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Originally posted by FutureMrsFIllion:
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I have been told that when the shyness kicks in I get this sort of aloof aura all around me. I think it comes off as arrogance or something. I have had people tell me how nice I am and how they had thought I was so unfriendly at first - and I am just like NO! I just don't know what to say!

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Yeah, fear of rejection can be hard to overcome. This is how I view situations where I encounter it. I figure, if I end up putting myself out there and I do get rejected, then it'll suck for like 5-10 mins and then I'll probably never see that person again. But, if I don't end up asking the girl out, then I'll never know if she could be "the one."

It's better to try and feel a little awkward than not try at all. Just be yourself, though I know it can be hard in these situations. I myself have completely lost my brain on a number of occasions in the presence of girl I wanted to ask out.

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You're right, Dayve, I can't like a guy unless he can make me laugh (intentionally)

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Ok. As a male, I have a statement to make regarding the females in here:
There is not a one of you I would not be interested in having a relationship with. Whether I have seen you or not, I have gotten to know you through this board. You are all witty, intelligent, and unafraid to state your opinion. In other words, you are all strong, and I am proud to know you. Those who have posted pictures, you are all beautiful...I don't want to hear any arguements.

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Originally posted by Tristan:
Ok. As a male, I have a statement to make regarding the females in here:
There is not a one of you I would not be interested in having a relationship with. Whether I have seen you or not, I have gotten to know you through this board. You are all witty, intelligent, and unafraid to state your opinion. In other words, you are all strong, and I am proud to know you. Those who have posted pictures, you are all beautiful...I don't want to hear any arguements.

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Although I am still kind of "the new kid" here, I'm going to have to agree with Tristan. Plus, chicks who dig sci-fi... how can you beat that???

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Such a good issue you raise, FMF! I am also really attracted to hotties, but let me explain...

I didn't think Nathan Fillion was overly hot until I found out he was a comic book geek and a really nice guy. Then - head over heels I went! Brad Pitt? Sure, beautiful man. Nice to look at. But I'm not attracted to him at all! Attraction for me can't be separated from the personality.

That being said - I like the personality to be in a pretty package. I've generally been ashamed of that, because I don't want to be a shallow b**ch. Also, anytime I've met the kind of charismatic, attractive, confident man I like, I assume he'd never choose me over all the babes he could have, so I don't even try.

I'm getting over it! I've decided to be as shallow as I want with the online dating. I figure, I'll either get burned by a few babes and thus gain romantic wisdom, or I'll get real lucky. We'll see how it goes!

Oh ya - shyness. I posted something a few threads ago, and it may sound all preachy, but it's so true I can't help posting it again. The secret is to let people know you like them. I'm so serious! Even good looking folks react well to getting that kind of assurance! I've only discovered this in the past few months, and it really works!!



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We love our Tristan.

*Insert I Heart Tristan here*

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AWWW, Tristan that is so sweet!

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Okay, so people can tell you you're pretty, blah, blah, blah, but if you don't feel like it, does it mean anything? When I get real honest with myself, I think I'm okay looking. Just normal. But what I feel like is that awkward ugly kid I was in high school. The one that all the boys passed over for my friends. Can't tell you how many times the boy I had a crush on ended up dating a friend. Even happened just a few years ago with the guy I was seeing ending up dating and marrying one of my closest friends. Ouch. Basically, I have issues...but don't we all.

And yes, my best friends were stunners. Bestest friend in high school looked much like Angelina Jolie and was just as thin. I was chopped liver in comparison.

Oops, sorry all. I started this post back, oh about 20 posts, and then all this other stuff has been written and we've moved on.

Shyness: Oh boy do I suffer from it. The worst part is at times I can be very friendly, but then the next time I see someone it's all shyness, which then really comes across as arrogance. Not good. Mal4Prez, I remembered you wrote that and have been telling myself that quite often lately. I'm hoping it will help....

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Rugbug, first off -- I've seen your picture, and you're very pretty. The sort of girl I think most guys would be amazed to find out likes scifi ("omg, pretty girls don't like scifi!").

You mentioned growing up in California, right? I went to high school out here, then moved to Texas, and recently moved back. In high school, I considered myself average, but I had body issues and tended towards goth things, which lowered me on the cuteness scale for all the California jock type guys at my school. The one and only time I ever got a double-take from the guys at my school was at senior prom.

A few years pass, and I move to Texas, and suddenly I'm the cute one. My sisters have had the same experience, and we can't quite figure out how we're average in one state and then head-turners in the next, lol.

Just part of what makes CA the twilight zone, I suppose. I'm just glad I moved back out here *after* I'd gotten married. I still try to look my best, but where I rank doesn't matter nearly as much to me anymore.

But besides the weirdness of California, the other thing that's worked for me is the "big fish in a little pond" thing. I could never compete with the cheerleaders for the attention of the football players, but put me in a room of gamers, geeks, and nerds, and I'm sitting pretty. ;)

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