Male and Female Imponderables--No more Shakespeare

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TROGMAN

Thursday, August 3, 2006 1:58 PM

Morning, all! A question and some news today.

MsG - my daughter is a super-avid reader, all the time. She has had some stress over the fact that others can't read like she can and she is disturbed over the difference. We've done the basics of telling to be happy with herself, etc. - how did you navigate those waters when you were young? How much did your parents play a part? (I like your Dad's tether idea!)

Otherwise, I've been having some problems with my SO and communication (see 2 imponderable threads ago) - but last night things broke free a bit and communication ensued. I even tried Tristan's idea of the "When you ... I feel ..." approach (or was it MsG's?), and that worked well. I had to work hard to resist the "You need to do this .." approach, which is just my problem to deal with. We've got some bad habits going, but I think they are solvable. We decided step#1 is to agree on what a marriage is, what the expectations are. Things can't work if you have different definitions!

I saw a great quote recently - "Don't wait for the light at the end of the tunnel to appear - go down there and light the damn thing yourself." Love that quote! Maybe that's what we're doing.

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Am I moving forward now?

MSG

Thursday, August 3, 2006 2:04 PM

Trogman- yes I had big problems with being a much better reader than the other kids. Teachers treat you like a nifty new toy and the kids treat you like a threat. Kinda sucks. I have been able to read since I was 2 and could read on a college level by the time I was 8. Turns you into a performing poodle ( ooh look what she can do)My parents put me in a school for unique kids ( I was already in the gifted school, but it didn't move fast enough)I really couldn't reccomend it. I think you have to deal with people who are different all the time and you need to learn patience with those who might not read or think as fast as you do or you end up very lonely. Just tell your munchkin that people are sometimes upset when they think someone is smarter than they are, but it will be less apparent when she is in jr. high and high school. See if you can get her to develop other interests like theater ( generally very acepting people) and music so that she has some common ground with the other kids:) Good Luck!
Also you can tell her the upside is college is a breeze:)

EDIT- have to bail and do my munchkin duty...two more days until their mom comes home:)
I choose to rise instead of fall- U2

MAGDALENA

Thursday, August 3, 2006 2:12 PM

Funny we're talking about baths - for me a bath is a luxury , mmmmm a nice hot bath with some essential oils and just enough bubbles to make it special without making it difficult to clean afterwards...

And definitely not as many as you and Mr G had Ms G!!! (LOL )

I can't live without a shower though and found it very difficult to come to terms with when I lived in the UK and didn't have a shower every morning!!

I am living in a gorgeous house at the moment which has a lovely bath and a fantastic shower - so I am very happy!!

But for now ... I am off to bed - 'night all my lovely browncoat friends! mwaah - Magdalena x x x

P.S. I just watched the last 2 hours of '24' and it was a brilliant series! At the end they announced that 'Bones' is going to start next Thursday so I'll get to see what you are all talking about over there!! Also watching SG1 - a few weeks into the 9th season here (in Oz) and enjoying it more each week!

Mwaaah (again!) - Magda x x x

"I love my Captain!"

TROGMAN

Thursday, August 3, 2006 2:16 PM

That is great stuff you're sayin' - you and my daughter sound very similar - she is in a gifted school now, it is not matching her so well. I am really glad to hear your input!

Oddly enough, she is in a theater/drama camp right now, for the next 3 weeks - she's loving it.

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GOAT

Thursday, August 3, 2006 2:31 PM

dn: Wait, you mean that real crab meat doesn't come cylindrically shaped like that? I'm crushed Actually, I'm pretty sure that it was real crab that time since it actually looked like crab meat (wasn't solid) and tasted better, too. I haven't seen a california roll made like that since, though. Maybe it's becuase that place is a little too expensive for my tastes. I didn't understand why so many people don't like natto until I had it for the first time. After eating it enough times, it has started tasting better but I still don't think that its something I'm going to keep around by choice.

I was never really big on the whole bath thing until I got here. Now its every night. I suppose that having the bath right there every night may have something to do with it, though. I'll miss it when I leave.

My heart's desire? Contentment and peace. Not to get too caught up in this fast paced world of ours and to take time for the things that are really important like the people that I love and trying to make the world a better place a little bit at a time.

I read in the bathroom when I'm living in an apartment or a house, but not so much when I'm living in a dorm. It just feels wierd to do that when you are sharing a bathroom with that many other people. I suppose that here would be the place to do it, though since a lot of the toilet seats (even in a lot of public bathrooms) are heated and have water jets built into them in case you feel that you need to have that "just washed" feeling.

TRISTAN

Thursday, August 3, 2006 2:39 PM

Trogman, I am pretty sure it was MSG's idea, and it was a good one!
I was also an accelerated reader when I was young. I would just disappear for hours at a time into books. I was lucky in that no one treated me like a "prodigy", and I did have several little friends who were also accelerated like I was. I second MSG's suggestions...not really anything I can add to that!

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GED

Thursday, August 3, 2006 2:44 PM

LOL MSG, sounds like you had a both fun and romantic time!

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FIZZIX

Thursday, August 3, 2006 2:47 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by nvghostrider:
Deleted because...
... can't remember.

I gotta question.
Do women read in the bathroom? I've met maybe two or three who said they do. So why is reading more prevelent in the male bathroom break than in the female. Only answer I've gotten thus far is, "Men have to relax their brains somewhere." Considering leaving that as the answer. Someone change my mind. Please!

"And it burn burns burns
That ring of fire
That ring of fire."

Okay, lemme tell you, I can be inseperable from books. This is not one of those times where I am seperable from books. I don't leave things to read in the bathroom, but I read in the bathroom. And am a female. Of some species.

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RUGBUG

Thursday, August 3, 2006 2:49 PM

Trogman,

Didn't you also mention your daughter loved horses? You might look at getting her involved there. I've seen the horse factor help tons of kids. Gives them oodles of self confidence, teaches patience, responsibility, sportsmanship, and has the added bonus of keeping the interest in boys at bay (...bay is the most common color of horse...I'm such a dork) for a little longer (if the child is really loves horses and the proper parenting is there to start with).

In my life, horses were always a stabilizing () influence. I took lessons and showed (when I could afford it...I had to pay for everything myself) from the time I was 11. I was also a brainy/nerdy child and had the gigantic glasses to prove it. I think the confidence the horses gave me helped me negotiate the tricky waters of youth. It's a life long passion and is still providing cheap therapy.

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"My feelings are changeable but intense" Anya (season 7 Buffy)

GED

Thursday, August 3, 2006 2:50 PM

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Originally posted by PhoenixRose:
There's a question; is it true that all men have a "cave" and need lots of time alone? Or are there actually plenty of men who can be mostly open and like to spend lots of time with someone? (in other words, have I just not been that lucky?)

When I have a SO, we're usually inseparable. I'm just an affectionate kind of guy. Love holding hands, being together and what not. As for other guys, well I don't know. It seems a lot guys in their 20's are looking for fast women - flavor of the week type of deal.

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