe I should look into this teaching thing a little more closely! How I do wish I could get to have the best of both worlds! Thank you for the comfort Dancingneko! Thanks for you encouragement too DTHippie! You are one shining star of a role model!
I have never regretted that I did not go to university as I have still got an active mind and find I do things best when I am passionate in my curiosity to learn! I have a feeling I'll need the theology one day... but the History is definitely my passion and I certainly didn't realise that at the time I was attending school! Through nannying a range of children I have realised that schools in Australia, well Victoria at least, have improved dramaticly and I would love to be a part of that! Errr... should we be ponderin' anything at the moment...???
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History is a great thing to study. I did mediaeval history and archaeology myself - my speciality is castles. I spent the first years at school thoroughly bored with the subject - wasn't until we got a teacher who gave us history in context that it fired up. Why something happens in one country only makes sense when you see what's happening globally.
If I ever go back to study, though, I'm going to do psychology. I'm fascinated by what pushes people's buttons. The fact that the first ad agency on Wall Street was started by Freud's nephew caught my imagination...(btw, did you see the Real Blue Sun thread - spooky)
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oohh, Magda, you are soo sweet!
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Originally posted by Whitefall:
I agree, women are too critical of themselves in general. I figure that if a girl tries to be thinner to attract the opposite sex (whether she knows that or not), she'll attract the wrong sorta guys who are interested in waist size. I dunno. I'm just a theorist.
"But, these strong women characters?"
"Why aren't you asking 100 other guys why they don't write strong women characters?" -Joss Whedon
Gotta agree there. I have so may female friends who are always obsessing about how they need to loose weight, and if I had a pound for everytime I have had to convince someone that they are NOT fat, they DONOT need ot loose weight and they are Gorgeous just the way they are, I could buy out F** and put our BDH's back on the air!
I am one of those women (well, girls) who doesn't really care what i look like. i don't follow any fashions, and I never wear make up (mainly due to laziness), and I exercise only in ways I enjoy, though not, much (also due to laziness) and I eat more or less whatever I want. And yet I still get called anorexic! I give in.
Whoot! go you, PR, good luck with the droolworthy one, and if he does look like Wash, even better!
Off to Greece tomorrow, at some ridiculus time of the morning, so I won't be around for 2 weeks, I will miss you lot. I may start suffering from inponderable withdrawl syptoms!
If I don't get to post again, then:
Bye!
see you in 2 weeks!***************
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SBDB - enjoy Greece, you lucky thing!
So nice to find someone else who stares blankly at the idea of diet and exercise. Mind you, from what I remember, you're a young 'un. The extra weight kinda jumps out at you the far side of thirty. (I'm holding it at bay with a flinty green glare, 'cos I think it has some mates with it.) Comfy in your skin is the only way to be.
Less of an Imponderable, more of a scare-poll - how many of you shiny folk look in the mirror and like yourselves?
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SBDB... you're welcome!
Have the most awesome time in Greece! I have always wanted to go and see Rhodes and visit all that Greek history...*sigh* Bon Voyage Sweetheart!
Space Angel - the honest answer is almost never. Many years ago I was a slim, toned buxom brunette who had flirting down to a fine art! Now I am bigger than I have ever been in my life - 96kg (sorry - I have no idea what that is in lbs... don't think I want to know either...) I have had asthma and that meant Prednisolone which always means a hike in my weight... (I totally understand FMF!!) In addition to this I have had an allergic reaction to some medication which the doctor tried me on and although I seem to be over it - every morning when I get up i have these weird red streaks over my eyelids. (apparently an after-effect of the allergy...???) To be honest I told my doctor (who's counceling me for depression at the moment) that I am sick of taking care to get ready to go out and then looking in the mirror and thinking, "it'll have to do..."
Wow... I think you just opened a floodgate! Don't think I hate myself or that I am suicidaly depressed, just really not happy with my looks right now. I still have an awesome sense of humour, a serious wicked streak, some pretty awesome friends (in the flesh as well as here in the Shiney corner of the 'verse!) and a job I love even if it doesn't pay all that well.
Hmmmmmmm.... well I certainly pondered that one!
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Morning all!
Ah, Tristan. Are you doing your licensing classes? They are AWFUL...well, at least mine were. SO BOOOOORING. And I had to go on Saturday and Sunday for 6 weeks. That was a special hell.
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Originally posted by SpaceAnJL:
how many of you shiny folk look in the mirror and like yourselves?
Some parts yes, others not so much. Overall it's not that bad, I would say. I can stand in front of the mirror naked and not be completely disgusted with myself, which is leaps above what some women can do, so I think I'm doing okay.
SBDB: I'm envious of your trip to Greece. Enjoy yourself!
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"The power of accurate observation is commonly called cynicism by those who have not got it." - George Bernard Shaw
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