Male and Female Imponderables--Continued Yet Again

POSTED BY: Tristan
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TRISTAN

Thursday, June 29, 2006 12:57 PM

Greetings, all! This is just the next step in the Imponderables ladder. Check out the last thread here:
http://www.fireflyfans.net/thread.asp?b=2&t=21738

To those who are just now joining us, this thread is for the discussion of, well, imponderables of the opposite sex...things they do that confuse, frustrate, or make you want to pull out your hair.

Post away, enjoy the conversation, and as always, lurkers are more than welcome to throw their two cents' in...this is by no means a closed thread.

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FUTUREMRSFILLION

Thursday, June 29, 2006 1:02 PM

A shiny new home!

Can I admit that I am stunned by CaliKaele's 30FF at 5'2!

I am, in fact, gobsmacked!

I worry my dear for your spine health!

and WELCOME WELCOME!

TRISTAN

Thursday, June 29, 2006 1:08 PM

Yes...I was kinda shocked to hear that. It's early, so I am still trying to picture that, and I really can't. Although the "K" for Kangaroo did make me spit up coffee!

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MSG

Thursday, June 29, 2006 2:06 PM

Morning all... Glad to have a slightly shorter thread.
WOW CK- I now feel dainty. I'm surprised you haven't gone for a reduction as with my now puny DD's have major back and neck problems which is why insurance will pay to make em nice and C

Hey I have a fun one for us to discuss...how big an age difference is too big? WE have a great friend who is 36 and he still can't seem to date a woman his age ( last girlfriend was 19) So how big an age difference is out of bounds??

I choose to rise instead of fall- U2

RUGBUG

Thursday, June 29, 2006 2:09 PM

Mornin' all. It's too damn early to be sitting in front of the 'puter...and yet here I am. Grrr...

NV, I just had to comment on this from the end of the last thread:

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Originally posted by nvghostrider:
I will not compete with anyone for the affections of a woman. Not kids, dogs, cats, family, or especially another man. I will be loved for being myself and no other reason. I expect these conditions for myself and expect no less for the recipiant of my affections.

While I agree that you shouldn't have to compete for the affections of a woman, especially with another man, please rethink the other list. Your statement is a sentiment that has kept me single for so long.

See, I am a horsewoman. Now horsewomen, as a group, are fiercely dedicated to our horses. We are strong, independent woman who aren't afraid of doing hardwork and getting dirty. Horses aren't just pets, they aren't just hobbies, they are a passion. They are our therapy. They also require A LOT of regular care...which takes A LOT of time...and A LOT of money. I can't tell you how many times I hear "He wants me to choose," "He's jealous of the horse," or "He resents the money spent on the horses." It scares the bejeesus out of me.

Now, I don't expect a man to take a back seat to the horses, or have to compete for my affections, but there are times that the horse will come first. And yes, more than likely, the majority of the money I make will go to enjoying the horse. A man involved with a horsewoman had better have a strong sense of self...and a time consuming hobby of their own doesn't hurt. And by god, if I am ever asked to choose, the horses were here first and they will be here when he's gone.

It's a pretty harsh stand. But it isn't an uncommon one in my world. I watch husbands turn their wive's passion in to a source of contention and it hurts me to no end. That's got to be one of the saddest imponderables of all to me. A strong, confident man knows he's not competing for affections, just that he's not the sole source of joy, love, and devotion in his partner's life.

TRISTAN

Thursday, June 29, 2006 2:13 PM

Morning, MSG!
Age difference...well, my wife and I are separated by ten years, and while that may not seem like a lot, it does make for some interesting times. She is the first person I ever dated that was that much younger, so I do not have all that much personal experience, but I do have a mindset regarding that. Beyond societal disapproval (such as a 20 year old woman marrying an 85 year old man), age should have no bearing on who you love or desire to be with.

That's a good one to start the day with.

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MSG

Thursday, June 29, 2006 2:15 PM

Rug darling I understand, but there are great guys who can support you. My sister is a horsewoman as is my mother and both of their husbands are great with regards to the horses. They even help out and can even feed in a pinch!
What kind of horses do you have?
My sis had a gorgeous Arabian ( he just passed away of complications from surgical colic) and so right now all she has are our barn babies A percheron and the percheron/clydesdale mix ( offspring of the percheron)
She competes in hunter/jumper...do you compete? or do you just show?
I only think it's competing for the affection if you love the horse more and bail on couple time to be with the horse. I think most decent guys should understand about horses:)
EDIT- Tristan I think the age difference problem depends more on your reasons for the age gap..if it's just who you fell in love with , great! If you date profoundly younger women because it boosts your ego or for money then eeeew!!!
I choose to rise instead of fall- U2

TRISTAN

Thursday, June 29, 2006 2:27 PM

MSG, I agree. Dating younger people for an ego boost is a bad thing.

RugBug, have you ever thought about dating a cowboy? They seem to be horse-people, too! I can understand the love and devotion for horses, but I have never actually been around them for any length of time. I am a big fan of the larger horses; Belgians, Ardennes (I think that's what they are called), and the Clydesdales. Big horsey!

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MSG

Thursday, June 29, 2006 2:40 PM

Tristan you'd love Diesel and Tinkerbell then..Tink's hugeher hooves are the size of large dinner plates...if she weren't sucha girly girl horse she'd make a fabulous war horse...sadly Diesel is hand raised so he thinks he's a somewhat oversized dog so he'd be lousy in a battle. he'd be trying to lick the enemy and pull hair ( as a joke)

Ok just got a great laugh from 13...he seemed stunned that a teacher would have a tatoo....think I should tell him about the bullet bike??

I choose to rise instead of fall- U2

TRISTAN

Thursday, June 29, 2006 2:48 PM

I have always had a healthy respect for horses and those that choose them as a lifestyle (did that come out right?) But, yes, the first time I was truly impressed with the mere "thereness" of a horse was coming up to a Clydesdale when I was about twenty and realizing how truly massive they really were. And then I found out the largest horses we have on the planet (I think it's called the Shire breed) is still a bit smaller than the warhorses used during the medieval period.

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