Male and Female Imponderables--the Eighth (?)
POSTED BY: Tristan
UPDATED: Saturday, June 24, 2006 05:26
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Alright, second attempt...the first one just disappeared...
Morning, all!
NVGhostrider, thank you, and I hope the shrine was delicious!
As to the Kama Sutra, I have tried several of the positions (don't ask me the names, it's been awhile) and was not all that impressed. Not saying it's not fun and exciting to try, but it has been awhile since I have had a lover willing to experiment and "play". I am quite happy not bringing rabbits, does, or (mercy) elephants into my bed-play 
Let's hope it works this time...
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Originally posted by EmmaRigby:
That's a very negative take on such wonderfully complex characters! I was thinking more of Simon's highly intelligent, reserved and fiercely loyal side combined with Jayne's uninhibited, fun-loving and dominant qualities. It was supposed to be a compliment! I'm sure not many women out there would say no to such a combination!
I can feel a DP-joke coming on...
Fair enough then, I shall try to think positively on that
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Originally posted by PhoenixRose:
Nice to see you Chaos! You're taking good care of our Emma, right?
I wish(!) We're at opposite sides of the country at the moment, although I might get to visit her next week if I'm lucky. I'm going to give her a hand with her snake dissertation, among other things
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Hey it seems to be working :)
Eloisa- I know just how you feel about the overendowed stuff. I'm a DD cup and it's quite the pain/curse. I still resent that lovely Harvard study where they took the same group of women and had them dress in a variety of professional clothes and have large and small bust. Turns out both male and female surveyed rated the endowed women as dumber, sluttier, less competant, and sloppier than the same women with smaller busts...You know I would have been happier not knowing that:)
I really hope this posts...fingers crossed
I hope I can post before i have to leave for five days on vacation.
I choose to rise, instead of fall- U2
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msg, I hope the vacation goes well. Have fun for all of us!
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How about this for a new direction: Trust.
I am a 21 year old man who has never been in any sort of relationship. I can count the number of friends I've had in my life on one hand, excluding those in my family. I am socially inept and frequently cloister myself. Why? Because I have extreme difficulties with trust.
(A bit of background on this. I was physically and emotionally abused by my peers throughout my school years. In elementary, I never had a single friend, and was bullied and abused constantly. In high school, I was the butt of conversation for anybody who deigned to acknowledge my existence. The only people I could trust were in my family, with a few golden exceptions, but they couldn't help me. But I digress.)
Back to the relationship thing: For me, trust is everything. If I can't trust, I can't do dick all. That's why I have exactly three friends. These are people I trust, and believe me it took a damn long while for me to reach that point. That's most of the reason I've never entered a relationship. I am afraid of social situations, and the people I meet are intimidating. Don't misunderstand, I'm not a small man (6'0, 200 lbs.) but I'm just dreadfully uncomfortable around people I don't know. Once, that discomfort matured a panic attack, and you know I wasn't venturing out for a while after that one.
Since I both desperately require trust, and have next to no capacity in developing it, I'm stuck in a sink hole.
Has anybody else found themselves pincered like this before?
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I ain't lookin' for help from on high. That's a damn long wait for a train don't come.
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I was bullied in school as well, but I seemed to go the other route - the superiority complex and the 'its their loss' attitute if people jerked me around. Kids are the cruellest, and they always get you before you can build your defences.
But all this I did in my own head, I managed to govern my own thinking until trust and intimacy issues didn't affect my everyday social interction, so I have built up a large cirlce of aquaintences, and it builds - the more people you mix with the more you relax around people and the better you can delvelop friendships.
Also, what you need to realise, is you don't have to immedietly forge super duper friendships where you know everything about each other and would trust them with you life and your kids. All you have to do is enjoy yourself around them. Initially, you don't have to give them anything more than your name, and you only have to give them as much of yourself as you feel comfortable with, no more, and at your own pace. I have friends who I only see to go to the cinema or to see a band with, I have friends who i natter with in work, or go to the pub with, then i have a few friends who know a lot about me, but they didn't happen over night, it took a while for us all to feel comfortable enough to share.
So first, push yourself out of your comfort zone - smile at a random staranger, and if they smile back, that makes a small positive eent - if they don't then they are miserable gits who don't deserve your attention.
Enrole in a group or class for something you are interested in - that way you have something set up to talk to people about, and make yourself talk to a different person every time, even if its only a few words, or a joke and a laugh. Expect enjoyment, be happy and friendships will happen all by them selves, and after a while, suggest a group trip to a bar or the cinema. Always try to engineer outings and even date where you have something, like a band or a movie, to talk about should you need a conversation starter, and don't underestimate the power of staying silent - listening to people is a skill that they value.
Whatever you do, don't tell people you are shy and have trust issues, they will believe you and it will always affect the way the relationship develops.
As for panic attacks, I can't even pretend to help you with that. You need to see a counsellor, a professional who can teach you coping mechanisms and ways to avoid it in the first place, and also get to, and hopefully help you get over, the root causes for them anyway. Choose your counsellor well, go for someone who will teach you practical methods for dealing with things.
I hoped all that waffle helped a little. Just don't expect to much of people, you can have lots of fun and be happy with out laying yourself open, as long as you don't expect too much from people to begin with.
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You know i've made five posts now with no problems.
I think we're back!
yey! new subject to go with the trust subject...
no, i can't think of one.
And thank you for your kind comments after all my ranting on myspace tristan. I think i needed that one.
And i still feel unwell *womens trouble alert* something like the fourthday now and its pissing me off like you wouldn't beleive - i think i'm becoming a paracetamol junkie *troubles talk over* but i feel much better now that we have hot water and fireflyfans back again!
Party!
*dances* *throws streamers* *eats cake* *snogs a cute bloke* *dances more*
...come on, i can't party on my own. Celebration time!
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Well I'll come partay with you Seryn! So nice to be back!
I have a live band to help celebrate our return! I was going to bring them to the Partay or Forsaken thread but since you asked so nicely!
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Good morning, all!
Yes, it does seem to be back...whee!!
Boy, howdy, how I have missed this place!
I have some catching up to do, and then some posting.
Seryn, no problem at all. If you ever do need to rant, I am just a click away
I shall return soon, my lovelies!
Holding until you get back, Captain.
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