Male and Female Imponderables--Post-Resurrection
POSTED BY: Tristan
UPDATED: Tuesday, June 13, 2006 12:56
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Hey my whole family has been conditioned to suck it up and shake it off..mostly this is good but I have to say sometimes ( like the time I broke 5 bones in my foot and dislocated a joint and didn't go to the doctor) it's less fun. I will agree that guys are generally more conditioned to do it....Just to add a wrinkle to the thread ( ok wrinkled thread sounds weird but I digress) How do all of you feel about guys who cry in public???
You're only young once, but you can be immature any time!
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I hate seeing anyone cry especially men. Misting up at sad movies or sunsets can be atractive but full on sobbing about anythig makes me want to hide under a rock!
To PhonixRose sometimes I feel like handing out some sort of imformational manual to people I just meet. Kind of like an early warning system.
An I carried such a torch.......For the Dark Lord
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I agree with copilot. The misting or maybe some tears dropping is alright, but full on bawling is, well, yikes 
Having said that, I haven't been able to cry since my grandpa died 5 years ago. It's been too long 
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yes, full on bawling is more than I can deal with from anyone. I can't even cope with my niece crying, and she's five. (the fake drama queen wailing i mean, not the genuine in-pain stuff)
I don't know, you have to cry at some point, its a pressure release, from stress etc.
But someone stood there crying their eyes out over a tv ad or a picture of a happy puppy? Drip drip drip.
The last time I saw a guy cry was my dad, when his flat burnt down taking everything with it - his wedding ring all his belonging etc. Two tiny tears and a sniff. The time before that was him again, when he told us he and my mother were divorcing. So thats twice in the last 15 years maybe? It kinda wierds me out, because I'm really not used to it, so I couldn't give a balanced opinion. I only ever cry myself out of strees (money worries and shocks)with emotional stuff I just clam up. Recently a man my age comitted suicide in the museum I work in (walked up to the fourth floor and threw himself into the lobby) And the only time I came close to crying was when I tried to explain to someone on here what happended -lumps in throat and stinging eyes, that was it! So Not really around tears that much! But if theres cause, yes, cry.
(actually, the wierdest guys crying thing I've ever seen was an actor sat in front of me who just made himself cry, just spontaneously, that was freaky!)
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Heh heh, didn't take long to put together a brief "info packet" I guess I'm less complicated than I thought (or I forgot a few things) Anyway it was kinda fun. It's not all warnings, though.
Crying in public? I never do it. Well, maybe a tear or two but I don't tend to. In private I sob if I have cause. Sometimes I almost wish men would get wrapped up enough to cry over something; I've yet to see it happen. So I don't know how I feel about it in truth, I suppose, but it would be kinda nice. Like an "oh, hey, you care about something!" moment. Although there have been a few minor freak outs that didn't involve tears, which works about the same. Yeah, I don't know if I made any sense there.
I have a question for the menfolk; I stopped wearing makeup about three years ago. Do ya'll like a woman who wears it, or do you prefer something more natural? I sometimes wear lipstick, but mostly it's just me. The kind of guys I seem to attract when wearing a lot of makeup, or even just dark lipstick, aren't really very attractive people; they treat me like a frickin doll or something. So I just wonder; I took a quiz (bored) about datability or something, and it asked something about spending a lot of money on makeup and clothes, which I don't, and also if my clothes were 1 Worn, 2 Fashionable or 3 Practical (there weren't really enough options to cover everything anyway, I would have picked "unusual" if it were an option) and apparently based on those it said I need to work more on my "appearance" for dating. What? Bah!
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So many things to address...
Men Crying, once again men are conditioned not to cry. That said, there has to be a limit. Crying over a TV ad for a soda pop?? no. A tragic event, there is no shame in being teary, just don't get all melodramatic. I was emotional when my Grandfather died.
Phoenix, I'm not a big fan of make-up on a woman. My wife wears what I call accent make-up. A little mascara and eyeliner and a very natural lipstick. Thats when she actually wears it at all. I think shes stunning without it. The thing I don't like is the press-on French Manicure nails. It's been over done. And yes it is obvious that the nails are fake.
Safeat2nd, Chief Handyman of Destiny
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Greetings, all!
A few things I missed...and good ones, too!
Crying: I cry every now and again...usually at movies or songs. I have never cried from being hurt (physically or emotionally)since I was a wee lad, but it wasn't from being taught to "suck it up" at an early age...I was too concerned with the problem at hand to initiate the waterworks.
Now, I have cried because I have been happy. By that, I mean tears in my eyes type thing...that felt good.
I do not deal well with tears in others, though. I become completely useless when someone cries. My only thought is how to get them to stop crying.
I like makeup in small doses. Tammy Faye Baker is a no-no. My wife generally doesn't wear makeup; she does her eyes for work, and "dolls-up" for the ocassional special event. She has a natural beauty (I may be biased, but it is the truth...she is beautiful) and make-up on her has the "BAM!" effect. She does this thing that makes her eyes look huge...usually reduces me to just uttering "damn!" alot...
I do no think all women need makeup and I am a lover of natural beauty. However, there are some women who need something...
And to go along with that...there are some men that should also be required to wear makeup!
Alright, I shall be back tomorrow to chat with y'all again!
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I finally cried about the breakup today.
This morning I woke up with my friend instead of former Significant Other and while we cuddled it felt akward. I cuddle with people all the time I just love human contact.
Those little things I never relized now seem enormious! Knowing exactly how to kiss him, that quick peck everytime he leaves the house, cuddlig with him without any sort of akward rearranging, the way we reach for each others hands when we're walking. I cried for all of that today. Then put it to bed forever.
Like the idiot I can sometimes be and I went to his new place to say hi. Looking around I noticed that there is no longer space for me in his life. Someone else's pictures will be in those picture frames someone else will someday take my place take his heart from me. I want this I really do but.....when you're not quite 22 four years is a really long time.
This is a lot harder then I anticipated.
An I carried such a torch.......For the Dark Lord
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Copilot, I am not sure what to say. Stay your course and things will be better just seems like a trite comment after your post. We are here for you, and you have our love and support.
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