Male and Female Imponderables--What's done is done
POSTED BY: Tristan
UPDATED: Wednesday, July 12, 2006 13:09
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Not nosy at all. 16 was the year, and it was a very busy year. Unfortunately, the virginity has grown back. Oh well, just gotta lose it again. Shucks.
"Where do bad folks go when they die?"
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Oh wow. I'm gone for a few hours and the thread doubles in length. Now I have to go catch up again!
Mal4Prez, I know what you mean about wanting a guy who's your equal. The guy I was with before hubby was more than a bit of a push over (not to mention passive aggressive and habitual liar). Hubby, on the other hand, is much more suited to me, has a similar temper and a similarly strong will. He doesn't let me get away with anything, but if we disagree about something, big or small, we'll sit down and talk about it, rather than one of us caving to the other. When I do get my way (usually on small things like where we eat), he teases me about how spoiled I am. And I know I am, but I spoil him too, so it works.
I think some shy guys could eventually get comfortable enough to start asserting themselves within a relationship, but having been in a relationship for several years with a guy who never did actively assert himself, there's no way I'd ever go back to something like that.
To MsG's hilarious question: Bare floor here. Someone in one of these Imponderables threads said recently that everyone should be a whore in the bedroom, and I totally agree. Be monogamous, don't cheat, don't wear sexy clothes in public, sure. But once it's just you and your partner in private, why let anything but what the two of you want matter?
As far as the first time question, mine wasn't until after I got married. Hadn't really planned it that way, but then I wasn't quite 22 when I got married, so it's not like I waited all *that* long.
Update from earlier, nothing much to report from the doc: another test came back negative, so I am *still* without a diagnosis, and once again getting the line that they are out of things to test, and we'll just have to wait for another symptom to come up before we start looking again. That's the signal for me to start digging through medical references again... 
Update on the job: I went out to lunch with my hubby after the doc appointment, and we talked about my health issues with this job, and I came to the decision that I would just let the application process run its course, and figured if I was given an offer I'd make the decision then (rather than backing out now). I got back home and had a message from my contact at that company that they'd filled the position, with someone who had experience in the one area I was really lacking. Honestly can't say I'm upset about it.
And then, right after that, I got a call from my boss, saying that one of our quite-nearly business partners is asking about me for a temp contracting position. I need to get more details on it, but it sounds like it will be contract work from home (so more of what I'm doing now), but with a chance to get my name out there with another group, and a chance to get familiar with a new tech that my company will probably be using soon anyway.
Hm, that was way more confusing than it needed to be. I'm an independent contractor, working from home, but only for the one company right now. I may be getting another contracting gig thrown my way, which in the wake of not getting the full time position, I'm all kinds of thrilled about.
Oh, and I finally got up the courage to post my picture in the Faces with Names thread. 
~CK
You can't take the sky from me...
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Wow, that looked a lot shorter when I was typing it. >_<
~CK
You can't take the sky from me...
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I'm out everyone. Bear Hugs to all. Thanks for making my day. See y'all tomorrow.
"Where do bad folks go when they die?"
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Ah, theres probably no point, but I felt the need to put this in spoilers, theres a few words not suitable for the very young, and it gives Whitefall the chance to decide whether he want an education or not.
On the subject of personal topiary...
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Don't have a Brazllian wax by Carole Cadwallan
Oh, the beauty industry knows a euphemism when it sees one. A 'Brazilian' wax! Please! This is a procedure that has nothing whatsoever to do with fancy attacking football and beachside caipirinhas. It's a vaginal wax. A labial wax. An anal wax. No, not very nice, I agree. Not on a Sunday morning with your breakfast, not ever.
And these are only piffling little words. Does it really need saying that only a fool would allow a total stranger bearing a pot of wax heated to boiling point to come anywhere near their private parts? Apparently it does, because, no disrespect to you ladies out there who have them on a regular basis but you're quite mad, possibly delusional, with the kind of psychosocial problems mat could keep an expensive therapist busy for months.
You see the due is in the name. They're 'private' parts. And dress the experience up with all the spa - treatment lingo and whale music you like, and call me a prudey square, but really, if this is your idea of a good time, then go and have a smear test. Or simply stab yourself with hot needles. Only make sure you're not wearing any knickers and that a total stranger is present and that they're staring at your crotch and saying vaguely threatening things like 'There's no way I'm letting
you leave the room until you've had one!' or it simply wouldn't be a fair comparison. Oh yes, and don't forget to burn a £50 note and to consider carefully the full ramifications of the word 'regrowth'. No, don't be putting away those needles just yet
Only a fool would do it, I'm telling you, a patsy. The only bigger fool would be the kind of fool disturbingly lacking in what, in the absence of a better word, I'll call ‘dignity’, who'd agree to write about it which is why I really can't explain what comes next.
Or at least I can but it comes under
The heading 'workplace bullying'. Because while there are some things in life that I, personally, can't really see the point of but nonetheless accept that others may - snakes, Thought for the Day, Paris Hilton-Brazilian waxes exist only as proof that we live in an essentially hostile universe that eludes all attempts at rational explanation.
Because it's not just the pain, and the embarrassment, and the money, it's that the aim of the procedure (and I'll quote Wikipedia here in a transparent but ultimately doomed
Attempt to distance myself from the entire, sorry business) - 'the complete removal of hair from the buttocks and adjacent to the anus, perineum and vulva {labia majora and mons pubis)'- is to leave you looking like a pre-pubescent girl. And should you happen to stumble across a man who likes that sort of thing, any hope of fulfilling sexual congress is likely to be marred by the nagging thought that it might be because he's a closet pedophile. Cassie, the super-professional vaginal-waxer-to-the-stars at the central London salon, Otylia Roberts,
Tells me this is rubbish. She says that actually the real aim is to look like a porn star. It's why, and again I'm going to employ Wikipedia here in order to maintain a certain professional aloofness, 'most forms leave a small line of pubic hair above the vulva, commonly known as the "landing strip1". So, you see feminism hasn't been in vain.
All the actresses have them in the films which is why men like them,' Cassie says. 'And someone started offering them in New York but they called them "Brazilians" because it
Sounded better than going in and asking for a "porno star".'
They're not even remotely Brazilian. They're the Sunny Delight of the beauty world and don't even try and trot out the 'I wear a high-cut bikini' line. There's no swimwear in the world that requires that degree of anatomical exactitude and if you really think that having one is an act of generosity
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hmm embarrassing moment... Going to go with in a hurry changing costumes for a ballet performance we had this number in all white and in the rush of changing backstage and trying to get all the attachments on, my dresser must have forgotton the most important part of the costume ( to put this in context underneath leotard you are naked) the front's piece which keeps you from having showthrough in transparent costumes...so she forgets it and I have no clue and dash on barely making my call... My partner for the pas de deux ( who also happened to be a long time friend and usualy partner) gets these huge eyes and I'm thinking what??? and we go through the dance ( no other choice) with him with this very odd look...we finish and curtain drops. Troy steps in front of me and starts dragging me off before the curtain rises...I whack at him and he just keeps dragging and I'm squawking and we get off and he puts a hand over my mouth and says look down. I do and freak and just then another guy Ryan pops over to see what the problem is and Troy goes bonkers trying to stay in front of me while I try and attract Jennete to get my costume front's piece...basically causing 3 ring circus which draws out the director who wants to know why everyone isn't onstage and Troy (who has been standing in front of me ) steps to one side and says " this is what's wrong." so there I stand in a leotard so transparent I might as well have been wearing cellophane. We got it sorted and all, but it wasn't one of my best moments:)
I choose to rise instead of fall- U2
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If this has already been discussed I apologize -
OK peeps - Commando, French knickers, thongs, or big girl pants? Men boxers? Briefs? Commando?
For me I like them in this order - Commando, French Knickers, thongs or boxer briefs. I DO NOT LIKE VPL on me or anyone else! I HATES IT I DOES PRECIOUUUUUS! On a man - Commando or boxers.
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Oooh, msg! What's for dinner tonight?
Oddest place? I posted that in another thread, so without getting into too many details...about 30 feet up in a tree.
Lost my virginity at 18, first semester in college. I had tried to give it away before then, but had no takers.
CK, Arrgghh on the no diagnosis thing. We may have to come visit the Dr and tell him to hurry it up!
Oh, and thank you for the picture. Again...wow.
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Tidy whities!
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Aww, thanks Tristian!
Yeah, I had my fingers crossed that the xrays would come back with something, so that there'd be something to diagnose. I just passed the 2.5 year mark with this thing, so I'm getting pretty used to not having a diagnosis, but it's still frustrating. I'd just like to know what I'm dealing with here, and what I can expect in the long run.
Undies: I discovered thongs I few years ago, and never went back. My butt is kinda funny shaped (wide hipbones, but flat flat flat butt), so they really are more comfortable than the alternatives.
And now that I've posted my picture, I'm going to get all shy about replying to the Imponderables!
~CK
You can't take the sky from me...
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